Let’s put aside endogenous and exogenous depression for the moment and discuss the psychological roots of neurotic depression alone. Neurotic depression has neither a physiological basis nor a significant mental stimulus, so what causes depression? As the name implies, “depression” means to suppress depression, that is, to control one’s depressed mood. Why is it that inhibiting depression can lead to depression? First of all, let’s think about why we need to control our depression? Why don’t we try our best to control it when we are happy? We want to be happy, we also want to see their friends and family is happy, when we see friends and family happy, we will also follow together happy, this is sharing; we do not want to be depressed, we also do not want to see their friends and family is depressed, when we see friends and family depressed, we will also follow together depressed, this is sharing. As the saying goes, “There are only one or two things that are as good as they should be, and there are always eight or nine things that are not as good as they should be”, and “happy every day” can only be a wish and aspiration. However, the cultural characteristics of human beings advocate presenting the happy side to others as much as possible, which contains not only the component of not wanting to cause trouble to others, but also the component of fearing others’ jokes in order to save face, in short, it has become a habit for people to hide their depression with a smile. This habit for adults, may not be very difficult, and even some people will be proud of this, the so-called city is very deep, is the meaning of this. However, for children who are not yet adults, it is not so easy: they will be written directly on the face, hanging on the mouth, manifested in words and actions, they are not yet good at controlling their emotions, and do not feel compelled to do everything possible to control their emotions, which is determined by the characteristics of children themselves, in fact, this relatively full expression of emotions, is one of the important factors in the psychological growth of children can be healthy. The problem is that many adults are accustomed to holding their own standards to children, and can only see happy, not sad, or worse, scolded children, but also do not allow children to cry, requiring children to do their best to control their negative emotions, not allowed to release, so that children gradually learn the habit of excessive control of emotions, and become the root cause of depression personality, from this point of view, it is adults taught children to excessively inhibit From this point of view, it is the adults who teach children to suppress their depressed emotions excessively, which leads to depression.