17 top tips for Americans with babies and toddlers ! I had two children in the United States and had classes before and after childbirth. I benefited from every brainwashing by my family doctor. My two babies were so well behaved as infants as if there were no little babies in the house that I even wondered if they would cry? Today my grandmother often laughs at me with this silly remark. When I returned home and saw my friends or neighbors exhausted by their little grandchildren, I thought writing down the mommy scriptures might help young moms and dads who are overwhelmed and exhausted by their little grandchildren. Thanks again to JANE GU, a famous pediatrician in Southern California, I have learned a lot of parenting tips under her guidance over the past few years that will benefit me for the rest of my life.
Tip #1: How to make your baby stop crying
Crying babies are taught by their parents. Newborn babies don’t understand words, they rely on their reflexes to make judgments. Dr. Jane Gu has repeatedly warned me to put the baby down when it cries and pick it up when it doesn’t, just the other way around. In this way, even the smallest child can understand that only when he or she is not crying can he or she be held, and this works very well. Put down the crying child to start training, watch the clock, do not hold let her cry, ready to wait 10 minutes before holding. The first time you can set 5 minutes, after a longer time than once, my Niu Niu for the first time did not boil down to 5 minutes, about 3 and a half minutes when it stopped, I have been heartbroken liver own are about to cry, must be held back. Let the child know that crying is not to call the mother. To train a “no cry child” you have to rule out 4 other reasons for crying: peeing, sickness, hunger, and sleepiness. God willing, my two children do not cry for no reason, occasionally cry as a sport is also very few, Niu Niu and Miao Miao are 100% happy babies, lying in bed are giggling out loud children.
How to get your newborn baby to sleep through the night
The American doctor criticized me again and again: You are not a good mother, the baby next door sleeps through the night, the mother next door is a good mother, you are not! I was criticized every time I went to the family doctor because I had to breastfeed 1-2 times at night and complained that raising a child was tiring and hard. The doctor told me the notion that humans don’t need to eat at night! I stupidly asked, why? The doctor had no choice but to say out loud: because we are human! I was extremely impressed, and my girl’s father was bent over laughing long ago. Apparently, my fear that BABY would be hungry at night was simply superfluous, 10-12 hours of continuous sleep is 100 times more important to a child than breastfeeding! We were tormented by the oldest girl, Niu Niu, and the bad habit of eating a milk at night continued until almost 2 years old. When raising the second oldest according to the doctor, completely free my husband and I, from the newborn to a week my family Miaomiao was trained to distance 5 hours before eating milk, 2 weeks later, the child will be able to sleep dawn. No need to eat milk at night!!!! (three exclamation marks is to please mothers to remember the meaning)
The third trick how to let the baby sleep quietly by themselves, not rocking
Doctors say that a happy baby will sleep in bed singing (not really singing, baby babbling)! Babies need to spend most of their time in bed, and here please remember, moms and dads, the bed does not move! So don’t rock your baby when you pick him up, don’t walk back and forth, and don’t put your child to sleep like this, just put him gently in bed and let him sleep on his own. Once again, the bed is not moving. Mom and Dad you have no right to deprive your child of the right to enjoy lying in bed. And more importantly, excited parents do not force and children “crazy”, the child’s brain in infancy or gelatinous jelly state, it is easy to hurt.
The fourth trick to sleep on your back to raise beautiful
Personal experience, the child sleeps on his back than on his back to sleep peacefully, just born child’s heart down, almost not a state of shock, imitating the state of the womb is wrapped. Another great benefit is to change the Asian pancake face, within 5 days the baby needs an hour to help turn the face, after 5 days, my girl will turn left and right on her own freely. The girl is the standard small face, and born out of the generous face seems to have changed a child, oh, pleased. The second Miao Miao’s face did not deliberately do so, at that time Niu Niu needs to be taken care of, there is no energy 1 hour to turn the head of energy, unfortunately. This opportunity is only effective within the birth to 3 months, the big one is useless.
Top five baby’s resistance is ten times stronger than yours
Mom and dad wear 2 pieces, the baby must not wear 2 and a half, only less than you wear, not more than you wear. My two children are very strong, hot and cold is actually very good control, occasionally see the children’s hospital fever children are wrapped in layers of flower quilts cotton jacket, poor ah, the child can not speak, are the parents caused.
The six top tips refuse antibiotics!
