Psychologists believe that the causes of tension and anxiety in children are very complex; it can be genetic in nature or caused by the acquired environment. Innate temperament plays a role. Many mothers have experienced their babies showing extreme shyness at 4 months of age, crying or being afraid when they see strangers. After growing up a bit, some of them still show sensitive, low self-confidence, self-esteem and strong personality traits, easy to be nervous and worry. Some parents wonder why their children are so “abrasive” when there is no difference between them and others. Here, innate temperament does play a role. Parents are too demanding. Research shows that the role of environmental factors is becoming increasingly important. Most children with anxious temperaments have parents who are also prone to anxiety or emotional impatience. It is not difficult to imagine that parents who are often nervous about things send a message of anxiety to their children; and parents who are emotionally unstable and scold their children will lack a sense of security and stability when their children are neglected, scolded, and denied for long periods of time. A more common anxiety today is the pressure parents put on their children by over-educating them – what other children can’t do their children have to know, and what other children can do their children have to be more proficient. With such high standards as “not to lose at the starting line,” it is difficult for parents to satisfy and recognize their children’s performance, so they ask their children to do better over and over again, and over time, the children’s self-confidence is damaged and they become restless because they cannot achieve their desired goals. If parents supplement this with intimidation or rough punishments, the child will seem even more nervous about doing a certain thing. Overprotective and coddling. Overprotection and coddling of the child, so that he lacks the development of independence, is also a cause of anxiety in children. She was the “little princess” of her family since she was a child, and was hardly ever wronged, even when she went to kindergarten where her aunt worked. a year ago, when her aunt settled abroad with her husband, Xiao Yu did not want to go to kindergarten for a while, and then she started biting her nails when she reluctantly went. When they are alone in a new environment, in a new situation, or in contact with strangers, they may become confused about how to cope with the situation and experience mood swings and excessive worry. Parental disharmony. There are also many children whose anxiety insinuates disharmony in their parents’ relationship. For example, if parents have a rift in their marital relationship, they themselves are not willing to face it, but compensate for the sense of defect in their marriage by raising the demands on their children; children will also subconsciously cooperate with their parents at this time, showing some symptoms of anxiety, so that the conflict at home is transferred to their own bodies and willingly do the “scapegoat”, thus avoiding parental The breakdown of the relationship.