A. What is Sexual Focused Training Therapy
Sexual concentration training is a basic method of sex therapy. Originally founded by American sexologists Masters and Johnson in the 1970s, it was a major innovation and breakthrough in the field of modern sex therapy. It has shaken the half-century-long dominance of psychoanalytic therapy in the field of sex therapy. This approach has become widespread in some developed countries such as the United States.
Current research suggests that the essence of psychogenic sexual dysfunction is caused by anxiety, especially operant anxiety resulting from failure of sexual activity. In sexual life, the anxiety and tension repeatedly generated by the fear of failure suppresses the naturalness of sexual function, and the suppression of sexual function inevitably leads to failure of sexual intercourse. “Anxiety-failure-anxiety”, for a long time, this vicious circle formed a wrong pattern of sexual behavior, that is, the emergence of sexual dysfunction.
In fact, in ancient times people have been through the sexual experience to treat sexual problems. Thousands of years ago, a Greek who was deprived of sexual power by the “gods” went to the temple of Amoroti to seek help, where a prostitute trained in the art of sex enjoyed a ritualistic sexual experience with the Greek, and used it to treat the Greek’s erectile dysfunction.
Sexual concentration training through the progressive physical contact between the couple (hugging, touching, massage and other means of tactile stimulation), to eliminate the anxiety, fear and other adverse emotions and experiences in the past sex life, to increase the euphoria in the process of intimate contact, and harmonize the relationship between the couple. In the process of learning the correct sexual behavior pattern step by step, the naturalness of sexual function will be gradually restored, and its dysfunction will be gradually eliminated.
Second, sexy concentration training mainly for what kind of patients?
Sexual concentration training therapy is a technique for the treatment of sexual dysfunction, not only for male erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and non-ejaculation, but also for female sexual indifference, difficulty in intercourse, vaginal cramps and lack of orgasm.
Three, how to conduct sexy concentration training
Sexual concentration training includes two stages, namely: non-genital sexual sensation concentration training and genital sexual sensation concentration training, which can be carried out through a four-step method.
The first stage: non-genital sexy concentration training.
The first step, sexual awareness consistency and anxiety relaxation (3-5 days)
After completing the detailed examination to exclude organic lesions, the instructing doctor will introduce to the couple in detail the knowledge of sexual anatomy, physiology and psychology, focusing on the characteristics of male and female response cycles, different ways of sexual expression and how to arouse sexual excitement, etc. Encourage and guide the couple to discuss the issues related to sex in order to seek a more consistent opinion. In this stage, the couple had better sleep in separate beds and forbid sexual intercourse, the purpose of which is to eliminate the state of anxiety about sexual activities. At the same time, some simple psychological relaxation training should be carried out to further eliminate anxiety tension.
The second step, non-sexual organs of physical and emotional communication (3-5 days)
After completing the previous step, the couple can lie naked together in a closed room without any disturbance, and should concentrate on caressing and experiencing without talking about anything not related to sexual treatment (such as business or life chores). Kissing, hugging and touching each other all over the body may be done, but be careful not to touch the woman’s breasts or sexual organs. While performing these activities, you can communicate with some intimate words and experience the resulting skin pleasure and emotional enjoyment, eliminating fear and stress about sexuality and building confidence and intimacy for both spouses. It is worth noting that these activities are designed to enhance the sensory capabilities of various body parts, not to make sexual arousal or to satisfy the need for intercourse. Although sexual arousal often occurs at this stage, sexual intercourse must not occur and attention should be focused on experiencing pleasure throughout the body. During the last 1-2 days of this step, you can start fondling your breasts, but still do not touch your sexual organs.
