We always think that our soul can control our body and our will can control our actions. Yes, most of the time we do, except for some “unexpected moments”. This is when an unspeakable impulse rises up inside our mind, as if it were a hurricane sweeping through everything, with a huge energy that keeps us spinning like a gyroscope, pushing us to do something against our reason. There are many people around us who are controlled by different impulses, knowing that they are not right and should not be, but are unable to control themselves. This phenomenon is called “impulse control disorder”. According to statistics, impulse control disorder affects the lives of 15% of Americans (nearly 35,002,000 people). They are caught in the hurricane of impulse 1, rich shoplifter – Winona Ryder Hollywood star Winona Ryder in Beverly Hills, a high-end department store suspected of stealing a total of$ 5,000 worth of clothes, was sentenced to 480 hours of community service and fined 10,000. million dollars. Winona has a long history of stealing, and the wait staff at major hotels in the U.S. and U.K. have learned this the hard way. Whether it is the bath towels in the bathroom bathrobe, or the suite of vases, silverware, Winona often grabbed and took for themselves, so that the waiters can not wait to stick everything on the wall, so as not to disappear without trace. She had also “taken” the clothes of the clothing store several times before, but were lucky to escape, not prosecuted, this time finally paid the price. The judge’s sentence also included an order that Winona must undergo counseling, because in court her defense attorney said she suffered from impulse control disorder – kleptomania. Kleptomania 1, the uncontrollable desire to steal, recurring theft. 2. The theft is not for financial gain, nor does it have any other explicit purpose (e.g., revenge, bad publicity, or attention, etc.), but is purely motivated by an irresistible inner urge. After each theft will feel pleasure and satisfaction, if not steal will continue to be nervous and anxious). 3, most of the things stolen are of little value, after stealing or collect or give away or throw away. 4, this behavior generally begins to appear from childhood or adolescence, according to case data, kleptomania accounts for about 5% of all cases of theft, of which 70% are female. 2, the green field gambler – Owen Who does not remember Owen just debut look? The young heroic, clean and shy, seized a lot of women’s admiration and affection, known as the “good boy” model. But what many people do not understand is that this acclaimed “golden boy” is England’s national team’s favorite gambling money. The English media revealed that Owen spent £2.2 million on gambling in two years, mainly on horse racing and betting on football, and he once bet £15,500 on a day of gambling on horse racing. During his time at Liverpool, he once bet on rival Manchester United to win the Champions League. Owen’s name has become inseparable from that of a gambler. In fact, the term “gambler” is morally offensive, we can call him “pathological gambling” – a kind of impulse control disorder – without personal feelings. Pathological gambling 1. Uncontrollable desire and strong interest in gambling, irritability before gambling, excitement when gambling, and relaxation after gambling. 2. The purpose of gambling is not to gain financial benefits. The mind is always thinking about how to get money (and even criminal activities, such as theft, signing false accounts) for their next gambling, for this reason will not hesitate to lie and cheat, and even steal and rob. 3, gambling directly and seriously affect the patient’s family, work and relationships, but can not extricate themselves, although may try to quit gambling many times, but ultimately still unsuccessful. Are you a shopaholic Shopaholic – compulsive shopping, is a non-specific impulse control disorder. Don’t laugh at the exaggeration of the plot in the movie, look through your closet, those clothes, shoes and bags that are still in the corner all the time are the ironclad evidence that you are out of self-control in the first place. Are you a shopaholic? 1, you often shop, buy more than you can afford, buy things you don’t need, or shop much longer than expected? 2, do you have the urge to buy things? 3.Does the idea of shopping or the urge to shop bother you? That is, do you always think about shopping or have the urge to shop, and hope that these thoughts or impulses will decrease? 4. Does the act or urge to shop cause you a lot of pain? 5. Does the act or urge to shop interfere greatly with your life in some way? If you answer “yes” to three or more of the above questions, you need to reflect on your shopping behavior, because you may be a potential shopaholic. Other impulse control disorders include: 1. Hair plucking – consciously or unconsciously plucking hair, eyebrows, beard, armpit hair or pubic hair, resulting in the absence of hair. 2. 2, arsonism – there is a strong urge to set fire to burn things, from the process of arson to get pleasure. 