It is now widely accepted that whether or not a sex life is satisfying depends largely on the skills employed by the man in stimulating the woman’s flesh. As a result, some men seek and focus on sexual skills, but neglect to understand the world of the opposite sex and pay no attention to psychological coordination and cultivation. Sexual physiology research has found that people often misunderstand the play of sexual skills. People have been focusing on those body parts of the sexual physiological receptors de when, in fact, the sexual response is one that involves numerous physiological reactions, of which the increasing tension of muscles throughout the body is probably the most important one. Women’s sexual response more often relies on short and uninterrupted presses, as well as continuous and rhythmic stimulation, as do many men, which can lead them directly to orgasm. According to some relevant surveys prove: but if too much use of a wide variety of sexual techniques will not make women reach orgasm either. In the case of sexual caresses, the use of three or four methods is enough. Over-emphasis on sexual skills will also weaken the inevitable link between sex and love. If the specific mechanics of sexual techniques are pursued too much, it is often difficult to communicate adequately without demonstrating love and concern. Therefore, more and more people feel that that makes sex can not express love, but is only a technique and skill embodiment. Of course, it can not be denied that couples properly use some skills will have a beneficial effect, but must remember the four most fundamental prerequisites. First, both parties to the sex life must be absolutely voluntary and genuine need. Otherwise, not only is the violation of each other’s personality, but also will cause psychological harm to both sides, and must not produce good results. Second, the couple must be quite good feelings. Third, the level of sexual knowledge and attitude of both parties must be very close. Fourth, the sexual techniques used must be rigorously tested scientifically and proven to be effective and applicable in clinical medicine. Any inconsistency in the understanding and knowledge of the couple, any hearsay and half-understanding, will make the opposite of the sexual techniques will have adverse effects.