Suddenly, one day, your little one won’t listen to your orders anymore and actually puffs out his mouth and talks back to you. I believe this is a process that almost all parents have to go through when their children are growing up. In fact, this is a relatively normal growth performance of the child, at least he is proving to you, he began to have a sense of independence, have their own views on things. In the face of “backtalk”, what should parents do? Listen to your child’s ideas. Although he is small, he has his own ideas. If he talks back, parents should not get angry, but calmly pull the child to their side, stroking his head, and then gently guide the child with gentle words, listening to his arguments, and if the child has a point, do not hold the parental stance and refuse to give in. This time, if you forcefully block the child back, but not to ease, his day children grow up more, will be more backtalk. Give your child transition time Sometimes, when a child is playing or watching TV, if adults order him to stop and immediately go to play piano or sleep, the child can not be detached from the original activity at once, will talk back. When this happens, you may want to give your child a buffer time, such as telling him, “Mommy is going to brush your teeth now, and when you finish brushing your teeth you’ll have to turn off the TV!” Or tell him that he has to play the piano when the minute hand points to which number. After you tell him this, you must firmly implement it. The child will find the pattern, and once it becomes a pattern and a habit, it will not be difficult to enforce it. Be a good role model This method is actually very simple. If you yourself often talk back to your loved ones and clash with the elderly, then you can imagine the strength of your discipline to your children. Therefore, if you set an example by being calm, not impatient, and respectful when you meet your elders, your children will naturally listen to your teachings and stop talking back. All parents know the harmful effects of spoiling. If it is true that spoiling causes children to talk back, it can only start with the root of the problem. Only when the atmosphere of spoiling the child is dispelled can the backtalking be reduced. It is best if the whole family is on the same page, if the child is disobedient and obviously unreasonable backtalking nonsense, we all ignore him, isolate him and let him suffer the consequences. And when he becomes reasonable and obedient, reinforce his transformation with encouraging words and actions. Create a democratic atmosphere In order to make it easy for children to speak up, parents should not always assume authority. You can create a democratic atmosphere in your home and listen to whoever has a point. Encourage your child to speak up whenever he or she feels like it, and feel free to address his or her grievances. Don’t be afraid that you will not have the authority, in fact, the more you do this, the more your child will understand and agree with you. On the contrary, if you always “big” pressure small, long-term, but may lead to children in the future to form a rebellious or avoidance mentality.