After the discomfort of early pregnancy, the pregnancy condition gradually stabilizes and the mother-to-be starts to experience the joy of fetal movement, but she also starts to have some vague worries inside: how far will my belly continue to expand? What is my baby doing inside my belly? Will I be able to deliver successfully? Will I give birth vaginally, as my mother says, or by C-section, as my friends say? Will the baby be healthy after birth? If not, it will kill me! There is another worry that I am afraid to talk about: will the baby be a boy or a girl? If I have a female, how will I face the eyes of others? First of all, the degree of belly expansion and the size of the fetus, the amount of amniotic fluid, the size of the pregnant woman and other factors, if it is a huge baby, no doubt the belly will be very large. A taller person will obviously have a belly that doesn’t look as big. But this issue is not worth worrying about. I have seen many disabled people with torso deformities who also gave birth to children, but their pregnancy was very difficult. Secondly, it’s best to listen to your doctor’s advice about childbirth. During the maternity checkup, the doctor will judge whether you can deliver vaginally based on the pelvic measurements, the actual condition of the fetus and the mother, but if there are high-risk factors, such as: combined pregnancy complications with vital organs, advanced age, fetal abnormalities, etc., you must listen to the doctor’s advice, although medical advice cannot be 100% correct, but after all, the doctor knows your specific situation better than your mother and friends, and your mother is motivated by Your mother will insist that you give birth on your own because of traditional beliefs and fear of surgery, and your friends may give you advice from personal experience or common sense, however, they are not responsible for any accidents that may occur to the mother or baby. Don’t think that your doctor is asking you to give birth by yourself in order to achieve the goal of vaginal delivery, you should know that after an accident, according to our regulations, it has to be reported directly to the Ministry of Health, if it is the doctor’s problem, then his professional future is finished, no fool will take this risk, and the doctor will not rashly recommend you to have a cesarean section, there are indications for any delivery method. So, each case has to be analyzed on its own merits. Again, is the baby healthy? There is no way to avoid this question, but the fetus is a gradual growth process, only after the development of a certain degree of organs can be screened for malformations, such as heart malformations, how to detect the fetal heart in the third trimester? The fetal heart ultrasound can only be done when the fetus is quite large to understand if it is malformed. The fetus is not yet widely used, and even if it is, are you willing to do it? Therefore, the doctor will not easily answer you that the baby is healthy, no problem, she will only say “Oh, the situation seems to be normal”. Even if the fetus is really normal, so what? There are many cases of choking before delivery due to the umbilical cord being wrapped around the neck. Who can you blame? Can you blame yourself for not having the strength to get the baby out as fast as possible? Finally, the gender of the baby, if you are not financially independent and happen to be married to a family that prefers sons over daughters, then you can imagine the troubles after the baby is born. But the modern situation is even more complicated. In some families, the husband wants to have a daughter, the parents-in-law and the pregnant woman want to have a son, and there is only one in the belly, so whose wish can you fulfill? It is not your choice. What about sons? What about daughters? In the future, society will no longer be able to raise children for old age. A child is a gift from God, not to be chosen, not to be forced, we pray to God for the opportunity to create a new life, to witness the growth of a new life, we will not be able to accompany all the way to the end of time, but the fate to accompany, is a blessing.