Sex and love are the necessities of marriage, and sex is the spice of the couple’s life. Some couples, before marriage is often entangled, after marriage is as bland as water, and some couples even in the newlyweds feel no “sex interest”. Some people have complained online: husband would rather solve their own or not touch me how to do? The first thing we should do is to find out what caused your husband to lose his “sexual interest”, because your husband is usually too tired to have the energy to have a good time, or because you are “unkempt”, so that your partner feels ” The reason is that your husband is too tired to have sex, or your partner feels “bored” because of your “lack of style”, or ……? The sexual desire is easily influenced by a combination of age, sexual psychology, social environment, as well as illness, medication, food and other factors. Low or diminished libido can be caused by work, stressful life, and unhealthy lifestyles. For example, when the husband was eager for intimacy, his wife refused many times, and over time he became psychologically frustrated, and became silent on sex; husbands who usually love to read pornography and movies, and masturbation habits, but also easy to lead to the wife lost “sexual interest”; In addition, women in childbirth, the vagina will become more relaxed, which is also part of the male slowly after marriage. This is also one of the reasons why some men are slowly reluctant to touch their other half after marriage. So, if my husband would rather solve it himself than touch me, what should I do? 1, actively adjust the couple’s relationship from their own reasons, from the emotional analysis, to see where the couple in the intimate relationship in the end there is a problem, recall the pattern of life with the husband, there are no differences or contradictions so that each other’s feelings have a gap? Usually is not more neglected husband’s emotions, lack of emotional communication, etc.. Actively find the root cause of the problem or key points, face up to the problem and solve it. In addition, usually the wife should give more love and attention to her husband, not because of having children or after taking care of the family, and neglect their significant other. 2, find the right time to communicate with your husband Never think wildly, you can find an appropriate time, the two of them quietly, calmly and openly talk about the problem. Talk to your husband, talk about your feelings, and listen to what your husband says, to understand his thoughts, because “tired”, or because “do not like it”, encourage him to express bravely, to see if there is a misunderstanding between the couple, the two together Find the reason and solve the problem. 3, master some sex skills, appropriate change of environment Long-term stable intimacy, familiar environment, familiar partners and familiar sex process, will slowly become tasteless, such as in sex for a long time to maintain the same old method. Couples want to reawaken the sex life “spring”, you need to do some changes. For example, a change of environment, the bedroom environment is decorated warm and romantic, including the lights are dimmed, or light a candle, put on soft music, and then 20-30 minutes to touch each other’s hands, feet and face, so that the two feel a strong sense of love; timely master some sex skills, try different positions, and exchange the initiative, etc., constantly create freshness, so that the couple Feel closer, intimate, and less antagonistic …… These methods can help to enhance sexual excitement, so that each other to regain the feeling of love. A reminder: the lack of sex in the marriage, it is easy to bring harm to each other’s feelings. Love and sex are twins, but also a double-edged sword, therefore, whether it is because of love and sex, or because of sex and love, married life can not be put away because of the love you get sex. Sexual disharmony if it affects the normal life, and even affect the relationship between the couple, then it should be faced squarely. Realize the existence of the problem and seek solutions to be able to enhance the happiness of life. References: [1] De and. Making up for the imbalance of ‘sexual interest’ [J]. Family Parenting, 2005(1):42-43. [2] Wang Zulong, Hua Zhong. Five tricks to help you find the “disappearing libido [J], Public Health. 2021(10):106-106.