Core Tip
It’s only two days before school starts, and Toto suddenly starts to get sick. Mom checked Duo’s winter vacation homework and found that most of it was still incomplete. She found that she had not finished most of her homework, but she knew that Toto had been up all night catching up on her homework and was complaining of headaches, stomach pains and nausea. Mom recalls that this happens every time school starts.
These “emotional illnesses” of children are mostly found in primary and secondary school students. Because of the fear of the school year after the learning tension, stress, coupled with a large number of unfinished holiday homework, easy to cause gastrointestinal dysfunction, etc., collectively known as “school phobia”, is a short-term psychological problems.
Children lack the necessary psychological preparation for the start of the school year is prone to anxiety
In the face of the start of the school year, the comfortable lazy sleep, exciting TV programs, unrestrained play and entertainment will be replaced by English words, essay questions, mathematical and chemical formulas. During the holidays, children are in a relatively relaxed and casual state in all aspects of their body and mind, while they are about to enter a high-intensity, fast-paced learning life, which inevitably makes them resistant to the start of school.
After school starts, children need to immediately transfer to the state of intense learning, some children will be happy to go to school, because they feel that school is attractive, have good friends, can learn new knowledge; while some children will appear some fear psychology, such as bad mood, irritability, tantrums, and even some dizziness, headaches and other physical discomfort, some children show bedwetting, sucking fingers, etc.. This is a very natural psychological reaction.
In the process of environmental change, children who are prone to adaptation problems are these types: students who are more selfish and not well liked in school; students who are under great pressure to study and are demanding of themselves in all aspects; students who are about to enter an unfamiliar environment; students who have low psychological quality and have difficulties in adapting to the environment.
Symptomatic treatment
If students lack the necessary psychological preparation for the upcoming study life, it will easily lead to anxiety and fear. This is mainly because the carefree life of the holidays will form a sharp contrast with the intense study after the start of the school year, thus causing a psychological shadow to the start of school.
In this regard, parents should take a positive and optimistic attitude, motivate and guide their children, talk about school, peers and the new semester, say more words of appreciation and encouragement, give children confidence from a positive point of view, so that children feel the happiness of going to school and look forward to the start of school.
The right treatment for your child’s bad mood in a step-by-step manner
How to face your child’s emotion of starting school? Find the cause, deal with the symptoms, step by step, do not force pressure.
Performance one: students who are under pressure to learn, especially demanding perfection, especially concerned about their performance in school, especially care about the evaluation of their teachers and parents, so even small things will still be self-imposed strict, once the target is not met, resulting in psychological pressure, and lead to emotional problems.
Performance 2: In the face of the more self-centered students, parents should pay attention to the development of children’s social skills and group living from an early age. Nowadays, most of them are only children, which makes children less inclusive and less likely to get along with other children. Therefore, parents should teach their children how to get along with their classmates, how to be tolerant and self-protective, in addition to grasping their children’s achievements, so that they will not feel lonely.
Performance 3: Students who are about to face an unfamiliar environment will inevitably experience some psychological frustration, which may be the isolation of classmates, the strictness of teachers, or various problems that parents cannot imagine. In this case, escape, perhaps, is an instinctive choice for children to protect themselves.
Treating the symptoms
Parents should be proportional to their children’s requirements, and can step up the requirements according to the child’s situation, breaking down the goals and completing them gradually, thus relieving the child’s psychological pressure. Pay attention to cultivating children’s social skills and joyfulness from a young age, do not give children too much mental pressure, interest-based learning, can make children grow and become healthy.
When a child wants to hide, parents should do is to find ways to let the child learn to face, or help the child to overcome the difficulties he wants to avoid, emotions should be unclogged rather than blocked, sometimes find a solution to the problem, it does require parents to be well intentioned.
Positive self-psychological suggestion can overcome difficulties and fears
Suggestions are implicit, indirect ways to influence people’s psychology and behavior, so that people act in a certain way or accept a certain opinion, so that his thoughts, behavior and their own will to conform. Suggestion can greatly induce human potential.
There are many ways of suggestion, and in terms of its effects, there are positive and negative suggestions. For example, before the child goes to bed, the mother admonishes, “Drink too much water before bedtime, and beware of bedwetting.” Sure enough, she was right. This is a negative verbal suggestion.
Self-suggestion has a great psychological effect on people, and sometimes it can even work miracles. For example, if a student who takes the college entrance exam consistently maintains a positive self-reference, telling himself that he can definitely reach his goal through hard work, this positive mindset will overcome the anxiety brought by the college entrance exam.
In our life, we will face many sudden and difficult stressful events, at this time, pay attention not to be subjected to negative environmental hints, verbal hints and behavioral hints of others, but should appropriately use positive self-referential methods to make ourselves courageous and confident for unexpected results.
Symptomatic treatment
The use of action can also be self-positive suggestion, such as exam tension, do a prayer or other actions, so that they reach a special state of mental fluency; can also be their own psychological pain to others moderate confession, after which will receive unexpected results. You can also use the advantageous comparison method to imagine those who are more frustrated, more difficult and in a worse situation than yourself, and gradually transform your out-of-control emotions into a calm mind. The frequent use of “positive self-reference” can help us overcome difficulties and fears, happy learning, life.