If a man can control his ejaculation process, then he can enjoy high levels of sexual arousal in any situation and choose when to ejaculate. He can let sexual arousal reach a high level and then temporarily drop back to a lower level, then let it rise again, then drop again, and go through such repeated fluctuations until he wants to ejaculate himself. In other words, he can keep the level of sexual arousal at the plateau level for a long time and can complete the ejaculation reflex in time when his wife feels satisfied. A quality sex life does not depend only on how long it lasts, but on how well both partners achieve synchronized sexual satisfaction. Therefore, male ejaculation control plays an important role in a quality sex life. If men cannot effectively control ejaculation, sexual excitement will rocket from zero point and reach orgasm quickly, even without a significant plateau, which directly affects the satisfaction of both partners with intercourse. Lack of ejaculation control is manifested in a variety of ways, some men can’t control it no matter what sexual activity they are in; some only ejaculate prematurely during intercourse, but not during other sexual activities such as masturbation; others have ejaculation too quickly in specific circumstances. Many men believe they cannot control ejaculation, but in fact, through some psychological and behavioral training, most men can still control the feeling of ejaculation. Ejaculatory control is built on two abilities: the ability to focus more fully on your own feelings of sexual arousal and tension; and the ability to change your behavior to prevent or delay ejaculation. Ejaculatory control training and development Ejaculatory control is something that needs to be learned to master, just like riding a bicycle, the car does not automatically stand still, you must learn to balance it. When a man enters into sexual activity, the eroticism or sexual tension in his body rises or increases, and to enhance this perception, he must focus on the sensations and feelings in his body. Men can influence their ejaculation during the ejaculation control period through behavioral changes, such as slowing down the rhythm of pumping, adjusting the position and angle of intercourse, taking a break midway, adjusting breathing, and diverting attention to other methods. Since ejaculation control is a matter of technique or habit, its prognosis is not too bad, and 80% of men can master this technique after 8-12 weeks of treatment and training. Make the most of your mind In order to get the most out of somatic exercises, men must keep their minds focused on their own sensations. Men who lack ejaculatory control tend to place undue blame on their own bodies for rapid ejaculation, which certainly reflects reality, but also creates stress and interference for behavior change. Correcting this poor consciousness will facilitate behavior change, so dispel your negative notions and continually reinforce the positive ones. For example, constantly imagine that you have gained the desired control and count 30 to 90 seconds during each sexual activity, imagining how well you did and how you might do better next time. Rehearsing this successful process several times a day in the morning before waking up or going to bed will reinforce the positive perceptions of men. Deep breathing exercises When men are more aroused, they are more likely to have shallow breathing, shortness of breath and rapid heartbeat, which in turn leads to rapid ejaculation. Deep breathing can help men dissipate tension during sexual arousal and help with ejaculation control. The key to deep breathing is to be deep, relaxed and brisk. Some men are more tense than usual when breathing deeply, tensing the muscles of the chest, neck and shoulders, and even the muscles of the arms, so that it is impossible to talk about deep breathing, and sometimes even normal breathing is restricted. Correct relaxed breathing should be the typical abdominal breathing exercise, when inhaling, the stomach to bulge up, exhale, the abdomen to retract. If you cannot do this, you need to learn and master this method. You can think of your stomach as a balloon that bulges up when you inhale and deflates when you exhale. Once this method is mastered, you can do this exercise as much as possible. This deep breathing exercise can be done during sexual intercourse, but of course this has to be a process of habituation and adaptation, as it may go against one’s subjective wishes. Deep breathing can also be done by imagining the inhaled air going down into the pelvis and relaxing the muscles in the area, the more relaxed they are the harder it will be to ejaculate. Masturbation is also a form of ejaculation control training Men masturbate in a variety of ways, the most classic is to stroke or rub one hand back and forth along the shaft of the penis, which is ideal when training ejaculation control. Some men masturbate by rubbing their penis on bedding or other objects (hands-free masturbation), which is not recommended and is not suitable for ejaculation training. The most common method of masturbation with the assistance of a female partner is to move – stop – squeeze and pinch method, that is, before sexual intercourse, the female partner to stimulate the penis with her hand, when men feel increased arousal and ejaculation, immediately stop stimulation and thumb pinch penis ventral foreskin ties near the urethra, ejaculation feeling will immediately subside, after the ejaculation reflex completely subside, and then repeat the above actions. You can train for 5-10 minutes before each sexual intercourse, and a certain ejaculatory control can be formed after 6-8 weeks of training.