There are many clinical patients with premature ejaculation, however many patients always want to go to the hospital and ask the doctor to prescribe some medicine to eat, expecting premature ejaculation to improve immediately. In fact, premature ejaculation is a psychosomatic disease, which is related to psychological factors such as nervousness, fear of failure, overexcitement, subconscious pursuit of top pleasure, coping with wife’s request against your will, trying to see if it works, etc. It is also related to physical factors such as physical fatigue, qi deficiency that cannot be restrained, kidney deficiency that cannot fix sperm, urethral inflammation stimulation, glans nerve over-sensitivity, etc. Of course, some people have multiple psychological and physical factors coexisting at the same time. .
In view of this, the treatment of premature ejaculation must be both mental and physical.
The first thing is that psychological adjustment is given priority.
The actual fact is that you will not have to take medication, not to take injections, not to drink bitter Chinese medicine. The first thing to do is to adjust your psychological state. The so-called elimination of stress, change of mind, relaxation, quit agitation, the battle does not want to “do not ejaculate tonight”, this psychological implication, or more likely to induce premature ejaculation.
Second, behavior to “and” since the first
1, before going to bed calm mind, do not overexcited, calm and calm. The “Jade Room Guide” says: “Where the way to the women, want to first Xu Xu play, so that the gods and the sense of intention, a long time is to meet”. First do foreplay, do not come up on the subject. It is the woman’s sexual excitement first mobilized. So, flirting, caressing, mutual touching is essential.
Heidi, an internationally renowned feminist, has written a series of sexology reports such as “Man Chapter”, “Woman Chapter”, “Emotion Chapter” and so on. When she visited China in late November 2005, she was interviewed by the newspaper “Southern Weekend” and stressed: “When it comes to sex, the important thing is how you experience and feel the process, not just the movement of the body. In the past, we talked about sex as giving and getting. What is called good sex is more about giving and giving.” The process of the man caressing his wife is the process of showing love and giving, and the process of getting visual and tactile enjoyment of getting, which are complementary to each other. Some men do not know this way, only know the fast action to get that instant pleasure, obviously give up this caressing process, and straight to the purpose, do not know to enjoy the pleasure of that participation, is to lose the watermelon, pick the sesame, more likely to occur premature ejaculation.
2, the action on the wind and rain, like the silent, calm and gentle, not panic, should not be “fierce and fierce”. The Ming Dynasty Hong Ji’s “Regimen General” about the “three peaks of the war room magic secret” pointed out: “between the intercourse, must be slow into, late back, not impatient, do not make the gas, war attack time more, must be less rest, to be quiet and then add pumping, if it will leak, quickly retreat Lingen (penis) half a step or out of the house, do not rush.”
The ancients introduced the experience “there is no repeat of his strange, but when calm and slow.”
Three, the prevention and control of premature ejaculation of various sexual behavior therapy
1, closed sperm stop ejaculation method: Tang Sun Simiao “thousand gold to formula” contains the law of prevention of premature ejaculation. That is, men in the process of intercourse, before wanting to ejaculate.
(1) immediately tilt your head and open your eyes, look up and down to distract attention
(2) to stop breathing, forcefully hold the hands, abdomen and anus, turn over and lie on your back
(3) then slowly exhale
(4) Knock your teeth dozens of times. This method can be used to close the sperm to stop ejaculation and may be used to prevent premature ejaculation.
Four, “five first five after” behavior therapy for premature ejaculation
The author gave a lecture at the National Symposium on Male Traditional Chinese Medicine and summarized the relevant methods as “five first and five after” to introduce to his colleagues.
1, first play and then enter: that is, the couple first play before sex, fully mobilize the female sexual interest and stimulate their sexual excitement. Make women fast and men slow.
2, first slow and then fast: the speed of penis penetration should be slow and then fast, in order to delay the early emergence of the male sexual excitement.
3, first weak and then strong: that is, the strength of sexual intercourse, requiring the initial force to be calm, weak, gradually excessive force, so that sexual excitement a gradual process, do not come up on the “storm” to avoid premature ejaculation.
4, first shallow and then deep: this refers to the depth of the penis in the process of sexual intercourse, first shallow stimulation of the outer entrance of the woman’s vagina, the part belongs to the sensitive part of the woman’s sex, stimulating it is easy to cause sexual pleasure of the woman, and then deepen the depth of the penis to strengthen the stimulation of the penis, to extend the time of ejaculation.
5, first between and then even: the penis in the vagina of the process should be carried out first intermittent after the principle of continuous, rather “moving – stop” technology, interspersed with dialogue between the couple, can say some anecdotes about sex. It is not continuous, so as not to accumulate sexual excitement energy too fast and can not help but release early.
Five, premature ejaculation of other prevention and treatment method
1, change the time of sexual intercourse, from before going to sleep, moved to the morning, energetic self-control enhanced.
2. Patting the penis: take the first two juices of the herbal formula prescribed by the doctor to collect and fix sperm orally, and then boil the third juice and warmly wash and rub the penis, so that the blood vessels of the spongy body are congested and the penis is erect, improving the firmness of erection; at the same time, repeatedly rub and pat the glans penis 100 times to reduce the sensitivity of the glans nerve, before and after no less than 15 days, the number of patting can be increased to 200-300 times, or even more.
If you don’t use herbal warm wash, you can also pat the penis while rinsing with hot water in the shower. Or simply patting the penis directly is also a way.
3, female top position to prevent premature ejaculation
When sexual intercourse is taken female superior position, the woman facing back, looking down and up, shaking her head from side to side, bobbing and swaying activities of a larger amplitude, the ancient book called “rabbit sucking the hair”. The woman’s initiative to obtain the pleasure is stronger; men due to the passive position, not force, only see the woman behind, can effectively inhibit sexual overexcitement and control premature ejaculation.
Sixth, Chinese and Western medicines for evidence-based treatment
Considering different patients’ physique, physical condition, psychological and emotional conditions, and the accompanying primary diseases, different Chinese medicines are used to treat the symptoms, including tonifying the kidneys, strengthening the spleen, and clearing dampness and heat, and using Chinese herbal tonics and proprietary Chinese medicines, as well as western sedatives such as antidepressants if necessary, as decided by the doctor.
Circumcision
Some patients have a long foreskin, or even a prepuce, it is best to be circumcised before marriage.
Eight, topical drugs – compound lidocaine ointment
Recently, there are reports of topical compound lidocaine ointment for the treatment of premature ejaculation. The method is to wash the vulva before sexual intercourse, then use a little compound lidocaine ointment evenly applied to the glans penis, including the coronal sulcus a circle, gently massage the glans, let the drug play a mild anesthetic effect, reduce the glans coronal sulcus excessive excitement, and prevent premature ejaculation. At this point, you can perform pre-sex playful caresses and other activities at the same time.
When the penis is inserted, then put a condom on the penis, you can start sexual activity, because with the condom, compound lidocaine ointment will not directly contact the vagina, and therefore will not have anesthetic effect on the vagina, so it will not affect the sexual feelings and sexual pleasure of the woman. If a condom is not used, I am afraid that the ointment will come into direct contact with the vagina and play an anesthetic role. Affect the sexual feeling of the woman.
When there is a satisfactory sexual activity, the amount of compound lidocaine cream can be gradually reduced, so that the penis gradually desensitized to sexual stimulation, so that in the end, without ointment, can have a fairly long sexual activity time, even if successful.
The above briefly describes a part of the prevention and treatment methods related to premature ejaculation. Patients are invited to dispel the mental burden, cooperate with the couple and consult a male doctor at the hospital, most of them can be solved.