Dr. Yuan: Hello! I am a migrant worker far from home, working for 5 years, not only do not have much money balance, but also from the hometown boyfriend also fell out. 5 years, with the desire to succeed, but repeatedly hit the wall …… see together out of the fellow villagers are very successful, really have a kind of indescribable hard, sometimes want to die. But reason tells me not to do so. What should I do? (Letter redacted) Huainan First People’s Hospital Psychological Counseling Center Yuan Yuning: Hello! Thank you for your trust. I have deep sympathy and understanding for your situation! There are so many setbacks that a person suffers on the road of life, there are career, love, etc. For you, you have encountered both of these problems. With you alone in far from home, to bear these challenges and pressure alone is touching, because some people of your age, they also have these problems, but they have parents around, have friends with her, spiritual support will be much greater, while you are a person is not easy indeed. A person’s emotional frustration is a very common thing for young people today, I think, in your side, there must be many such stories, some more than you aggrieved, some reasons are unbelievable. The reason you were rejected I think is just a matter of distance, the other is that the two sides do not know each other very well, so and when it is an experience, because you are still in love for the first time. Why can’t you go home for a walk at this point? In the family you will get some care and security, at this time you are needed. It is important for a person to have a home, especially with someone they like in their hometown. But you should know that the path of life is full of confusion, and in the modern business world, some people say that home is on wheels, and you may be a man of action, or your future lover is an ambitious person. So the idea of expecting to be in the country if you want a local will sometimes not come true and will be disappointing, I guess, to go with the flow, don’t you think? The more experience a person has, the more experience she will have. Nowadays, there are a lot of things that young people in the society jump from one job to another, not to mention the workers, even some people in the establishments do the same. I think the modern view of the career, not set in stone, but constantly enrich themselves with various experiences, do not think that their own such experience is the performance of failure, but for some rehearsals towards success. It has become a consensus among all that young people are at home in all four corners of the world. In many places along the coast, there is a tendency for outsiders to outnumber locals. Aren’t those outsiders in contact with the locals just like you? Likewise, in some of our units, there are some locals but they can’t get along with the locals either, which is related to his personality, such as introversion, low self-esteem, etc. So I think what you change is not the environment, but your introverted and unconfident personality. Otherwise, it is that you go back home to work, it is not necessarily that you will get along with others very easily. To change one’s character, it takes a lot of courage, of which “fear of what to do” is very crucial. Do not think that people will reject you, you have to have the courage to let yourself be in contact with others. Learn to take the initiative to say hello to others, take the initiative to help others, take the initiative to find some topics to discuss with others, learn to sacrifice some of their own interests. In some public occasions, be brave enough to publish some of your own suggestions and requests, so that others feel your presence. You still have a long way to go, and you may still have a lot to learn, which, I think, is the way to success for every young person. We all have a desire for a stable life, but the world is not destined to give us that, and most of us are making a living in foreign countries. Look at the people and things around you, most of them are. So face him and let yourself mature. As long as you have your ideals in mind, you will get out of the swamp of life. Finally, I wish you all the best!