The word “sex” is split into two halves, the left side is “heart” and the right side is “life”. The need for sex is both physical and psychological, and sexual health care also requires the overall adjustment of physiology and psychology. In the psychosexual health care, the renewal of sexual concept should be the precursor of sexual health care. The renewal of the concept brings psychological changes and the implementation of action. A single hold on the lack, only with “sexual happiness” lost, that is really a great regret. 1, sex is not just the enjoyment and consumption, but also the means of health investment. Couples for each other’s health and psychological needs, should meet each other’s normal sexual needs. Not only see it as a pleasure of the couple’s life, a kind of enjoyment, but also see it as a means of investment in health without spending money, the first art of health care, health care necessary. This concept, will be actively and consciously involved in sexual activities, will try to solve sexual obstacles, discuss sexual problems, exchange sexual feelings, strengthen sexual ability. In reality, many men often complain that their wives are very cold to sex, lack of “sexual interest”, “indifferent” or barely cope, “boys solo”, so that the husband rarely enjoy the pleasure of sex. This is the result of the conservative concept and negative attitude of women towards sex. With the awakening of women’s rights, as well as the enhancement of sexual health awareness, this state will hopefully be corrected as soon as possible. 2. “I’m old, it doesn’t matter if I have sex or not”. Is this true? Many people are less than 50 years old, and the room is prematurely insulated. In fact, age is not the deciding factor, the old concept affects the active play of sex, the less sex, the faster the degradation; the longer the abstinence, the faster the decline in sexual ability. People often say: “fifty-five, downhill tiger”. Men are still in the masculine, women although menopause or will pass, but that is the “second spring” in sexual matters. Because, children have started a family, their own body is not a burden, the life of the year has passed, see things and people can let go, the body and mind has been relaxed, at this time the sun is not late, the sunset is red, dusk love, time is not waiting for me, should seize the time of middle age and old age alternate more than ten years, enjoy the late awakening to the pleasure of the spring. Don’t think “it doesn’t matter”. You do not see the old couple in their sixties and seventies, red-faced, holding each other’s arms, still enjoy that love sex fast beauty. You do not hurry, to the age of eighty or ninety, the complete loss of sexual capacity, and then look back to look back, it is too late to regret! 3, the woman can still play the sexual initiative, rather than always in a passive and negative state. A virtuous, know sex to prolong life has a lot of help, daily life indispensable wife should let her husband understand that they are still interested in sex, therefore, in sex life can take the necessary initiative, boldly convey their interest in sex life “signal”, after bed can also take the initiative “action”, stimulate the male sexually sensitive areas, stimulate the male sexual excitement, older women can take the initiative, especially in the husband’s slow sexual start, more “help”, mobilize a variety of means, such as hand tenderly stimulate the husband’s sexy area, so that the husband The sexual excitement can accelerate the start, maintain the strength, prolong the time, so in the past, the couple’s sexual life between the balance, maintenance, regularity is possible. Otherwise, the husband lost interest in sexual activities because of the decline in sexual ability, the wife if you do not care, in the long run, sexual activity is less and less, can accelerate the atrophy of the sexual organs, is not conducive to the physical and mental well-being of both sides, but also not conducive to the deepening and maintenance of feelings. Wives also do not have to worry about their husbands think they are “too much”, not enough shy and gentle and feminine. When the wife said with a frown: “Let’s go to bed together early ……”, as the husband will feel a sense of happiness to be loved, feel the lovely wife, the harmony of sexual life is easy to succeed. 4, love needs to be updated, sex also needs to be renovated often. Middle-aged and elderly couples face love, sex, marriage, the three elements of the family, we should pay attention to constantly enrich, update, enrich the content of love, sexual activities, so that they remain fresh as the years pass, making the marriage more solid, more happy. Couples should be sex, love timely adaptation. From the point of view of love adjustment, from the youth into middle age, the original passion based on feverish sex, is bound to be replaced by a stable and lasting love. Young people’s love like a burning fire, while the elderly love is like a long flowing stream. This is the universal law of nature. It will not be like the young people as intoxicated in front of the moon, love me, today on the park, tomorrow into the theater; nor will it be a vow, always lingering, in each other’s ears vowed “I love you”, “I do not lie to you, lie to you is a puppy” and so on. After years of living together, middle-aged people have a deeper and more realistic understanding of love. The so-called love should encompass mutual obligations, protection, consideration, care, understanding, loyalty, and love based on the desire for sex and so on. The first thing you need to do is to ask your lover when he enters the door after work: “You’ve worked hard! It is a cup of coffee or tea sent by the wife when she is working in the cold night; it is the common work in the kitchen when you peel onions and I cut vegetables; it is the running figure of both husband and wife in the morning exercise; it is the duet of “both husband and wife return home” in the sound of family karaoke; the way of emotional communication between middle-aged and old-aged couples, which is simple and uncomplicated. “Plain and simple is always true”, like a gentle spring rain, moist and silent, and like a murmuring clear stream, long flow, it makes the psychological satisfaction of both sides deeper and longer. From the point of view of sexual adaptation, middle-aged and elderly couples should have a correct estimation of their own way of sex. With the accumulation of sexual life experience, most people gradually to deep and calm lovemaking, instead of young people that kind of stormy intercourse. The conversion of this form of sex is a very natural physiological and psychological phenomenon, and cannot be understood simply as physiological aging. In fact, a successful, high-quality sexual activity is called “lovemaking”, is the need for both parties to “make an effort to show love”, to achieve a complete and thorough physical and mental communication, including heartfelt sexual foreplay play, caressing, hugging, kissing and pitying like The content of the tender sexual intercourse, as well as after the sexual intercourse full of affectionate warmth. It is not as urgent as the young man roar, rush a few minutes after ejaculation even if the matter can be completed, sometimes need ten minutes of “operation”, or even longer, that is the impact of the mind, soul sublimation, the mutual penetration of emotions, the full satisfaction of desire, the interest is very difficult to describe in words. And the narrow sense of sexual intercourse with a rush, the meaning of routine, is the implementation of the male side to meet their desire to discharge the “rain”, so some people put this kind of stormy, in order to a discharge for the fast way of sexual intercourse, called the “live device masturbation “is not excessive. To such sexual activities in the beginning of the newlywed, young and vigorous, still understandable, but into the prime of life or middle-aged stage and then so this is not appropriate, it will affect the female pleasure and orgasm, so the couple should be timely communication to improve the way of lovemaking, on the basis of both sides have a strong common desire to make love, love, it is easy to stimulate the desire of both sides, conducive to full commitment, easy to to reach orgasm. Of course, if necessary, both sides can also be in the sex time, place, way position on a slight change to increase the freshness, but the premise is still to let the concept of sex change, otherwise, or along the “consistent system”, the interest is sluggish, how to passion?