New mothers often encounter the situation that one day their baby suddenly “doesn’t want” them anymore, and they are jealous and sour when they see their baby getting very close to their grandparents or even the nanny. Classic advice: When a baby is about one and a half years old, will it stop loving its mother? I and one of my classmates have encountered such a situation, the baby usually sleeps with the grandmother at night, before very fond of the mother, but now is clinging to the grandmother, all day long very attached to the grandmother, everything is the grandmother grandmother, sometimes to hold her, but also to see her mood before you want. Let the mother is very lost. The most special thing is that at night, do not want mom, do not want mom to hold, as long as the grandmother. But in the daytime it will be like a different person, will want you, will play with you very happy. The attachment between mother and child is lifelong Does this happen to all babies at this age, or is it only for grandmothers brought up by grandparents? How to view this situation correctly? Actually, this problem involves attachment and separation anxiety in children’s emotional development, as well as the development of children’s autonomy, and is also related to the development of living habits. In terms of emotional development, infants and toddlers form a close attachment with their close caregivers while being raised, and when separated from their caregivers, they begin to show sadness, pain or rejection, and the intensity of this emotion is directly related to the closeness between the child and the caregiver. In the above case, with the weaning of the baby and the return of the mother to work, the grandmother became the primary caregiver who spent the longest time with the baby and who also met the baby’s various physical needs, while the child was at the peak of separation anxiety between 14 and 18 months of age, which led to a strong attachment to the grandmother. On the other hand, at the age of 1.5 years, the child’s autonomy and sense of independence have developed to a certain extent, and he or she starts to have his or her own opinions on many matters. This phenomenon is accompanied by “disobedient behavior” as she gets older, and reaches its first peak at the age of 3-4, which we call the “first rebellious period”. From the point of view of education, 1.5 years old children in many habits have formed a certain regularity, such as sleeping with grandma at night, once the habit is formed, the child will be fixed, and in this stable pattern to obtain the satisfaction of self-satisfaction. Of course, the mother does not have to lose too much, although the baby can establish an attachment with several different identities of caregivers, but most of them are temporary, while the attachment with the parents, especially the mother, is a long-term stable and profound relationship, which is difficult to replace by other relationships, of course, in the process of the child’s growth, the mother should be involved as much as possible, full of affection for the child, good understanding, help the child to understand, explore In the process of learning autonomy and independence, developing self-esteem, self-confidence, initiative and creativity, the mother should always stand behind the child and be his or her safe support. After one and a half years old, children start to say “NO” to parents. 1.5-2 years old babies can say some words and express themselves, but they seem to be more difficult to bring up, why do you feel this way? What are the characteristics of children at this age and what needs special attention? We say that children begin to develop autonomy after the age of 1. At this stage, children rapidly acquire various skills, their sense of self develops rapidly, and they gradually gain independence of behavior and have their own independent wishes. After the age of 1.5 years, this independent will with the rapid improvement of behavioral and verbal ability and more and more intense, parents often find that children used to be very submissive, but now they will start to say “no” to parents, and the more restrictions on the more disobedient, to 3-4 years old is the child’s “first resistance period”. We should see that this is a necessary stage in every child’s growth process, although its specific performance will be affected by the child’s temperament type and not the same. As parents, we should encourage our children to express their own will, not to brutally subjugate them when they conflict with their own will, but to divert their attention away from the conflict situation, or to allow them to choose between two solutions that are acceptable to you, so as to protect their This protects your child’s independence and autonomy while allowing things to develop in the direction you want them to. The authoritative family model is conducive to the formation of your child’s personality. It is said that the age of three is a critical period in the formation of your child’s character, temperament and habits. Give parents some advice on what to do and what to pay attention to in order to help the physical and mental development of the baby? At this stage, through the improvement of their own speech and behavior, and in the interaction with adults and peers in social relations, children begin to develop their independence, self-confidence, self-esteem and moral consciousness and other advanced human emotional and behavioral characteristics, so the old saying “3 years old is old”. Therefore, it can be said that there is a basis for the psychological characteristics of child development. Then, in this process, we should pay great attention to the influence of family parenting style and type on the formation of children’s personality. Many intergenerational families, due to over-indulgence or over-protection, make children capricious, childish, unruly or lack of independence, emotional instability, passivity, dependence and lack of social skills; while some parents, due to excessive pressure of work and life or busy work, have no time to divide themselves, in the process of parenting as harsh, authoritarian or neglect, indifference and lack of concern, the result is that children lack self-esteem, self-confidence, lack of The result is that the child lacks self-esteem, self-confidence, initiative, independence and social skills or is insecure, cold, impulsive and aggressive. A family full of divergent opinions often makes children highly alert, good at pleasing both sides, easy to lie and opportunistic; while a broken or tense family is easy to make children in a long-term loneliness, pessimism, fear and anxiety, and even personality disorders. The family model that is truly most conducive to the formation of a child’s personality is an authoritative one, in which the child is appropriately demanded and controlled, i.e., controlled and warm at the same time, with clear limits and personal needs, where the child is not physically punished for mistakes, but rather “isolated” or other mild but Parents are often involved in their children’s activities, are willing to communicate with their children and communicate with teachers in a timely manner, have a good relationship with the family, have a unified view on education, and children in such families are more confident, have higher self-esteem and independence, and are also easily obedient to parents, altruistic, cooperative, sociable, optimistic, friendly and emotionally happy.