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I. The basic process of counseling
1.First of all, the counselor introduces himself/herself briefly; at the same time, he/she introduces the principle of confidentiality and the fee standard.
2.The ethical standards of the counselor and the relevant norms require that the privacy of the visitor cannot be disclosed. Otherwise, they will be held responsible according to the national laws and regulations.
3.In order to have a detailed and in-depth understanding of the visitor, the visitor should open the door of his or her heart to the counselor, including some privacy related to the counseling asked by the counselor, which is necessary for the counseling work. Including visitors’ names, units, events and other content should be confidential; for visitors’ family members, even husband and wife, parents and children should be confidential, unless the need for consultation or the consent of the patient himself.
4, the visitor briefly (about 5 minutes) to introduce the main purpose of the consultation, and the main problem, the counselor to determine whether to mention the consultation or refer to other matching counselor consultation.
5.Consultation process: The first consultation is mainly to collect the visitor’s information and make a preliminary diagnosis. The second consultation determines the goal of the consultation and the program. Later, according to the actual situation of the visitor, the counselor and the visitor negotiate to develop a counseling program, determine the steps of program implementation and program adjustment, etc. If necessary, a “consultation agreement” is negotiated and signed. Finally, after the consultation, the visitor gives feedback on the overall effect of the consultation, and the consultant evaluates the case as a whole through the feedback.
6.It is normal to be a little nervous for the first consultation. Some seekers may have great mood swings or be a little nervous after seeing the doctor and do not know where to start. First of all, it is normal to be nervous, it is human nature; with this nervousness, there is no need to consider the “opening statement”, completely based on their own feelings is the most appropriate state, with the consultant’s questions can be. If the state of mind is very good, there is no need to see the counselor.
Second, how many times do I need counseling?
Generally speaking, the initial consultation is 1-2 times a week, and 3-6 times a cycle. General counseling requires at least one cycle, and special circumstances may require several cycles. The specific counseling plan should be agreed upon by the counselor and the visitor according to the visitor’s situation, with the visitor having full autonomy and the counselor having the right to make suggestions. After completing her first counseling session, the visitor, Juan, asked, “How many sessions do I need to completely get rid of this mania that you mentioned?” The counselor told her that it might take six times. She said, “Why do you need so many times? You tell me what to do all at once, and I’ll just do it. Are you charging me more for so many times?” Individuals like Juan worry that the counselor will try to get more and more sessions because the more sessions the more money they make! This concern is understandable, but it is also unnecessary.
First of all: a cycle of psychological counseling is usually 3-6 times. If the situation is serious, even long-term treatment is required.
Second: counselors are dependent on the level of counseling to “eat”, so they often want to solve the problem as soon as possible to reflect his higher level. If many times can not “get” a visitor, his status in the industry will become worse and worse, and no organization will dare to hire such a counselor, he will of course be gray ……
Thirdly, there are many psychological consulting organizations in the society, the practitioners are uneven, mixed, some do not understand the general knowledge of psychological consulting, not to mention the national professional qualification. It is not excluded that some people are for the purpose of making money, as a new industry, the state still needs to be strictly rectified. Therefore, when you see a psychiatrist, you should pay more attention to prevent amateur “psychiatrists” from adding to your heart problems. As a visitor, you have the right to terminate the consultation relationship at any time. You can protect your own interests from infringement, do not be in the way, give the counselor too much face, but is not conducive to its growth.
Three, counseling six questions.
A question: the black box will suck away the soul? Psychological counseling is commonly accepted in developed countries in the West. People believe that seeing a psychiatrist is a fashion, is to enjoy spiritual life. Some successful people have their own psychologists. However, psychological counseling is new in China and some people think that psychological illness is something to be seen. This is also an inevitable process, just like the camera just entered our country, people think that the black box will suck the soul of the person, so the joke of taking pictures.
Second question: can psychologists tell fortunes? Some people are nervous when they see a psychiatrist, thinking that the psychiatrist will know their inner secrets; or some people want to test the psychiatrist and ask him to tell them what is on their mind. A psychologist is not a fortune-teller, nor does he have any supernatural power to see through people’s inner world; he only applies the knowledge of psychology to reasonably analyze the information provided by the consultant, and then conducts psychological and behavioral counseling treatment.
Three questions: How many times does counseling need to be done? Some people think that psychological counseling is as easy as unlocking a door, and that they can open any “knot” at once, so they think they can do it after one or two sessions. In fact, counseling is a process that can take as short as a few sessions or as long as dozens of sessions. Therefore, you should be prepared for continuous counseling when you do counseling. Of course, the number of counseling sessions is agreed upon by both parties as needed, not decided by the counselor alone.
Q4: Is counseling guaranteed to be effective? The visitor, Ming, asked the counselor, “I paid the money, can you guarantee that the counseling is effective?” The counselor told him clearly, “No.” Ah Ming was disappointed to hear that. Counseling is a profession with a history of over 100 years in the West, and on the whole, the results are remarkable.
However, a responsible counselor can assure you of “due diligence”, but never “guaranteed cure”. First, because the human psyche is the most delicate and complex field in the world; second, because the counselor is the guide, the visitor himself or herself to bear the main responsibility for “cure”, of course, good guidance is very critical.
Five questions: Does counseling mean preaching? A parent thinks that counseling is nothing but preaching. His own daughter, who was in tension with her colleagues at work, felt very painful and wanted to do counseling, but her father objected and advised, “You just can’t think about it, just think about it.” The visitor’s heart was not supported by her family’s understanding, her interpersonal relationship did not improve, and later the situation became more serious, she lost her job and even had thoughts of light-heartedness. Then she had no choice but to go to counseling.
Counseling is derived from psychological science, the use of counseling skills, psychoanalysis and other means to find the crux of the psychological disorder, to diagnose and consult treatment, on the contrary, the first taboo of psychological counseling is to talk about theories.
Six questions: psychological counseling is to chat? Xiao Zhang (a female college student) was troubled by her love problems and once thought of suicide. After the counseling solved the inner conflict and restored her peace of mind, she told the counselor: “I thought counseling was chatting and talking, so I chatted with my classmates when I was distressed, and they helped me out a lot, but the conflict became more and more serious (referring to the suicide attempt), so a good friend recommended me to come to counseling. Now I finally understand that counseling is not as simple as chatting.
Many people will think: counseling is just a kind of chat, talking technique is a kind of counseling, but definitely not ordinary chat, counseling is a rather complex, with a strong psychological science base, as well as many therapeutic techniques of learning. On the surface, it seems to be just a chat, but every word is a reflection of the counselor’s years of professional experience and knowledge.
Psychological counseling needs to know
1.Psychological counseling is an emerging special clinic in which doctors use knowledge of psychological disciplines to help patients change their perceptions, emotions and attitudes, improve their adaptability, relieve psychological tension, and improve their physical and mental health.
2.During the counseling process, the patient can speak freely, because any content talked about in the counseling will be confidential, confidentiality is the principle that psychologists observe.
3.Before going to counseling, the patient must have the desire to improve or change some aspects of their psychological problems, and have some exploration in this area, try to prepare for the problem, counseling only to help, and ultimately rely on the patient’s own strength to solve, counseling as a process, generally speaking, not once to solve the problem.
4. No matter what kind of people have psychological problems, especially in the case of accidents, mental stimulation, trauma and interpersonal conflicts, they should seek help from psychologists in time.
Psychological counseling – will become a golden key to open people’s hearts.