The accelerated pace of modern life, the pressure from work and life and all the troubles that may be encountered in life can affect women’s emotions. In particular, the emotional instability of mothers-to-be is not only related to themselves but also has many adverse effects on your unborn baby. So, how can you have a healthy and happy baby in a relaxed way? First of all, we remind couples of childbearing age who are preparing to conceive that it is best to conceive in a good and calm mental state for the health of their future baby. When the body is in a good mental state, energy, strength, intelligence and sexual function are at their peak, and the quality of sperm and eggs is also high, and fertilization at this time will result in a fetus with better innate qualities, which is conducive to eugenics. The bad mood is likely to lead to endocrine changes, so that the body functions are adversely affected. Therefore, it is advisable for couples of childbearing age to adjust their psychological state when preparing for pregnancy, and it is best to consider pregnancy when life and economic aspects are more stable and in a happy mood. This is just the first step to success, Yu Yanyun of the Department of Anesthesiology, Wuxi Maternal and Child Health Hospital. And the mother-to-be from pregnancy, carrying a baby for 10 months, to a delivery, in this complex continuous physiological process, but also contains many psychosocial factors. Well, please note: after pregnancy, due to physiological reasons, many mothers-to-be become more vulnerable, the heart often produce some inexplicable sense of loss, depression, fear, easy to anger, anxiety, panic, sadness and other psychological disorders. According to statistics, up to 30% of people have psychological disorders during pregnancy and childbirth. If timely intervention is not carried out, it may develop into depression, which is characterized by a series of symptoms such as depression, sadness, self-blame, crying, irritability, poor appetite, poor sleep, and even suicidal or infanticidal tendencies. A large number of clinical studies have also confirmed that various adverse psychosocial factors not only have an important impact on the physical and mental health of pregnant women, but also seriously affect the emotional, intellectual development and behavioral temperament development of the fetus and infants. In addition, various emotional trauma during pregnancy, major life events and other psychosocial factors can also lead to emotional abnormalities and central nervous system dysfunction, which can induce preterm labor, severe pregnancy vomiting, miscarriage, abnormal fetal position, fetal development disorders and abnormal labor force and obstructed labor during delivery. So, the second point, you have to pour out your bitterness and give the fetal baby less stress! “The baby was born with an extra finger!” –That’s terrible! The mother-to-be had such a dream at night! The mood dropped to a low point during the day, so she saw everyone annoyed. Hey, hey! Are these scenarios familiar to you? In order to form a stable character after the baby is born, from the day you get pregnant, when you encounter unpleasant things, you must take the initiative to say it in time. Otherwise, these bad emotions can be passed on to your baby through the placenta, yo. This time the father-to-be is an important role, and occasionally have to do to do the outlet! But the father-to-be must understand how important it is to be caring, understanding and encouraging at this time. The actual fact is that you can find out what you are afraid of, what you are worried about, and what you wish to get, so that he can help you find out where the problem lies and advise you, so that you can get rid of all the misery in your mind in time; usually, the mother-to-be should also communicate more with the father-to-be about the fetal baby, and go with him to observe the activities of the fetal baby and imagine the fetal baby together. …… These will make you feel excited and happy. You can also meet a few good friends to have dinner and chat with them to vent your frustrations; or meet other mothers-to-be to exchange “mommy-to-be experience”. Of course, you should learn some ways to relieve your worries, such as listening to music, singing, reading comedies or light-hearted books, etc., which can make you and your baby relaxed and happy, and will be beneficial to your baby’s future character development! When you can’t adjust, you must ask for expert help! The Wuxi Maternal and Child Health Center has such psychologists who can give you professional help, and you can call to make an appointment! Also, if you don’t want to be tormented by your baby crying at night after 9 months, it is necessary to adjust your work and rest now – you know that the fetal baby can have the ability to feel, and if the mother lives regularly every day, the baby will eat and sleep regularly after birth. Thirdly, you have to go to bed early and get up early to be a good mother to your baby! You can enjoy the “25-hour” life by surfing the Internet, watching DVDs, and going to bars? Or working late at night? On weekends, like to stay under the covers until noon to get up? These were once the normal life of the post-80s, right? However, please note: excessive fatigue, irregular work and rest, may make you lose your baby! From now on, you must completely give up the irregular work and rest, to develop the good habit of early to bed and early to rise, the daily sleep time can not be less than 8 hours, if possible, the best lunch break for one hour. When you get up in the morning, go for a walk outside, which is not only good for your health, but also can play a role in relieving the early pregnancy reaction. Fourthly, you need to communicate with your fetus frequently for fetal education! Canadian psychiatrist Thomas Forney believes that a pregnant woman needs to be aware of her feelings and that what she thinks, says, feels and hopes for has an effect on the fetus in her womb. He found that at six months, the fetus has an “emotional radar” that allows it to sense and react to the mother’s emotions. So the mother to be should take ten minutes every day to read fairy tales and fables; treat the fetus in the womb as if it had already been born; touch it with your hands when you feel it moving, talk to it, sing to it, and it will soon be quiet; when you go to the street, you can pat your belly and tell it: “Baby, let’s go shopping together! And so on; regularly sing a song every day, put a small radio on the abdomen, let the fetus listen to music, this not only keeps your mood happy, but also to the fetus in the womb to play a stabilizing effect. The father-to-be should also do his duty! In addition to giving the mother-to-be careful care, he also often speaks to the fetus against the mother-to-be’s bulging belly, so that the fetus is familiar with your voice. These can also make the mother-to-be feel relieved and happy, and the whole pregnancy will be full of enthusiasm to welcome the arrival of this healthy baby. I wish all mothers-to-be a sweet and memorable time! A healthy, happy and smart baby!