What is masturbation?
Masturbation, also known as masturbation, is the act of stimulating the sexual organs (mainly the external genitals) by self-touching and fondling to produce sexual arousal and orgasm.
Contrary to popular belief, masturbation does not only occur in men, but women also masturbate to satisfy their sexual needs. In addition, masturbation is normal not only in young adults but also from infants to the elderly.
Yes, it can happen in infancy and early childhood.
But that’s usually just unconscious touching of one’s genitals until puberty, when young boys and girls, stimulated by sex hormones and driven by sexual impulses as they develop normally, begin to masturbate consciously, mostly in boys.
Masturbation is necessary
Although people often joke about “masturbation,” masturbation is not shameful and is a normal physiological need.
It is a normal physiological need: to release sexual desire and get a pleasant feeling.
Not bothering others: The pursuit of sexual pleasure is an innate instinct of every person, and there is nothing wrong with enjoying it without bothering others.
More proficient: The sexual pleasure experienced through masturbation promotes proficiency in sexual behavior and is helpful for sex with a partner as an adult. Many people continue the habit of masturbation well into marriage.
More pleasure: In terms of sexual pleasure alone, masturbation brings far more excitement than real intercourse. The reason is that only you know yourself best, and when you are on the verge of orgasm, no matter how experienced your sexual partner is, you will not be 100% satisfied with the action. The so-called two people together, that is just a too beautiful myth.
This is not to say that masturbation can completely replace sexual intercourse, after all, the composition of sexual desire is divided into two parts, one for the desire to release, one for the desire to contact.
But for young men and women who have sexual repression, I hope you will stop misunderstanding masturbation, which is a normal way for human beings to enjoy themselves.
The so-called “excess” is actually a big misunderstanding
Is there a “degree” of masturbation?
In fact, sexual activity is really a matter of “those who can do more and those who are able to do more,” and the “degree” is all in your own feelings.
For example, if a young man with a high sex drive can have sex once a day, and he does not feel uncomfortable even three times a day, it is not a bad idea. This situation is the same as when we are all asked to run 5,000 meters, but individual differences in fitness can make a difference in performance.
Masturbation is not directly related to premature ejaculation
In fact, not only does masturbation not directly cause premature ejaculation, if you masturbate properly and always in a quiet and undisturbed environment, not only does it not cause premature ejaculation, but on the contrary, it can increase the penis’ tolerance to sexual stimulation and make the ejaculation time relatively longer.
To be more precise, the “threshold” is increased.
The threshold can be referred to the concept of “laughing point”: if you are a person who has read a lot of good jokes, then the jokes that are not very humorous will make you laugh? Similarly, if it is a JJ that has been tested in live fire exercises, when it is involved in a real battle, will it be more timid than a JJ that has not even experienced exercises?
So why would anyone think the two are related?
1, historical reasons
Throughout human history, both Chinese and Western, there have been many people who advocate limiting sexual activity.
In the early 18th century, an authority on medical thought, the great clinician Burghardt, wrote in his book “Medical Tutorial” that
Ejaculation can bring fatigue, weakness, weakness of movement, cramps, wasting, thirst, blurred vision, dementia and other similar ailments ……
It is no coincidence that in ancient times, some people in China also put forward the fallacy of “one drop of semen ten drops of blood” to advise men to cherish semen and reduce sexual intercourse.
But with the development of medicine, these fallacies have been broken down one by one.
2, related to the vague definition of premature ejaculation
Generally speaking, premature ejaculation is mainly manifested as an abnormality in the control of ejaculation latency time during sexual life, characterized by short ejaculation latency time after erection and vaginal insertion, or after insertion, and ejaculation occurs uncontrollably and quickly.
Embarrassingly, there are many definitions of premature ejaculation, and there is still no clear conclusion.
For example, there are the following.
In 2010 the American Psychiatric Association: issued the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders – Fifth Edition (DSM-TR-V) revised the definition of premature ejaculation, they changed the term from premature ejaculation to early ejaculation. The previous concept was more inclined to the feelings of both parties, and the other party was not satisfied yet, even if it was premature ejaculation. But the new change emphasizes the concept of premature ejaculation, so maybe the other party has an orgasmic disorder, right? The difference between one word and the other is a medical advancement.
It is generally believed that men who lose the ability to control ejaculation during sexual intercourse, ejaculate before or just after penile insertion into the vagina, or women who reach sexual climax less than 50% of the time during sexual intercourse can be defined as premature ejaculation.
As we can see, the definition of premature ejaculation may also need to be evaluated in relation to the male ejaculatory latency or the frequency of female orgasm during sexual intercourse.
However, since male ejaculatory latency is influenced by the length of abstinence and the frequency of female orgasm is influenced by various factors such as physical state, emotional changes, and the surrounding environment, this definition is not destined to be a nail-biter and needs to be further refined.
Is it so easy to put a definition that is still to be perfected on your own head?
It is better to check if you really belong to the category of “premature ejaculation”. If you do not want to be a nuisance, you will be adding unnecessary psychological pressure to yourself.