Not long ago a kid sent me a bunch of screenshots on WeChat, and when I took a closer look, they were all about the cattle people from Peking University and Tsinghua. This one won the Olympiad championship, and that one was number one in every grade. The kid was so depressed that he said, “I think I can’t compare to them even if I try harder, and suddenly I have no hope for my future.”
Suddenly I thought of a classic answer on Zhihu: “With the degree of effort of most people, simply not to the point of fighting IQ.”
A distant aunt of mine has always been a famous figure among relatives.
Due to the times, she did not continue her education until she graduated from junior high school. After graduation, she entered a factory to work, was introduced to her uncle, and gave birth to her cousin. The family lived in a small one-room house, sharing the toilet and kitchen with the neighbors every day, earning a monthly dead salary, and the days were quiet and uncontested. I don’t know which day, perhaps suddenly realized that if you go on like this, you may never be able to create an ideal living environment for your daughter, aunt began to pick up the textbooks again.
For many years, she had not touched the books, and the busy days on the assembly line had worn out the passion she had when she was in school. When I got the textbook again, I found it very obscure and difficult to understand. Later, I heard my cousin talk about it, and found that in her memory at that time, she was a young aunt’s image of a figure who read hard day and night, always with a reference book and English dictionary at hand. If she couldn’t understand the words and points, she looked them up, and then wrote them down in a small book and pondered them over and over again. After studying for several years, my aunt was admitted to a night university and discovered the scarcity of actuarial profession during her studies, so she studied actuarial knowledge on her own and got an actuarial book.
After her aunt resigned from the factory, she encouraged her uncle to also get a diploma from an evening college. Today they have long since said goodbye to their one-bedroom lives and crossed over into the middle class. And some of the workers from back then still live in these old dilapidated houses. When old colleagues met, someone always said that my aunt was lucky to find a good job. But behind all the good luck, there were countless efforts.
The summer after the college entrance exams, everyone in the freshman group burst photos, a boy sent a photo of his senior year when taking graduation photos, and sent a recent photo, simply like two people. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into. The recent photo of him, although the face is still a little meat, but the body shape has been very proportional, no longer all over the body is meat, saggy look. The girls in the group have asked him how he did it, he said he ate very little over the summer, and then went to the gym every day to work out, to achieve this effect.
When I met D in freshman year or a round fat, in the four years of college to watch D become more and more round. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
Later, I saw the journal written by D. After graduating from college in his senior year was a very difficult time for him. The job did not go well, and the weight reached the peak of life. He had no choice but to prepare to study abroad. According to D’s words, “the self I knew was already lower than the bottom line”, and out of a desire to change, D decided to start losing weight. This process is very hard, at first he ran on the treadmill for ten minutes and was tired and panting, to be able to persist for more than an hour. After noon, no matter how hungry you are, you won’t eat another bite, really do a “no lunch”.
A friend has been shouting for a long time to lose weight. Every day or eat a full meal lying on the sofa while playing with the phone and eating snacks. When you kindly remind him to exercise, he will find all kinds of excuses, “today is too tired, tomorrow,”. In a few days, standing on the weighing screaming or he. Of course, if the New Year’s wish to write “I want to be thin” is also considered a kind of weight loss, then he is not without weight loss.
Often listen to countless people yelling to lose weight, but the successes are always err, failure always say that it is too difficult to lose weight. And ask those who have succeeded in losing weight the secret, nothing more than eating less, more exercise. Lazy people will make up “do not eat full which has the strength to lose weight” “not not to lose weight but the enemy is too strong” paragraph, and really go to do people, a good body will say everything. You called so many sentences you want to be thin, but never shed any less bite. The weight loss pills, twenty pounds a week diet, is never more than a placebo for people who dream of beauty.
Next, let’s talk about the love story.
The actual story of a long-distance relationship was once posted on Twitter. The daughter of a parent’s friend, and her boyfriend has been a foreign country for seven years. The two high school classmates, after graduation, the boy went abroad to study, the girl got into a famous domestic school. The seven years were not without arguments and separations, and not without temptations and loneliness. The girl from the beginning of college, has been around internship to save money, in order to vacation time can go to Australia to see the boyfriend. The boy, on the other hand, went to a restaurant after school to serve dishes, to the car dealership to wash cars, just to save a ticket money to come back to see his girlfriend.
This life has been maintained for seven years until the boy graduated from graduate school and returned to China. The two got married in September last year and had a grand wedding. The exotic love finally became a family, in each other’s best years did not choose to easily let go, but chose to persevere.
And not long ago, a couple of long-distance relationship on the microblogging, had thought so many times to give up, and finally with dozens of times to encourage each other and persevere. The thick pile of train tickets is probably the biggest motivation to support them towards marriage.
We always say that people nowadays are too impatient, that there is no true love in the society nowadays. There are so many people in the world who complain about starting a blind date, while listing all kinds of conditions. Emphasis on family history, demanding education, requirements for height, looks and age, the rejection of foreign love, foreign love, in the end, but for less trouble. The more precise the requirements, the more the other party also meets the requirement to go on. In fact, in the end, it is not true love less, but people are lazy, no longer have the courage to insist on love, and give everything to the determination of the effort.
The so-called positive energy that moves you to tears, but the main character is more than the usual people persist a little more, more effort.
I have seen many people, always like to set a huge goal for themselves. It’s a great thing to have an ambitious dream, but achieving it depends on a connected with short-term goals. But they set goals when the hidden cowardly retreat, in the mind with “since the goal is so difficult, so no one will blame me for not achieving it? The idea, and then procrastinate, shouting bitter and tired, and casually give up. When you ask about them, they will find countless grand excuses, but always unable to admit their laziness.
Some people will say all day long, “What’s the use of my efforts to earn money? The most important thing is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. Those with high IQ can casually solve the problem ah”, with these words of people are often dissatisfied with their own lives, and are not willing to face the most critical factors of life miserable always in themselves.
See other people running around suffering and staying up all night studying, satisfied with their own greed for pleasure, see others with high IQ friends, feel that others are the bitch that bitch, others work hard to get promoted, feel that the other party must have sent a gift to pat the ass, forgetting that they are late and leave early every day, work up to push three or four. Also forget that the face is given by others, but the son is earned by themselves.
Nothing is done, you want to give up everything. Open mouth is to enjoy the bland, in fact, are lazy people say. This want of the ordinary in the endless money, living in a comfortable house, beautiful clothes, good food, and love of people. You think it’s easy, but you see, which one must not have to struggle with all the effort to struggle?
I especially like the old lady’s passage in the “Old Love Letter”: the old monk said that eventually to see the mountain is the mountain, but you experience see the mountain is not the mountain? Not to take advantage of the young legs to go, to go to the knife mountain fire sea, not into the world think they are out of the world, think they are the living Buddha Nei Lai? My mediocrity is bitter out, your mediocrity is lazy, is afraid, is greedy for comfort, is a dog afraid to see the world.
Don’t live in this life, live as a person who makes himself look down on.