Ms. Zhang’s family has such a situation, the child is 3 years old, previously has been brought by the grandmother, the child has always had to feed adults to eat, not to feed will not eat. Just feed, but also to coax to eat while playing, from this room to eat to another room, a meal down, no one hour simply can not finish, grandmother made it very hard, the child is not raised as expected, every physical examination are a little thin. Grandmother is old and not well, really can not stand it, can only “leave” in the middle, ask the grandmother to come over to help with the child. After the grandmother came, she thought the child might be indigestion, and should go to the doctor. After the doctor looked, he prescribed some drugs to control digestion and told parents to stop feeding and let the child eat quietly on his own. The grandmother strongly agreed with the doctor that children should not be fed like this and that there should be a rule for eating. The first few days were fine, and the child was finally willing to eat on his own. However, within a few days, the mother took the child to see the grandmother, unpleasant things happened, the grandmother heard that the old in-laws let the child eat on their own, really angry, so small children do not feed, do you want to starve her to death, this is certainly not possible. Hurry up and make more delicious food for the child, and feed the baby grandson well. After eating, grandmother felt that the food was not enough, and hurriedly took some cookies, snacks, to bed at night, and gave the child to drink 100 ml of milk. This day the child really did not eat less, grandmother’s heart a little comfort. After two days at grandma’s house, grandma was relieved, but once the child came home, grandma was depressed because the child did not eat again, how can this be good, really should talk to her son and daughter-in-law. In the evening, Grandma told her son and daughter-in-law about the child’s feeding, hoping they could persuade Grandma not to feed her so much. But the son and daughter-in-law’s opinion was not unanimous. The daughter-in-law was very distressed by the child, and in her opinion, not feeding such a small child and letting her starve was simply not loving enough, and she could not bear to look at it. Just because they are too busy working, let the grandmother help bring, in the way, these words are not good to say. Grandma is trying to feed her child every day, what’s wrong with that. The son’s thoughts are different, he thinks it should not be fed, the child will certainly eat when hungry, he also told his mother-in-law, but she rejected him with a word, “What do you know, you have raised several children, my children are brought up this way, you see which grows badly.” Doctor’s Answer: The above scenario is constantly rehashed in many families, parents with different parenting philosophies, each sticking to their own words, and not giving in to each other, making a good home a wreck, there is much helplessness here. First of all, we need to find out whether the child can eat by himself or not. Children who are too young need to be fed by their parents, but after 2 years old, children can eat with a spoon, and at this time children can eat completely on their own. Initially, the spoon level is limited, and it is normal that the child may eat half of the food in the mouth and half on the floor, making it dirty. This is normal. Generally, after a few days, your child’s spooning level will increase dramatically, so please don’t worry about this. The child’s autonomy in eating will increase the child’s interest in eating. While enhancing the diet, it also develops the child’s hands-on ability and good eating habits, which is a good thing to do. In addition, the child’s eating habits are very important, must eat independently and quietly, do not eat while playing, which will affect the eating mood, and develop bad habits. How many meals a day should I eat? Three meals a day, one meal of twenty minutes is enough. If you want to eat, you eat, if you don’t want to eat, you don’t eat. Children’s appetite is the same as that of adults, sometimes it may be better, sometimes it may be worse, if the child does not want to eat, must eat less. If you have to force your child to eat at this time, you will eat, but it may cause indigestion. Eating one less meal has no effect on your child’s health. Three meals a day is the rhythm of the adult diet. 2-12 years old children, because they are in the developmental stage, the demand for energy is relatively high, and the capacity of the stomach is relatively small, the energy provided can not be successive, easy to starve in the middle, so you need to add the second between meals. The so-called intermeal is just a bite of something, a snack, or a cup of milk, it can be, as long as between the two meals to make a succession can be, intermeal is not the main meal, do not need too much volume. The intermeal is just a little bit, if the intermeal is eaten as a regular meal, it will destroy the normal rules of diet. Some parents may ask, how much should be eaten at one time. This question is not difficult to answer, most children know hunger and fullness, children know how much they should eat, parents just need to be careful to grasp. When eating, as long as the child is found to be less interested in food, this is full, do not eat anymore. That said, parents may still be uneasy, that how can we know whether the child ate in the end full it, this problem, we can use indicators to measure, we look at the child’s weight gain is clear, 2-12 years old children, the annual weight gain of 4 pounds, as long as it is not less than this value, it means that the child’s diet is reasonable. Of course, too low and too high, are not good things. In other words, the diet of 2 years old and above should be three meals and two points, these are enough for children, parents are not recommended to add any form of diet on top of this, such as drinking milk before bedtime, or extra meals, or extra milk at night, etc. These extra meals will not only not be used for the body, but will most likely become a burden on the stomach and intestines, which is what we call food accumulation. Meals are the main body of the diet, vegetables are necessary, meat and other recommended to eat less. Drink plain water. Fruits in moderation, one a day is enough. The child’s diet should have been so simple, now that conditions are better, parents always think to make the diet high-end complex, it is not necessary. Parents are advised to loosen up their children’s diet management, as well as to loosen up the tense family relationships, and live each day in harmony and happiness.