The solution for children lying?

  1, first of all, normalize the baby’s lying phenomenon, and we should see that lying is actually a stage and sign of mental growth, indicating that the child’s emotional world and language skills have been further developed.  2, the degree of lying will certainly vary between different babies, parents different tension and anxiety. Parents who are overly anxious will be very concerned about the phenomenon of lying in their children, and accompanied by corrective behavior. In fact, this itself is conveying anxiety to the baby. A more persistent and excessive focus on lying can send a signal to the baby that “mommy thinks I’m bad, mommy doesn’t like me!” . Lying may become more entrenched and be accompanied by low self-esteem in the baby.  3. If the baby’s lying does get the parent’s attention. Then how do we handle it? Parents should not rush to correct and confront the child at this point, “I saw you break the cup, why are you lying!” Such hostile and aggressive expressions are like adding fuel to the fire. A very good way to do this is to squat down and put yourself in your baby’s shoes and see the situation from his perspective. Play with your baby, remember, babies grow up playing, especially in different role plays. You can play with your baby after the cup has been broken for a long time, when your baby is no longer anxious about it, and invite him to play the role of a big brother/sister, while you play the role of a little baby who suddenly breaks the cup by accident, asking the big brother “Is the baby still scared at this time? Who are you afraid of? What to do? Help to come up with ideas”. So imitate the situation, to stimulate the child’s understanding of the matter. Then you play the role of big brother / big sister, the baby as another child, together for the broken cup baby comfort and ideas, and implant your thoughts on the matter. In short parents keep the principle of patience and play and can develop many methods creatively. This approach is also very helpful in dealing with the many other bumps in the road that babies encounter in their development.  4. Finally, when the situation still concerns you after the adjustments you have made, it may be that the problem requires outside intervention and involves a larger systemic adjustment and finding professional support is necessary.  In conclusion, lying at this age is a good thing and we need to normalize our view of it, it marks the further development of the child’s mind. As it develops, this type of lying will decrease significantly. If it causes you concern, you can make some adjustments as described above and consult a professional if necessary.