What is character? In the Dictionary, it is explained as a more stable psychological characteristic of personality that is mainly expressed in a person’s attitude and behavior towards reality. In other words, character determines the way people’s attitudes and behaviors, is the core part of personality, and can best express individual differences. Character has a complex structure, including: 1, the characteristics of the attitude toward reality and oneself, such as honesty or hypocrisy, humility or pride, etc. 2, will characteristics, such as brave or cowardly, decisive or indecisive, etc. 3, emotional characteristics of emotions, such as enthusiasm or indifference, cheerfulness or depression, etc. 4, the rational characteristics of emotions. Such as quick thinking, profound, logical or slow thinking, shallow, no logic, etc. How is the formation of personality? The factors of personality formation is very complex, mainly in the following three aspects, respectively, genetic factors, developmental factors in adulthood and the influence of the social environment factors. It can be said that it is both from its own factors, but also has the corresponding environmental influence. Therefore, from this perspective, personality can be changed, but it needs a lot of quantitative change after the qualitative change. The first 5 years of life is the key to character formation. To be precise, by the age of about 5 years, personality formation is basically 80% complete, or by the age of 5 years, a person’s personality is basically set, and the rest, to be further supplemented and shaped in later life experiences. From this point of view, whoever raises a child, whoever lives with a child for a long time, is the creator and determiner of the child’s personality. For example, a person who is irritable is not born with a tendency to get angry or like to get angry, but he or she grows up living with a loved one who loves to get angry and lose his or her temper, and lives in an angry environment every day, and slowly, over time, imitates or learns the habit of getting angry and irritable. Therefore, it is reasonable to infer that a child’s personality is a copy and microcosm of his or her parents’ personality. Is it possible to change personality? Many people believe that, out of narcissism, once a person’s personality is established, it is constant and works automatically. People will instinctively protect and affirm it. Because even an imperfect character is seen as a part of oneself, a character, and a fixed pattern of adaptation to the environment, it is safer to have than nothing. Therefore, people will build their philosophical system of life around the character formed from childhood, which is compatible with their character, and protect their personality as firmly as they protect their lives, no matter how distorted and inefficient those personalities may seem to outsiders. Therefore, we should remember that no matter how willing we are intellectually to change ourselves, our subconscious mind, instinctively, will still make all kinds of impediments. Whenever we present a reason for change, there are immediately a hundred reasons against it waiting in the mind. Therefore, we can now get a preliminary view that “changing one’s character is a very difficult goal to achieve”, because it will be strongly resisted and opposed by a part of our own human nature. Since a person’s personality is fundamentally difficult to change, it is more realistic that people can only make limited adjustments within certain limits. The change of personality is governed by the following factors: first, is the age constraints. The plasticity of personality, and age is inversely proportional. The older you are, the more difficult it is to change. According to psychoanalysis, the upper age limit for personality change is about 42-47 years old. However, this is not absolute, very individual in more than 70 years old, but also can make some personality adjustments. The second constraint on personality change is whether the initial personality has the potential to change. There are three indicators to measure the potential for personality change: 1. whether one has the power to criticize and reject one’s own character defects – that is, whether one is “ego-dissonant”, which is the Christian belief that one is born in sin, and one must kill oneself in order to be reborn; 2. whether one has sufficient power to change one’s character. For changing one’s character, whether one has enough spiritual energy – that is, whether one has enough “Lipitor”; 3. The ego function. The core mechanism of personality change is to shape personality through environmental stimuli or life experiences under the inner drive of seeking change. In other words, personality change is shaped by life experiences, and life and time are the sculptors of personality. This can also be divided into several aspects such as natural experiences, psychotherapeutic experiences, and religious experiences. In this, the most important is natural life experience and experience. The best teacher, is life experience. Life experience, can also be divided into daily experience and extraordinary experience. The so-called extraordinary experience is the experience of extraordinary intensity, close to the limit of human tolerance, such as the feeling of frequent death or death experience, extreme heat and cold, loneliness, hunger, dangerous experience, etc. There are a small number of people who are stimulated by the extremely abnormal life experience and change their personality, change their attitude towards life and change their outlook on life. There are three major points that must be kept in mind on the roadmap to change your personality. The first is to temporarily accept your character flaws when you cannot change them. Self-blame and low self-esteem will not bring the slightest benefit to you. Besides, character defects are not our own fault, it is the work of our parents, we are just the bearer of fate and change. The second thing is, after fully accepting yourself, calmly analyze the strengths and weaknesses of your own character, and avoid them as much as possible. The third point is to learn to wait and look for opportunities, the so-called wait, is fully aware that “change is a function of time”, sometimes listen to its nature, is the best way to change, but the opportunity always appears in front of those who are ready. In short, like it or not, everyone has their own unique character, and each character has a certain degree of reasonableness and adaptability, along with the hopes and possibilities that come with it. We cannot choose what kind of character our parents give us, but we can choose to “find the hope that suits our character and do what we can do within the limited limits of our character.”