The process of growing up with a cold and fever is the process of strengthening the resistance of the child. My baby fever is the most commonly used is to use ice, with a zipper plastic bag with ice, wrapped in a clean towel ice on the whole body, 30 minutes must reduce fever. The fever is powerful with some Merlin or Tylenol. If the cold is not feverish, let the child hang the nose no matter, a few days to get well. Do not believe that any medicine can cure the cold. So far, except for last year’s hand, foot and mouth by the hospital tricked into that time, my 2 children have never hung saline and injected antibiotics. In the U.S., it is the kind of disease that is dying before the injection of antibiotics, the landscape of the injection room in China, scared Niu Niu’s father, that sight makes people hairy he said. Rows and rows of hanging needles, beating hands and heads and feet of small children in the mother and father and grandparents of the escort hanging saline. Concentration camps are more than that, it’s scary. Not to mention the money spent, more terrible is the bacteria in the body of the war to store a variety of poison more and more, periodically need to hang saline to press down, often heard the mothers say, a little symptom immediately hang water to press down, very smug. I feel very sorry for their ignorance. My children are getting stronger and stronger, never get sick, and get well on their own in a few days, basically without treatment. The neighbor’s children run to the hospital in the middle of the night, tired of the people are not tired, from this point of view I am a good mother.
The seventh trick is to bathe every day, use water, less body wash
Another reason why my 2 babies are healthy is that bathing every day is necessary. I remember when I came out of childbirth, I was ready to listen to my mother’s teachings and lay still, planning to stay up until the next day to take a shower, the nurse surprised me by pulling me up to take a shower. I was misunderstood as a dirty mother and was dragged to the shower, but of course I had two babies, both of which were delivered without any problems. This is the case with mothers, not to mention children? The child has a lot of movement every day, the smell of sweat, milk, poo, pee and everything, must be bathed, not every other day. This is also an important reason for the health not to get sick, they will not catch a cold, resistance than adults ten times stronger. The doctor explained: baby bathing as much as possible with water, and then the brand-name baby products are not as good as water, do not use any body wash, shampoo, water is the best! The doctor said try not to use, must be used if a week with a body wash is good, my family is three days with a (I think a week is too long, psychological effect).
The best trick is not enough milk to eat the mother, only do not want to feed the mother
Dr. Jane Gu says there is no such thing as a mother who doesn’t have enough milk to eat, only a mother who doesn’t want to breastfeed, and how much her children eat, how much milk her mother has, and how much milk her mother has for her twins. This I failed, despite the fact that Dr. GU drew a circle with a pen, she told me that how much your child eats, how much you can produce, you think there is not enough milk, add formula into it, the milk will be really not enough, and eventually it will be gone, it turns out that I then really less and less until it is gone. The child can’t talk, it’s hard to know if she’s full or not. When a mother feels that her milk is low, she gives up her mother’s milk and adds formula, but she’s actually telling her body that I can only produce so much. You have to believe that you can be a competent cow. If you have another one, make sure you prove it. On the third day after giving birth, I went to the hospital to attend a “breastfeeding class”, where several mothers with babies were gathered in a circle, including black mothers, white mothers and Asian mothers, and the breastfeeding class was held on a comfortable sofa with a special stool for the feet. The doctors strip the baby naked, including the diaper, and then weigh the BABY to exactly 2 decimal places. Then we were told to hold the baby and feed it, and we were not allowed to wear clothes but only diapers. The doctor taught the mothers one-on-one how to get the baby to latch on to the nipple and how to protect the nipple, one training session at a time, while other mothers came to use the free breast pump to pump the milk and take it home in plastic bags. The shyness and embarrassment I had at the beginning slowly disappeared, oh, I have no idea how much Niu Niu ate at home, this is good, a lesson down, immediately weigh the child’s portion, my Niu Niu ate a lot, it seems to be the second place that day, before and after the data prove that I have milk.
BABY is held by the mother comfortable and safe, did not eat enough to fall asleep, woke up and eat two bites, torture the mother, the baby also do not eat enough to sleep, harming people and harming themselves. The most useful trick I learned in the training class, how to wake up children so they can focus on eating milk, is to undress! Take off just the diaper, the doctor told me, don’t worry, you hold her with the mother’s body heat, this body heat will ensure that the baby will not get cold, the temperature is just right, the BABY has a little cool, they will eat with care (she said really eat, lol). Rest assured, these weak-looking little things, brought out from the mother’s mother’s body resistance is 10 times stronger than adults, breastfeeding mothers are not prone to disease, this is the power of reproduction. (Of course the temperature of the room is a certain warm, domestic people without air conditioning cold areas do not cross-reference imitation misunderstanding)
The best trick ten breast milk is the best “antibiotics”
When Niu Niu was about 10 days old, one eye became inflamed and septic, my father and I were scared and carried to the hospital, or emergency, the pediatrician asked the male doctor, you feed milk or formula, I said mother’s milk. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. So I did the same thing, mother’s milk as medicine, and a few days later Niu Niu really saw good, whether the cause of mother’s milk or not is still unclear, the American doctor lied to maybe a little bit of truth. The reason for this is that the mother’s milk is a good thing.
