Every time I am very tired myself, every time I am upset about my children. I will think of this article, and my heart will be relieved and calm. Love, it needs to be moment to moment. How many years can we have our children?
At the age of 3, he went to kindergarten. Looking at his little strong back, my heart was joyful and a little bit heartbroken. After a long day of separation, your child is so happy to see you that he runs over to you and jumps into your arms. He said to you: “Mom, I miss you. At that moment, holding your child is like holding the whole world.
At the age of 6, he went to elementary school. It was such a memorable event that the child finally walked through the door of the school, which was a new chapter in his life. He is used to being separated from you for a day, and he likes to go to school every day, it is his preferred life. He even sometimes says: Mom, it’s so boring at home, there are no kids to play with me.
At the age of 12, he is in middle school, and some even start going to boarding school, going home once a month or a few months to see each other. They start to stop relying on you, and even, they like to fight against you. You try to help them do something and they say: Mom, I’ll do it myself. Suddenly we feel so lost with this statement. Do our kids not need us anymore?
At 18, he leaves you to go to college and comes back twice a year. A few days before he came back, the fridge at home could not be filled, preparing all sorts of things for him that he likes to eat. But as soon as he came back to take a look, he was busy partying with his classmates and friends. From then on, the phrase you are most afraid to hear is: Mom, I’m not coming home for dinner, you guys eat by yourselves.
After graduating from college, the child stayed in a distant place to work, and it is difficult to come back once a year. It’s not easy to come back for a trip, but you’ll be gone in a few days. What you look forward to most is your child’s phone call, hoping that the child said to you: Mom, I’m fine, you take care of your health. This will be enough.
The children got married, half of the time back home was given to your in-laws, and the children came back even less. You are used to having the old couple at home, but you would love to hear your child say to you, “Mom, I’m coming home for New Year’s Eve this year!
When the children have their own children, you are no longer a member of their family, their family of three (or a family of n) does not include you anymore. And we …… are slowly getting used to this. It is just a habit that when there is nothing to do, often flip through the photo album, look at our own family of three, no matter where the child is, but he will always be an irreplaceable member of our family.
Yes, in fact, we are so happy when our children are around. And yet sometimes we still complain.
Complaining that because of him, you have made too many sacrifices.
Complaining that he keeps waking up at night, making you sleepless.
The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation.
complaining that he is sick and you are worried about him.
Complained that in order to raise him, spent too much energy and money …
However, if you think about it, in 10 years or so, even if you want to, there is no chance. The child will keep growing up, after this period he will no longer have the habits of this period.
You often miss feeding him after he is weaned, but then you feel so tired and tired and tired.
You can also look at the pictures of him eating his hands and think it’s cute, but you used to worry about washing his hands constantly.
The actual fact is that when he faded out of the child’s voice, he missed his voice, but you didn’t like it when he used to be pampered.
Is it that when your child goes to school you especially miss the days when he stuck to your side, but before you always wondered when he would go to school ah ……
You can’t turn back the clock, the past is gone forever. The days when your child can stay with you are so rare and precious. Because of this, I cherish every moment I spend with my child, and I am grateful for whatever I encounter.
Thank God for giving me such a child and letting me share and witness every moment of his growth. No matter how many difficulties, worries, or even frustrations it brings me, no matter how much sleep, time, money, or energy it costs me, I am still open-minded, because it is all a gift from God.
When he is around every day, I will make him feel happy, but also so that we all have a good memory.
I won’t put too much pressure on him, I won’t tie him up, I won’t hinder him, but I will discipline him when appropriate, and I will make investments within my means.
Because I have the responsibility and obligation to teach him the skills of life, so that he can fly freely and happily in the future. At the same time, I will also tell him that even if all roads do not work, there is still a road you can travel, and that is the road home ……