What are we after, what are we busy for in our life, when we have children, we have the answer, children are the biggest property God gives to parents, we should manage it well and build a loving environment for our children to grow up. Give our children full love —— unconditional love Write to our children ——- your arrival is the greatest blessing for parents, you are the crystallization of our love, your arrival sublimates our love, let us experience that there is such a love in the world —– unconditional love; before you were born, mom and dad chose you, we fell in love with you before we saw you, when we didn’t know you were a boy or a girl, we had already decided to raise you, we had accepted you when we didn’t know whether you were healthy or not. Mom and dad love you not because of your looks or weight, our love has nothing to do with your health or your future, we choose to love you just because you are our child. The love of active choice, which is the most precious love in the world, is an unconditional love , which God gave to us and we gave to you, a love that requires commitment and a lot of giving, but you are worthy of such love from us. Full parental love creates secure children. Much of the deepest love and hate in adult marital love relationships is related to the attachment patterns in their families of origin as children. Sooner or later in life, everyone asks the important question: “Do I deserve to be loved? Will you be there to protect me in times of crisis?” A child who is “regularly” and “consistently” assured of “appropriate” parental love from an early age will gradually develop a “secure “Attachment”. ”Secure”: Because of the love they receive from an early age, “secure” children feel secure in the external world and develop an attitude of “I have value, you have value” toward people.1 They can easily like others, trust others, and have a positive, affirming, or appreciative attitude toward what others say and do, and are less likely to misunderstand or suspect others; they are not self-centered and are more sensitive to the psychological needs of others. 3. Because they have a sound “sense of self,” they are more able to accept differences and allow others to “be themselves. In other words, when other people’s opinions, feelings, preferences, and ways of doing things are different from theirs, they don’t feel threatened, and they don’t look at others with displeasure and force them to change, forcing them to be exactly the same as they are in order to feel safe and comfortable. 4. They are emotionally stable but not rigid, easy to see the benefits of others, not to take advantage of people, and not stingy to truly appreciate others, so often with the “safe” type of people, we can become more sound psychologically without realizing it. Because “safe” people allow [giving love, so naturally others return a lot of love, creating a virtuous circle. May all parents become safe havens for their children’s hearts and minds.