In a survey of well-educated and healthy couples, 16 percent of men and 35 percent of women had hypersexuality.
In the infertile couples, sexual indifference accounts for 2%, but the people who really have no sexual desire are almost invisible. Sexual frigidity and lack of sexual pleasure are two different concepts that should not be confused, they can appear at the same time or not, therefore, there are two types: sexual lack – sexual frigidity syndrome and no sexual lack – sexual frigidity syndrome.
Sexual frigidity is called primary sexual frigidity when it appears at the beginning of sexual life, and secondary sexual frigidity when it appears after a period of sexual life. Generalized frigidity occurs in any sex and under any conditions, while selective frigidity occurs in a specific sex and under specific conditions. Sexual frigidity is also known as suppression of sexual desire. It is a persistent or recurrent deficiency or complete lack of sexual fantasy and desire for sexual activity. It is a co-occurring sexual disorder between men and women, and is known in Chinese medicine as “yin leng” and “women’s yin atrophy”. At present, there is no clinical treatment for sexual frigidity, only SHRINKER (also known as SHRINKER private cell vitality factor) and some Chinese medicine can help women to achieve the purpose of sexual frigidity treatment, but clinical medicine for the treatment of sexual frigidity is still a blank, only some psychological therapy for the treatment of sexual frigidity is more effective.
The hazards of sexual frigidity.
1, causing breast pain: normal sex, women enter the sexual excitement period, nipple erection, breast surface engorgement, the whole breast up. This process takes about 15 to 30 minutes. Women who are sexually indifferent, because the excitement comes slowly, breast engorgement, swelling does not easily subside or subside incomplete, so it will lead to breast swelling and pain.
2, induced mastopathy
Mammary gland hyperplasia, also called lobular hyperplasia, accounts for 2/3 of all breast diseases, and 1 to 3% of them may be transformed into breast cancer. Studies have shown that low sexual function or disharmony in sexual life is a trigger for mastopexy. The reason is that during normal sexual life, the breast has the process of cycle change as described above. This normal cycle of sexual reflection, like childbirth and breastfeeding, is a regulation of breast function. Once the lack of this regulation, it is easy to occur mastopathy. For women who have not had sex for a long time or for those who are sexually indifferent, they are in a state of sexual inhibition for a long time due to the lack of corresponding sexual stimulation. The breast does not undergo cyclical physiological changes, and the likelihood of getting mastopathy increases.
3.Increase the risk of breast cancer
The latest statistics from the National Cancer Institute show that among women’s tumors, the incidence of breast cancer is the highest, accounting for 21% of female breast cancer patients, low sexual function, the rate of unmarried, widowed people of advanced age is significantly greater than other groups.
This indicates that women who are sexually indifferent or have no sex life have an increased risk of developing breast cancer. This may be due to the fact that depressed people tend to be sexually indifferent and have no interest in sex. The relative risk of breast cancer is 3.15 times higher for primiparous mothers over 30 years old than for those under 30 years old, and 4 times higher for those who give birth after 35 years old. It is clear that timely pregnancy is beneficial to the breast. Because estriol can antagonize the carcinogenic effects of estradiol and estrone, thus saving women from breast cancer attacks. Causes of sexual indifference in women
1. History of sexual trauma (rape, incest, sexual harassment, etc.) in the past or even in childhood.
2.Some abnormalities in the body shape during puberty and fear of being known and having low self-esteem.
3.Self-perception of being cheated after the failure of love or marriage, and even the formation of revenge psychology against men.
4, fear of pregnancy, scraping, STDs and other possible pain, thus avoiding sexual contact.
5.The pain or discomfort of sexual intercourse makes it afraid of sex.
6, the woman only as a wife’s obligation to sex, rather than like eating is their own physical and psychological needs; if coupled with a lack of sexual knowledge and the lack of sexual life skills, monotonous, and even orgasm disorder, sex is no fun to say.
