Couple A: married for more than 1 year, sex life 2~3 times a week, each time about 10 minutes, but the woman has never experienced sexual pleasure, the husband is also quite depressed.
Couple B: married for more than 1 year, sex life also 2~3 times a week, each time about 2~3 minutes, but the woman is very satisfied, the man is also very satisfied naturally.
C couple: married for more than 5 years, long-term separation, about half a year to see each other, each time is very short, the longest not more than 3 minutes, men and women are not satisfied.
Among the three couples, which male is premature ejaculation? Before answering this question, we need to understand what constitutes premature ejaculation.
What is premature ejaculation
The definition of premature ejaculation is more controversial. At first, some people called the insertion time less than 1 minute as premature ejaculation, and some defined the number of insertions less than 10 times as premature ejaculation, but there has been no unified statement. In 2015, the academic community had a relatively comprehensive definition, which encompasses the following aspects.
1. starting from the first sexual intercourse, ejaculation often or always occurs before, during, or about 1 min after vaginal penetration ( primary premature ejaculation), or there is a significant shortening of the ejaculatory latency time, usually less than 3 min ( secondary premature ejaculation, that is, the time of sexual intercourse is still normal at the beginning, and then gradually becomes shorter)
2. always or almost always failure to delay ejaculation (reduced ability to control ejaculation)
3. negative physical and psychological effects, such as distress, worry, frustration and/or avoidance of sex, etc.
Those three long sentences above sum up the three elements of premature ejaculation: timing, control, and negative emotions. When diagnosing premature ejaculation, the above three elements need to be considered. In other words, if it is only short in time, it is not considered premature ejaculation if both couples are satisfied.
Factors affecting premature ejaculation
In addition to the three elements of premature ejaculation, various factors that affect the duration of sexual excitement, such as age, new sexual partners, new environment and frequency of recent intercourse, need to be considered in clinical judgment of premature ejaculation. For example, younger age, new sexual partners, new environment, and less frequent recent intercourse can increase sexual excitement and predispose to premature ejaculation, and all of these factors can lead to rapid ejaculation time. There is also a problem that is extremely easy to ignore – the frequency of thrusting, ask: “1 minute thrusting 1 time and 1 minute thrusting 100 times, is this the same?” I think the answer is very clear to everyone psychologically.
So you jerk off, short time is not considered premature ejaculation; (no sex life, talk about premature ejaculation)
So you just started to have sex, short time is not considered premature ejaculation; (sexual life is not regular)
So you have no sex for a long time, again have sex, short time is not considered premature ejaculation; (irregular sex life)
So when you finally catch your dream girl, short time is not considered premature ejaculation; (the more you love, the more you care, the more you want to perform well)
So you go FOR ONE NIGHT STAND, short time is not considered premature ejaculation; (new partner)
There are also the following two situations that are not premature ejaculation.
In some men, rapid sexual ejaculation does not occur continuously, sometimes they perform well, sometimes they perform poorly, and the time of occurrence is not regular, which is also not premature ejaculation.
The patient’s sexual life time is often in the normal range, usually patients are 3-6 minutes, and even some patients reach 20 minutes, but the patients themselves think they are premature ejaculation. This situation is mostly seen in patients who lack sexual knowledge, or psychological disorders or tension with their sexual partners.
What is the duration of normal sex life?
In 2005, a survey of 500 heterosexual couples in five countries – the Netherlands, the United Kingdom, the United States, Spain and Turkey – was conducted to record the time from penile insertion into the vagina to ejaculation, as observed by a stopwatch. The results showed that the average time was 5.4 minutes.
So everyone in the future less bragging, moving 15 minutes, half an hour, you think you are more Mongolian than foreigners! In fact, these people do not know, half an hour of physical live down, what is the case, your physical strength is not really enough!
The vast majority of people do not take a timekeeper to calculate the time when they have sex. Men and women feel differently about the same sex time. For example, the same 5 minutes of time, men may generally feel that it is 10 minutes (because the man wants it to be longer), the woman may feel that it is only 3 minutes (because the woman wants it to be longer). In this regard, there are differences between men and women.
Finally, let’s go back to the three couples mentioned at the beginning, none of them are strictly speaking premature ejaculation. So the length of time is not the only condition to judge premature ejaculation, nor is the length of time the only criterion for a good or bad quality of sex life. This is because premature ejaculation can only be called premature ejaculation when there is a short duration, loss of control, and the resulting negative emotions that come with a regular sex life.
If you really have premature ejaculation, do not be anxious and nervous, because bad emotions will only aggravate your condition. Accept it openly, cooperate with your doctor, and then compensate for it through acquired techniques. I wish you all a quality married life.