Parents treat their children is nothing more than three cases: one is everything tube, when the tube, do a lot of things, but the results are not good; the second is nothing to do, nothing to do, let it go, do not listen to, the results are even worse; the third is also tube, but not all the tube, do not do much, but all hit the nail on the head, the child grows up smooth sailing. Obviously, “do everything” and “do nothing” are too extreme, biased, and not desirable. Outstanding parents have always chosen to “do something and not do something”, more specifically, only do three things. First thing: Cultivate a good parent-child relationship A good relationship is better than a lot of education. When parents have a good relationship with their children, it is easy to succeed in their children’s education; when they have a bad relationship with their children, it is easy to fail in their children’s education. The establishment of a good parent-child relationship, the key lies in the “positioning”: 1, not the “judge”, learn to do “lawyers” Some parents see their children out of the problem, they can not wait to be a “judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the judge”, “the lawyer”. “Judge”, which is very dangerous. Children’s inner world is rich and colorful, parents want to positively influence and educate children, do not understand their inner world can not begin. The first key to understanding children is to take care of their self-esteem, protect their rights, and become their trusted and respected friends. That is, parents treat their children, like “lawyers” to treat their clients, to understand their inner needs, and always to protect their legal rights for the sole purpose. 2, not a “referee”, learn to do “cheerleaders” in the arena of life, the child can only go to their own efforts. Parents can not replace the child, and should not take the initiative to be “referee”, but should give the child to maintain a good state of athletic strength, that is, “cheerleader” power. This can help children build self-confidence, which is the core task of family education. Parents do children’s “cheerleaders”, not only to be good at finding and praising children, but also to guide children to correctly face failure, in the frustration of the child’s comrades in arms. 3, not a “tamer”, learn to do “mirror” Children can only know themselves to defeat themselves, but they usually only based on the feedback of others to recognize themselves, then the parents of the “feedback” role that the role of the mirror! “The role of the mirror is very important. Do not be a “tamer”, learn to be a “mirror”, in order to help children to improve self-awareness, in order to let the child is not afraid of the parents of the “authority”, and turn to communicate with their parents. Education is three parts teaching, seven parts waiting. “Waiting” is very useful. For example, if we are stung by a mosquito, no matter what it is, we will soon be fine, but if we always scratch, it will take a long time to get well. The reason is that the human body has a certain self-healing function, by the mosquito bite will soon be good, the external force will only be counterproductive. This is also true of education. Stop, wait a moment, give the child the opportunity to talk, and children communicate effectively, without education can solve the problem. The second thing: cultivate children’s good habits Habits determine the fate of the child, there is nothing more important than habit formation. Parents who do not pay attention to the cultivation of children’s good habits, is undoubtedly in the burial of the child’s bright future. 1, everything from the habit of cultivating the beginning of raising education is to manage a lifetime of education. Intellectual education is a good habit of thinking, moral education is a small habit of behavior, quality education is more reflected in the small behavior of people. A large number of facts have proved that habits are a kind of tenacious power that can dominate a person’s life. Everything of the child starts from the habit cultivation. 2, habit formation is never a day’s work habit is a big problem, is a big wisdom. The formation of good habits is never a day’s work, the main principles are: low starting point, strict requirements, small steps, fast pace, more activities, seeking change, fast feedback, diligent correction. The key to habit formation is in the first three days, the decision in a month. Parents should fully respect the rights of the child, so that the child in the habit of playing the role of master. 3, through the habit of cultivating casting character education is like a ship at sea, must be traveling on the correct route, otherwise, the larger the ship is the more danger of hitting the reef and sinking. The quality of people, determines the direction of human development. One of the core tasks of family education is to cultivate children to become a real person. But the issue of character development is usually difficult to operationalize. However, researchers have found that habits and personality go hand in hand; habits influence personality and personality influences habits even more. Decency, honesty, responsibility, love, cooperation, efficiency and other character can be habit training to cast. The third thing: guide the child to learn to attract children love learning, guide children to learn to learn is an important responsibility of parents, but also the true charm of parents. 1, the child is bored with school is a reason for letting go, let it be dashing; chaotic blind tube, planting beans; nagging and counting, wantonly scolding; instead of the package, manufacturing “machine” …… parents if you take such unwise practices, will only make the child more and more do not love to learn. The most important thing to remember is that the child’s behavior is not the same as the child’s. Children do not love to learn is just a superficial phenomenon, there must be a reason behind: is not to develop good learning habits? Is not find the child’s best aspects? Is it the lack of scientific use of the brain? Is it that the parents hinder the child’s nature of “play to learn”? Is it that the child does not realize that learning is his or her own business? …… Finding the reasons behind this is the only way to help the child get out of the shadow of boredom with school. 2, the child’s desire for knowledge and learning potential can be stimulated The child’s lack of desire for knowledge is usually not a result of parental influence or strict requirements are not enough, but blocked the child’s interest. Interest (curiosity), dreams, sense of accomplishment, questioning, gratitude, motivation, anger, etc. are all channels to dredge and inspire the child’s desire for knowledge. For the child, the so-called competitive advantage is just the effective development of potential. Mood, enlightenment, hints, reverie, sharpening, planning is to stimulate the child’s learning potential of the six principles. Although there is no absolute “timetable” for the development of potential, but there are steps, such as establishing goals, controlling emotions, sharpening the will, focus on a point, etc. are very important. 3, the child test first is a method of “love to learn” is “will learn” the premise, and “will learn” is “love to learn “guarantee,” “will learn” to “learn well”. Children want to test first, must master some of the decisive role of the good method, such as: according to the plan to complete, write carefully, slowly read the textbook, sorting out the wrong questions, notes, selfless help classmates, high efficiency test, free and easy to write essays and so on. Nowadays, many parents in the education of children into a new misunderstanding, that is, blind faith blindly follow or even obsessed with the so-called successful teaching children of the tutoring experience, but these experiences are easy to listen to, but difficult to do. Because they do not have “transferability”, if you just clone, imitation, not only can not be implemented in their own children, but also easy to “Handan learning”, counterproductive. The most useful real thing is to be quiet to think, refined. Education of children is not as complicated as parents think, grasp the parent-child relationship, habit development, learning these three important things, parents become outstanding parents, children become outstanding children, are not a distant dream.