Sexual concentration training method, which was founded in the 1970s by the American sexology authority, obstetrician and gynecologist Masters and psychologist Johnson couple, is a fast and effective psychotherapy for treating sexual dysfunction.
It is generally believed that sexual problems are purely in the category of mental disorders and a manifestation of psychological conflicts, therefore, psychoanalysis is mostly used in the treatment, but often the treatment takes months or years and the efficacy is not satisfactory. Later, behaviorist psychology believes that sexual dysfunction is an acquired abnormal behavior, and therefore mostly uses behavioral therapy for treatment, such as aversion therapy, systematic desensitization therapy, exposure therapy, etc.. Although the efficacy is still good, but often not easy to consolidate. Sexual focus training method combines the principles of psychoanalysis and behavioral therapy, and takes various effective measures to guide patients to “focus their sexuality on the here and now, and let nature do the rest”.
The basic theory of the Sexual Focus Training Method is that although the etiology of sexual dysfunction is a combination of multiple factors, it is fundamentally caused by anxiety, especially operational anxiety caused by failure of sexual activity. In sexual life, anxiety tension due to the fear of failure suppresses the naturalness of sexual function, and the suppression of sexual function in turn makes sexual intercourse fail. “Anxiety-failure-anxiety”, for a long time, this vicious circle formed a wrong pattern of sexual behavior, that is, the emergence of sexual dysfunction. Using sexy concentration training, couples can quickly eliminate anxiety in sexual life, in the process of progressively learning the correct sexual behavior pattern, the naturalness of sexual function will gradually recover, and its dysfunction will gradually eliminate.
Sexual concentration training method is generally divided into the following four steps.
The first step, the consistency of sexual awareness and relaxation of anxiety (3-5 days)
When a detailed examination has been carried out and except for organic lesions, the anatomical, physiological and psychological knowledge of sex should be introduced to the couple in detail, focusing on the characteristics of the male and female response cycle, different ways of sexual expression and how to arouse sexual excitement. In the process of explanation, it should be supplemented with pictures and certain models to help them understand. At the same time, encourage them to discuss sex-related issues in order to seek a more consistent opinion. At this stage, couples should live separately and forbid sexual intercourse, the purpose of which is to eliminate the state of anxiety about sexual activities. At the same time, some easy relaxation training should be carried out to further eliminate anxiety tension.
The second step, non-sexual organs of physical and emotional communication (3-5 days)
After the completion of the previous step, the couple should lie naked together, kissing, hugging and touching each other’s whole body, but be careful not to touch the breasts and sexual organs. While performing these activities, you can communicate with some intimate words and experience the resulting skin pleasure and emotional enjoyment. It is important to note that these activities are intended to enhance the sensuality of various body parts, not to make sexual arousal or to satisfy the need for intercourse. Although sexual arousal often occurs at this stage, one must not have intercourse and should focus on experiencing the pleasure of the entire body. During the last 1-2 days of this step, you can start fondling the breasts, but still do not touch the sexual organs.
Step 3: Stroking of sexual organs and application of masturbation techniques (2-3 days)
On the basis of continuing the activities of the previous step, both spouses should look for the best sexual stimulation points for their own sexual organs. Generally speaking, the best sexual stimulation points for men are mostly concentrated on the penile tether rather than the penis head, while for women they are mostly the clitoris and the vaginal opening. However, the location, duration and intensity of stimulation vary from person to person. When the best sexual pleasure is achieved through the stimulation of their own sexual organs, they should touch each other’s sexual organs. At this point, you can use “hand-holding” to make the other person’s manipulation just right. When stroking each other’s sexual organs, the two sides can gently put their hands together, so that when stroking non-verbal sexual cues, to avoid diluting the pleasant feelings because of speech. The signals of non-verbal cues can be designed by yourself. For example, the hand can be moved from one point to another to say “I don’t like it”; or the hand can be held still to say “I like it”.
This stage still does not have intercourse, but try to experience the euphoria of the mind and body during the operation, and gradually focus the sensuality on the sexual organs.
Step 4: Therapeutic sexual activity (4-5 days)
After the completion of the above three steps, you can have sexual intercourse, but this is not completely casual sexual intercourse, should be supplemented with special methods of operation for different sexual dysfunction.
(1) Erectile dysfunction The female partner can rhythmically stroke the penis to make it erect. When the penis is erect and hard, the female partner stops stroking and lets the erection subside. This can be repeated several times, and only after the erection lasts longer can the person enter the process of sexual intercourse.
(2) Premature ejaculation When the male penis is stimulated and about to ejaculate, the woman puts her thumb on the penis tether, and her index finger and middle finger on the other side of the penis below the coronal groove. Squeeze and press steadily from front to back for 4 seconds, then suddenly relax. The woman needs to be careful to use her fingers and not her nails, and to apply pressure in a direction that is not from one side to the other. Repeat several times before entering into intercourse.
(3) No ejaculation The female partner should not ask the male partner to ejaculate inside the vagina, to stimulate the penis with stronger techniques and to encourage the male partner to ejaculate outside the vagina. When the male partner’s semen comes in contact with the labia majora, confidence will increase significantly. The female partner should quickly incorporate the penis into the vagina (take the female supra-positional position).
(4) Vaginal spasm Initially, let the patient experience pleasure by gradually inserting the fingers into the vagina, with appropriate lubricant, and then different types (from small to large) of speculums can be used. After the patient is familiar with it, the husband will assist in the training and then gradually insert the penis into the vagina. This method should also be carried out together with sexy concentration training and self-relaxation training.
(5) Lack of sensuality and orgasmic dysfunction Begin to experience orgasmic response with masturbation or massager, then choose female or male superior position for intercourse and rub the labia, clitoris and perineum with the penis more slowly. 5 cm of penile penetration into the vagina is sufficient.
From 1971 to 1977, the Masters Johnson Institute treated 19 cases of primary impotence with a success rate of 78.9%, 228 cases of secondary impotence with a success rate of 85.4%, 246 cases of premature ejaculation with a success rate of 95.1%, 58 cases of non-ejaculation with a success rate of 74.1%, and 54 cases of vaginal The success rate of treating vaginal spasm was 98.1% in 54 cases; the success rate of treating orgasmic dysfunction (including lack of sensuality) was 71.9% in 388 cases; the success rate of treating sexual aversion was 92.4% in 116 cases (35 men and 85 women).