Patients often come to the clinic with confusion about premature ejaculation. This is a question that the medical community has not yet determined the final answer. The fact that the wife can’t resist ejaculating before she is satisfied after penetration is undoubtedly premature ejaculation, but is it considered premature ejaculation? If not, some husbands ejaculate soon after insertion, like a delicacy in the mouth before the taste is swallowed, the wife does not experience sexual excitement, which can not be called premature ejaculation? Otherwise, the wives will have a problem. A more scientific and objective definition by experts in sexual medicine is that the penis has not been inserted into the vagina during sex, or less than 15 strokes after insertion, or ejaculation less than 2 minutes after insertion, and the woman has not yet reached sexual satisfaction is called premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is not considered a pathology if it occurs once or twice during sexual intercourse, but can only be diagnosed if it occurs in most sexual intercourse. Most of the causes of premature ejaculation are lack of sexual knowledge and experience, poor coordination of sexual harmony and unfamiliarity with sexual skills. It is normal for premature ejaculation to occur during sexual intercourse after the first time of newlywed or after a long time of reunion and abstinence, but individuals will have a lot of psychological pressure, coupled with the wife’s lack of understanding and complaints, which adds to the psychological burden of “manhood”, thus appearing to worry, fear, distress, anxiety, guilt, sullenness, low self-esteem. It seems to be inferior to others, seeking medical help everywhere, and if you encounter quackery and intimidation, taking aphrodisiacs indiscriminately, it is even worse. Premature ejaculation can also be caused by excessive masturbation or the habit of ejaculating too quickly formed by long-term masturbation, which makes it impossible to delay ejaculation after marriage. It can also be hastily done due to fear or anxiety or poor living conditions. The vast majority of premature ejaculation is due to psychological factors, and only a small percentage of premature ejaculation is truly organic. Therefore, adjusting your psychological state is very crucial to the treatment of premature ejaculation. As long as you pay attention to the following points, most premature ejaculation can stay away from you: (1) Don’t worry about your sexual ability: premature ejaculation can make your wife’s sexual requirements unsatisfied, so men with premature ejaculation will feel very guilty, and if there are several consecutive premature ejaculations, many men will start to worry about their sexual ability. This mindset has a very big impact on sexual life. (2) No need to worry about premature ejaculation developing into impotence: men suffering from premature ejaculation are mostly anxious about whether they will further develop into impotence, some even start avoiding sex, and are worried about whether premature ejaculation will occur during every sexual encounter, and these psychological burdens are precisely the main factors that lead to premature ejaculation. A few occurrences of premature ejaculation do not mean anything. Fatigue and overexcitement are able to cause premature ejaculation, and most of them can be avoided as long as you adjust your body. (3) Don’t worry about your body: there are many young people who suspect that their kidneys are deficient when they have premature ejaculation, so they buy all kinds of tonics everywhere and listen to the gobbledygook of charlatans, which often results in bleeding nostrils, red and swollen gums, and the phenomenon of “fire”. In fact, the vast majority of young people are “not deficient”, there is no need for tonic. (4) should communicate with your wife: sexual life is a matter between husband and wife, if you have premature ejaculation, then your wife is your best doctor, she understands you best and can help you, the key is that you should communicate with your wife in a timely manner, so that she understands your situation and feelings, to discuss ways to solve the problem. Many methods of treating premature ejaculation through massage between couples are very effective. Have your wife read this article to help with your understanding and the treatment of your disease. Premature ejaculation patients are usually not cured in the short term, but patients should not lose confidence because of this. In fact, premature ejaculation is not so terrible. Because everyone’s physique is different, there are physical or psychological reasons, the penis is more sensitive, a little sex-starved, faster is normal, and will slowly lengthen after getting used to it. So what are the ways to synchronize the two couples? 1, strengthen the exchange of ideas and feelings of the couple, eliminate the gap and misunderstanding, to understand the husband premature ejaculation and actively cooperate with the treatment, will help to overcome the bad psychology. 2, do enough caressing and kissing before intercourse, so that the woman first enter the excitement period or even the platform period, it is easier to meet the sexual requirements of the woman. 3, change the time of intercourse. People generally arrange sex at night, but if you change it to wake up, physical fatigue has been lifted, high energy, and then chew a piece of chewing gum flirtation, I believe the quality of intercourse will be improved. 4, wear a double condom, can reduce the sensitivity of the penis, prolong the ejaculation time. 5, reduce the amplitude and speed of penis pumping, reduce the sexual stimulation of the penis, while the woman actively cater to the action, as soon as possible to reach orgasm, in order to achieve mutual satisfaction. 6, the male partner to distract attention to sexual intercourse, such as gaze away from the female, the penis feeling to think about other issues, or even counting, will help delay ejaculation. 7.After receiving behavioral therapy take the female superior sexual intercourse method for a period of time to relieve the husband’s tension and to increase the adaptability to vaginal stimulation. 8.A second sexual intercourse within an hour after ejaculation can significantly delay the ejaculation time, but the man’s penis will feel swollen and painful. 9, behavior therapy: during sex, penis penetration, pumping process should be carried out slowly, the couple can look for other topics unrelated to sex to distract the male partner’s attention. When the male sexual pleasure is too high, with the intention of ejaculation, promptly stop the sexual act, to wait for the pleasure to subside and start again. This can also be referred to as the moving stop method. Penis squeezing therapy requires the female partner to stimulate the male partner’s penis to improve the sensory tolerance of the penis. The specific method is: during sex, the man lying on his back, focus on the penis; the woman sitting between the man’s legs, gently stroking the penis; when the man feels excited, will ejaculate, you can signal the woman to stop, and the thumb on the ventral coronal groove of the head of the penis, the remaining four fingers on the dorsal side of the penis, squeeze hard for about 15D20 seconds. Generally repeated three times, wait until the fourth time to ejaculate. The combination of the moving-stop technique training and squeezing and pinching helps to suppress the ejaculatory reflex. The latter can also be used during sexual intercourse. With the woman on top, when the man feels highly aroused and is about to ejaculate, he can signal the woman to quickly disengage and perform a squeeze. Through the technique of moving and stopping, pulling and spousal squeezing, as long as you insist on training for two weeks to two months, you will be successful. In addition, the following methods have been suggested to be of considerable help. Supine position, two legs straight, two feet about 100 cm apart. Hands on the two hips, natural relaxation, two eyes look inward, intention to guard the lower Dantian, closed mouth, tongue against the palate. Firstly, keep the lower Dantian for 2 minutes, then start to inhale, and when you inhale, tighten your abdomen and lift your anus, so that your penis, testicles and anus contract while your abdomen retracts. At this time, think of the gas from the glans through the penis to the perineum, from the perineum through the coccyx up the spine, through the large vertebrae to the hundred sessions, and then exhale, at the same time, with the intention of leading the gas through the mouth, together with the mouth fluid down to the lower Dantian. In addition, each time you inhale, hands and feet fingers grip hard, when the gas sent to the upper Dantian, hands and feet relax, do 3-9 times.