7, too high expectations of the spouse, after marriage found that the reality of the husband is far from their ideal spouse before marriage, but do not want to face reality, adapt to reality.
8, the husband lacks sexual attraction or has sexual dysfunction.
9, spousal tension or poor relations, the wife will refuse to have sex as a means of revenge or inducement. (This is the world’s most stupid means, thus leading to marriage, affairs and husband impotence and premature ejaculation, etc., the ultimate victim will be the retaliator himself).
10, some of the acute diseases, chronic diseases and their treatment of drug side effects, can reduce sexual interest, or because of worries about sex may aggravate the disease, damage the body and inhibit sexual desire.
11, work tension, fatigue, alcoholism or too much pressure on the mind caused by something that leads to indifference to sexual desire.
12, after the birth of a child, physical changes, think that the loss of attraction to the opposite sex, or will be too much attention to the husband to the child, (also due to the baby sucking nipples generated by the pleasure to meet the sexual desire), or because of the tedious household chores and lost the old enthusiasm for sex.
13, some women have their own pubic unclean feeling, afraid of defiling their spouses.
14, due to the influence of traditional moral education since childhood, that “women can not initiate sex, otherwise it is lewd”, “husband and wife life should be the male initiative sexual intercourse, the female passive cooperation”, “sexual intercourse is a shameless behavior” and so on, even if there is sexual desire also dare not express it clearly, and long-term suppression of sexual desire may evolve into sexual apathy. In fact, these views are wrong, since sexual desire with appetite, that meet both should be treated equally, that is, hungry to eat, how to eat on how to eat.
The prevention and control of women’s hypersexuality
Eliminate negative psychological factors and correct misconceptions. Through self-suggestion, self-adjustment, targeted to lift the negative psychological factors. If necessary, psychotherapy under the guidance of a psychologist. The sexual life between husband and wife should cooperate with each other, to achieve sexual harmony, in order to achieve a “win-win” in love. Work to combine work and rest, life to increase the romantic atmosphere, the husband’s thoughtfulness and tenderness to his wife will increase her sexual interest.
Actively treat the diseases that cause “defeat”, only to get rid of the “defeat” of the disease, to have a high quality sex life. For patients who are lacking in sex hormones, you can use estrogen instead of drugs under the guidance of a doctor, and also use drugs that increase blood flow to improve sexual arousal. Chinese herbs and other kidney aphrodisiacs can also be used to treat female libido suppression. The majority of people will “rekindle” their “cooled” libido after they stop using “sex-sweeping” drugs. The most important thing is to read more about sex and consult with your doctor to increase your sexual desire and improve your lovemaking skills so that women can really enjoy sex.
Women’s sexual indifference massage treatment method
A, sexually sensitive parts of the massage.
Sexually sensitive parts are the body surface bands or points that can provoke sexual desire and sexual excitement. It includes sexually sensitive zones and sensitive points. Women’s sexual desire sensitive belt such as ears, neck, inner thighs, armpits, breasts, nipples and other parts of the most sensitive, the sensitive points are “Huiyin”, “Huiyang”, “Jingmen” and other points. When massaging the sex sensitive zone, the male side should slowly and gently knead, so that it has a soothing feeling; massage sensitive points, the palm surface of the finger can be used to press, to the softness of the rigid, to achieve the effect of stimulating the female sexual desire. In short, the female partner to experience a sense of pleasure, comfort as the principle. Massage 1 time a day can be.
Second, waist massage.
Take the upright position, the two feet apart and shoulder width, both thumbs press the same side of the kidney point, a small rapid rotation of the waist, and bend to the left and right, while the palms of both hands from the top down back and forth friction, about 2-3 minutes, to the depth of the self-feeling slightly hot for the degree, 2-3 times a day.
Third, Shen Que massage.
Supine position, legs apart and shoulder width, hands palms pressed on the Shen Que point, left and right 200 times each rotation, to deep self-feeling slightly hot degree, 2-3 times a day.
