Generally speaking, children are more or less capricious due to their immature psychological development and lack of awareness and judgment of many things. From a psychological point of view, it is a manifestation of paranoia, weak will and lack of self-restraint. The environment is the main cause of children’s capriciousness. Children are not born with capriciousness, but as a result of parents’ unrestrained and indulgent education. However, the child’s capricious development to a certain extent, it is necessary to correct psychologically. One parent said, “Our child’s temper tantrums, anyone can not stand, he never eat three meals on time, when you want to eat, and we eat, he is playing aside, and it is best to be accompanied by people around him, if hard to dissuade him, he will cry more.” Children like this can be considered to have a problem with capriciousness. If the child’s willfulness is not corrected, it can hinder the child’s mental health and psychological development. This is because capriciousness can lead to inability to understand and judge things correctly, stubbornness and lack of understanding, hindering the development of life skills, poor socialization, difficulty in adapting to the environment, not being accepted by others and being trapped in loneliness, and not being able to withstand the tests and setbacks of life, which is not good for the child’s healthy growth. In serious cases, they may commit crimes due to their impulsiveness.
As the performance of children’s capriciousness varies widely, so the solution to capriciousness should be implemented according to the person and time, the purpose is to provide children with appropriate constraints, to increase their psychological self-control, you can refer to the following methods: 1, divert the child’s attention. Children’s attention span is relatively short, parents can use this feature to find ways to divert his attention and change the child’s capricious behavior. For example, a child who follows his mother shopping and is addicted to playing in the mall. The mother is in a hurry to get home, but he just won’t go. If the mother says, “Let’s go home.” He may insist on playing at the mall; if the mother says, “Come on, mommy will take you to the car.” He may happily agree. Then the mother leads him home on the bus. 2. Show understanding emotionally, but insist on his discipline in behavior. For example, at mealtime, the child suddenly remembers that the favorite dish is not available today and angrily refuses to eat. Even if there are ingredients in the refrigerator, the mother should not accommodate the child to make it for him and should make it clear that when the meal is ready, it should not be replaced at will. If the child continues to make trouble, you can let him starve, and when he feels hungry, he will naturally look for food to eat. 3, sometimes you can use the method of temporary avoidance. Some children’s unreasonable demands are not met on the pestering, then, parents can temporarily ignore him, let him feel that the method of crying is ineffective, he will stop. Afterwards, you can talk to him frankly and let him explain the reason.
Of course, there are many other ways to solve children’s capriciousness, the key is to develop children’s ability to recognize and judge things.