3. Intermittent rage disorder – the urge to engage in repeated, uncontrollable berserk behavior, resulting in injury or destruction of objects. Let me how to stop The person out of control is often driven by an overly strong desire to engage in certain impulsive behaviors that either conflict with social norms or cause harm to themselves. The purpose of the behavior, however, is merely to obtain momentary pleasure, without any other reasonable and realistic reason. Who fuels impulsivity? Why do we let impulses control us? What adds fuel to the fire of impulsiveness and makes it burn more and more? 1. Self-control fails and instinct prevails Freud believed that people are driven by unconscious sexual and aggressive instincts, but under normal circumstances people can control themselves. However, when the conflict between the ego and superego is too intense, such as when the ego’s impulses are too strong or the superego suppresses the ego too much, self-control temporarily fails and the impulses are transformed into behaviors. Impulsive behavior can satisfy desire and produce pleasure, so that people will lose control again and again. 2, relieve pain, quench thirst Some experts believe that the meaning of impulsive behavior is not to get pleasure, but in the relief of pain. People try to make themselves free from anxiety, depression and other internal pain through this type of behavior to get a sense of relief. 3, imitation learning, you do I also do Childhood upbringing, parenting style on the psychological impact of adulthood is crucial. If parents are short-tempered and have difficulty controlling their impulses, children will also learn the wrong way. In addition, there are also social factors: “shoplifting” was once prevalent among young upper-class women in Paris in the 19th century, so why did “shoplifting” spread? Experts analyze the reason is that it is the attention of society triggered other women to imitate, just to Zhang Guorong after the suicide, the media attention makes subsequent suicides more inclined to choose the way to jump. How to throw cold water on impulsive behavior – behavioral therapy If you are prone to lose control, you can use some behavioral therapy methods to implement self-help themselves: 1, learn relaxation techniques: out-of-control people in the impulsive shopping (stealing, gambling, Internet, etc.) before there is usually uncontrollable tension, in order to release tension, had to vent through impulsive behavior. And through breathing exercises and muscle relaxation training can reduce this tension, thereby eliminating impulsive behavior. 2, control the environment: by changing the environment to reduce impulsive behavior. For example, for impulsive shoppers, try to avoid going to the mall, or do not go alone, it is best to shop in the company of others. So that even if there is a strong impulse, there are no conditions for implementation. 3, rewards and punishments: the use of the principle of conditioned reflexes to help themselves to develop good behavior and quit bad behavior. The first step is to develop a behavior change plan, such as not shopping for a week. If completed on the reward (but not in the form of shopping) is not completed to receive punishment. Over time develop a habit. If it is already quite, quite serious If someone close to you is already quite serious out of control, trying to solve the problem yourself is like trying to get this out of your hair off the ground, how to choose a professional treatment? 1, psychoanalytic treatment: refuses to say that this is the only psychotherapy that can completely treat impulse control disorder, because it promotes personality change. But the lengthy treatment that lasts 5 years, once a week, is something few people have the experience, financial resources and time to pay for. 2. Cognitive therapy: People who are out of control often mistakenly believe that out-of-control behavior is the way to solve problems in their lives. Cognitive therapy is to change these irrational thoughts with the help of a doctor, so that the out-of-control person can clearly identify other ways to cope with stress or bad feelings, such as speaking out about unpleasant feelings, or regulating themselves in helpful ways such as exercising, making friends, or developing hobbies. When cognitive therapy and behavioral therapy are combined, the effect will be better. 3, medication: It is now believed that the lack of certain monoamines in the brain is the physiological cause of loss of control, so the treatment uses antidepressants, as in the movie Cecilia Cheung medicine taking Prozac to raise the level of pentothal (i.e. serotonin). 4, self-help groups: out-of-control people who can form recovery groups, through mutual sharing can feel that their problems are not unique, to reduce self-blame and a sense of despair. The group can also provide emotional support and behavioral supervision, turning the “lone soldier” of the out-of-control person into a “group battle”. If this is not possible in the real world, similar groups can be formed online.