Fourth, the guide gymnastics.
Sit with your legs straight, let go naturally, put both hands on the ground behind you to support your body, open your toes outward, while bending your upper body backward when you inhale, that is, torso and head backward; then twist your toes inward, while bending forward in exhalation, but your hands cannot leave the ground. This bends forward and tilts back 3-4 times. The actual treatment should be based on the principle of identification and treatment in traditional Chinese medicine, to clarify which of the six meridians the disease is located in, and then to use the correct medicine, for the lighter condition, you can use the four reverse soup for treatment, inevitably see the effect, if the cold evil is heavy, then you need to first strengthen the root and cultivate the yuan, using the annexes of Rizhong Tang first to cultivate the qi of the middle jiao, to support the treatment of the positive dispel Sexual coldness test prescription
A, cuscuta, cistanches, chasteberry 20 grams each, wolfberry, raspberry, dogwood, gold cherry, deer horn cream 15 grams each, psyllium, leek, mulberry cuttlebone, snake bed seed 10 grams each, Wu Wei Zi 6 grams.
Take one dose daily with water decoction. This formula is suitable for men with impotence, premature ejaculation, spermatorrhea, slippery sperm, and scarcity of sperm; women with clear and diluted belt and cold sexual desire.
II. 15 grams each of Radix Rehmanniae, Radix et Rhizoma Huai Shan, Radix Bacopa Monnieri and Radix Paeoniae Alba; 10 grams each of Rhizoma Serpentis, Radix Angelicae Sinensis, Rhizoma Atractylodis Macrocephalae, Radix Aconiti, Semen Cuscutae, Rhizoma Eucommiae, Radix Deerstalkiae, Radix Xianmao; 3 grams each of Radix Chuan Hua Jiao, Radix Cinnamomi and Cornu Cervi.
Take one dose daily with water decoction. Indicated for women with cold abdomen or cold pain in the abdomen and cold sexual desire.
C. Astragalus, Huai Shan, Bacopa monniera, Radix Codonopsis, Fructus Lycii, Herba Cistanches, 15 grams each, Cuscuta, Calcined Oyster, Yang Qi Shi, 20 grams each, Radix et Rhizoma Polygonatum, Lock Yang, Cornu Cervi Pantotrichum, 10 grams each. Take one dose daily with water decoction. Indicated for men with lumbar soreness and weakness, cold in the back, excessive urination at night and impotence; women with leucorrhoea and cold sexual desire.
IV. 20 grams of red ginseng, one pair of mealybug and 50 grams of cistanches, immersed in 1 liter of rice wine and consumed after one week. It is suitable for men and women with cold sexual desire. It is not suitable for hot days.
V. 50 grams of Cistanches, sliced, boiled in a pot for 1 hour, remove the dregs, add 150 grams-200 grams of minced mutton, 100 grams of round-grained rice, 3-5 slices of ginger, cook the porridge together, add oil and salt to taste. Suitable for men and women with cold libido patients, to kidney deficiency is better.
Sixth, 6 grams of sinkiang, 10 grams of sweet pine, 30 grams each of qiangwu, patchouli, clove, cinnamon, 20 grams each of sandalwood, saxifrage, sandalwood, xylophone, research into a coarse powder, put into a cloth bag that becomes a pillow for sleeping. The evil, slowly dissolve the cold evil, adhere to the treatment is bound to be effective.
Some women lack pleasure in sexual life to indifference, aversion. There are many reasons for this situation.
Such as ovarian insufficiency, adrenal cortex and pituitary secretory gland dysfunction, but most or due to emotional inhibition, fear, sexual life is not coordinated and other psychological reasons. The treatment of sexual indifference is mainly to lift the tension and aversion to sex, the couple needs to cooperate closely, mutual understanding, and under the guidance of experienced doctors, psychological treatment and guidance of sexual life, with appropriate diet therapy, can be cured.