A. “Perfectionism” in the “compulsive” When it comes to perfectionism, people generally think of the pursuit of perfection, fault-finding. How can perfectionism be related to compulsion? In fact, perfectionism is often accompanied by compulsion. Traces of perfectionism can often be seen in compulsive people. For example, the repeated washing of hands in compulsive behavior is actually a perfectionist manifestation of the person’s desire to get extremely clean and perfect. For example, there is such a person in real life, they have a serious “perfectionist” tendency, that is, no matter what you do, must let others go according to their own ideas. They think that to do that perfect, and others must do as they think. This is actually a compulsive behavior, obviously this “perfectionism” will also bring a lot of trouble to work and life. Second, reduce stress to help avoid negative perfectionism Perfectionists are paranoid, serious, anxiety and other performance. We also note that perfectionism is associated with stress and emotions. When stress is high and mood is bad, it is easy to over pursue perfection; on the contrary, when stress is reduced and mood is good, it does not care so much about details. Therefore, this tip, we should pay attention to relieve the pressure in life, good at regulating emotions, so that perfectionism does not become a nuisance. Third, a special reminder: the lack of a life is a status quo Think about it, even if you do a perfect job, and what can be the result? Think about reaching that state of perfection, is it really that good? In fact, “inadequate” is a status quo in our lives, is real, within reach. At the same time, perfection is not perfect. Even if something is perfect, there are many (even more important) things that can never be perfect. Therefore, defects are a kind of life’s status quo, which exists objectively without human will. We should accept this status quo, and not to deliberately pursue perfection, otherwise it may lead to a life too tired, which makes you feel unhappy, the loss is not worth the gain. Fourth, how to cure the “heart disease” caused by perfectionism When perfectionism seriously affects normal life (according to professional terms, that is, “the individual’s social function is affected”), we should be alert to whether there is a more serious mental illness. You can go to a regular mental health, mental health clinic, do psychological counseling, so that doctors can check whether there are more serious diseases such as obsessive-compulsive disorder.