The best way eleven you can change diapers?
Nonsense, who can’t change a diaper when raising a child? Not necessarily. Have you ever been sprayed with pee or smelly poo by your child? Washing the sheets 5 times a day is my highest record. The trick is to put the clean diaper under the stinky diaper, then open the diaper, wipe it clean and pull it out, so that even if the child happens to pee and poo at that time, your sheets are saved. After you get used to doing this, you will never have an accident.
Do you know how to burp?
This is a traditional position, but often it is not easy to burp.
Posture 2: Sit your child on his or her side, hold his or her neck with your left hand, prop up the chin, and pat the back with your right hand. The last milk before going to sleep, must be fed enough, burp and continue to feed, my family Miaomiao 2 weeks to sleep the whole night is to use this trick, burp can be fed 2-3 times until she really do not eat, small mouth outward pushing the bottle state, Miaomiao will be able to sleep until dawn.
The best trick thirteen early to eat grains and cereals
The first thing you need to do is to eat rice flour at 4 months and then eat with adults, children are less likely to be paranoid when they grow up and it’s good for them to eat the same food as adults early. 6 teeth, Dr. Jane Gu said, she can already eat a lot of things with these teeth, she can feed everything, there is nothing she can’t eat.
Top tip 14 Don’t break your baby’s concentration
When the younger babies are playing with toys or watching TV or reading picture books, ask the aunts or anyone in the house not to interrupt them. Even if it’s time for dinner, it doesn’t matter if it’s a little late. Cultivating children’s concentration is the same as cultivating their attention to do anything when they grow up. My girl’s concentration is very good, she likes to do things, such as puzzles, an afternoon several hours without looking up, no one called her, except for peeing. The most fearful kind of elders who shout and tease their children, think they are smart and ask questions while watching TV. Shut up and be quiet, please. Give your child an environment to focus.
Top Tip 15 Walk slowly and talk quietly
It’s important to be physically active. Children will learn how adults behave. A rare encounter with a teacher in Shanghai, Lu, teach children to walk slowly, speak softly, people can hear it is good, not so loud. Back home, the neighborhood kindergarten teacher taught the children to sing at the top of their voices, I watched from the sidelines and thought to myself that it was over, the little lady who had been raised for half a day had been assimilated into the Han Chinese culture, haha, nowadays Niu Niu hot dry noodles like personality, the whole a hot girl. The environment is very powerful, there is almost no possibility of not being assimilated.
The best way sixteen as long as there is no life threatening, encourage the baby to try, touch it
Chinese parents have more than enough manners, but too little guts. “Do not move, dangerous, stand up on the ground dirty, do not touch, will stab 。。。。 Don’t do this, don’t do that” American parents most often say “Try it!” Try it, touch it. Encourage your baby, as long as it is not life-threatening, do not stop your child from using their little hands to try and understand the world. It’s not a big deal if their clothes get dirty, if they roll around on the floor for a short period of time, if their food grains and soup turn up on the floor, it’s a big deal if they sweep them up and learn to eat early or even use chopsticks, if they play with water, it’s a big deal if they catch a cold, if they play with sand, it’s a big deal if they get into their shoes, it’s hard to clean. In short, there are many rules and regulations that prevent children from being happy, prompting our little angels to become adults more and more quickly, into obedient and understanding children. Happy first important, dirty clothes do not matter, as long as there is no life threatening, do not stop my child.
Top Tip #17 And the most important one, only criticize twice a day!
Parents also can not just criticize the baby, a day can only criticize twice, two used up waiting for tomorrow’s quota it. The American teacher so carefully explained. So, the baby’s grandmother said: “Your child 10 times a day is not enough, 2 times, then I used up in 10 minutes, it is too difficult. I laughed out loud. Does criticism work when you’re a baby? I would ask the aunt, “Have you ever had a day when you didn’t poop?
Remember to collect it if you don’t have a baby. It will be useful in the future!
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