Phase 2: Sexual concentration training of the genitals
Step 3: Sexual organ caressing (2-3 days)
On the basis of the completion of the previous step, the couple can expand their caresses to the woman’s breasts and genitals, trying to find the best sexual stimulation points for their own sexual organs. When the best sexual pleasure is achieved through their own stimulation of sexual organs, they should caress each other’s sexual organs. When the man initiates touching the woman, he should gently stroke around the vaginal opening and not initially rush to put his fingers inside the vagina, especially if the woman has vaginal cramps, which may cause anxiety. When the woman has reached sexual arousal, the man can only gently touch the clitoris, otherwise it will make the woman uncomfortable. The man should not only touch the woman’s genital area, but also her breasts, thighs, lower abdomen, buttocks and other parts of her body. At this point the woman can express her feelings through words or actions when receiving caresses, but also can use their hands to guide their spouse to touch the parts they need to feel. When the woman touches the man, she should also touch the man’s thighs, lower abdomen, pubic area and body parts. Touching the penis should be gentle and should also touch the scrotum. The woman’s attention should also be shifted from the male genitals to other parts of the body and then back to the genitals. The couple can also use oral sex for fondling if they wish, but it should not be forced when one partner does not want it. At this stage the couple should also strengthen verbal communication and fully express their feelings in the exercise, but still do not have intercourse, but try to experience the euphoria of the mind and body during the operation and gradually focus the sensuality on the sexual organs.
Step 4, therapeutic sexual activity (4-5 days)
After the above three steps are completed, you can have sexual intercourse activities, but this is not completely casual sexual intercourse, but should be supplemented with special operation methods for different sexual dysfunctions. For example
1, erectile dysfunction: for men with difficult erections or faster weakness, the woman can rhythmically stroke her penis to make it erect, and when the penis is erect and hard, the woman stops stroking and lets the erection subside. This is repeated several times, and only after the erection lasts longer can you start intercourse.
2, premature ejaculation: appropriate stimulation of the male penis, in the imminent ejaculation, the woman put her thumb on the penis tether, the index finger and middle finger on the other side of the penis below the coronal groove. Squeeze and press steadily from front to back for 4 seconds, then suddenly relax. The woman needs to be careful to use her fingers and not her nails, and to apply pressure in a direction that is not from one side to the other. After several repetitions, then start intercourse.
3, no ejaculation: the female partner should not ask the male partner to ejaculate inside the vagina, to stimulate the penis with stronger techniques and encourage the male partner to ejaculate outside the vagina. When the male partner’s semen comes in contact with the labia majora, confidence will increase significantly. The female partner should quickly incorporate the penis into the vagina (take the female superior position potential) and prompt him to ejaculate inside the vagina.
4. Vaginal spasm: Initially, the female patient will experience pleasure by gradually inserting her fingers into the vagina, which can be appropriately lubricated, and then different types (from small to large) of penis molds can be used. After the patient is familiar with it, the husband will assist in the training and then gradually insert the penis into the vagina. This method should also be carried out with sexy concentration training.
5, sexy lack and orgasmic dysfunction: the female initially through masturbation or massage body to will orgasm response, and then choose the side position for sexual activity (the male abdomen to the female buttocks, while favoring one side). The male partner more slowly with the penis rubbing the labia, clitoris and perineum, when the female partner appeared sexual arousal, vaginal discharge increased after the start of sexual intercourse.
Fourth, matters needing attention
1. First of all, an experienced professional doctor is needed to determine whether the patient can receive the treatment. Some patients may only need simple psychological counseling, while some patients with organic lesions need further treatment such as medication or surgery. Although the sexy concentration training is done by the patient at home, the therapy takes a long time (at least 2-3 weeks) and requires a professional doctor to develop a personalized plan and provide guidance to deal with various problems in implementation.
2, the couple should be clear about the purpose of training, to increase the physical and emotional pleasure in the process of intimate contact, the entire training is self-implemented, need to encourage and play their own creativity, not mechanical completion or implementation of the tasks assigned by the doctor, and not overly dependent on the doctor.
It is hoped that through this simple but effective training treatment, more patients can practice at home and gradually restore the naturalness of sexual activity and build a perfect sexual life together.