Why can’t I get an erection the more I want one? “Why can’t I get an erection the more I want one?” This is probably the most common question asked by erectile dysfunction patients to their doctors. Erectile dysfunction can be divided into three main categories: psychological erectile dysfunction, organic erectile dysfunction and mixed (i.e. both psychological and organic factors) erectile dysfunction. An authoritative study in China showed that: psychological erectile dysfunction accounted for 39%, organic erectile dysfunction accounted for 15.8%, and mixed erectile dysfunction accounted for 45.2%. It can be seen that at least 84.2% of patients with erectile dysfunction have problems related to psychological factors. Li Juntao, Department of Male Medicine, The First Affiliated Hospital of Henan College of Traditional Chinese Medicine Incompatibility in the daily relationship between men and women. For example, the relationship between men and women is not intimate, not harmonious, not communication, not faithful, and even mutual disgust, will certainly lead to the failure of sexual life; sexual stimulation is inappropriate or insufficient. For example, some men require direct strong touch penis to feel “cool enough”, “strong enough” to stimulate erection, and the woman only to give kisses, hugs, touch, obviously this is not all men want the appropriate, adequate sexual stimulation, which may lead to Erection failure; bad sexual experiences. For example, guilt and unwarranted fear of past masturbation history or unsuccessful sexual experiences can also have a negative impact on erection; the influence of inhibiting factors. For example, stress, depression and anxiety at work and in life can also affect the erection of the penis. These are all common psychological factors that affect or cause difficulty in getting an erection. Even if the initial erectile dysfunction is indeed caused by purely organic reasons, the harsh reality of not being able to have normal sex for a long time will cause a setback in men’s self-confidence, psychological gloom, full of frustration, a long time of bad emotional implication, will also aggravate the failure of erection, a vicious circle, bad psychological emotions and erectile failure interact, mutual cause and effect, accumulate. Above, I have introduced to you in detail the role of psychological factors in the occurrence of erectile dysfunction. The human is a flesh and blood senior animal, is a thought and feeling. So erectile dysfunction, is undoubtedly a “physical and mental disease”, the psychological state of good or bad, on the recovery of normal erection is vital. A normal person’s penis erection can be done at will, rarely will there be a “scheduling failure” of “wanting an erection but not being able to get one”. When the sexual desire is aroused, the penis will naturally become engorged with blood and swollen, “angry, large, firm and full”. But erectile dysfunction patients can’t do what they want in most cases and can’t complete this natural process successfully. At this point, many men become anxious, downhearted, and even passive avoidant, afraid to have sex. When they do need an erection, these patients do tend to try very hard to get one, but they can’t. Why? Why? At this point we might want to go back and think about the normal erection process. Does a normal person think about how to achieve an erection during the erection process? Obviously not! Normal people are filled with images of passion during sexual arousal, not thinking about how to achieve an erection. To put it bluntly, the more you think about how to get an erection, sometimes you don’t get an erection and it’s hard to get what you want, but you get an erection when you think about women. So when dealing with the problem of erectile dysfunction, the patient should relax, try to have sex naturally, have confidence and normalcy in the treatment process, do not pay too much attention to the process, experience the erection of the penis all day long, try to force the penis to erect, step by step, give yourself too much mental burden. The effort to force yourself to think about getting an erection or thinking about how you can get an erection is actually a bad mindset and an unbearable pressure, which will be counterproductive and will eventually affect the erection of the penis. So the treatment process needs to pay attention to maintaining a normal state of mind, which will be beneficial in restoring erections. To achieve a natural and full erection, you should first put down the psychological baggage and let the erection return to its natural nature, so that the erection can come with the sex, and the erection may be in the “next moment of inadvertence”.