When parents give birth to a child with cleft lip and palate, we can understand their shock, guilt, anxiety, disappointment and low self-esteem. Parents should first accept the child psychologically and cooperate with the completion of the treatment plan. The level of education of the parents and their attitude towards the child will influence the later development of the child’s personality. Therefore, parents should be advised to try to overcome their feelings of guilt and sympathy and nurture him as a normal child. Over-protection and over-rejection will only make the child more aware of his own defects and will easily develop a capricious and domineering or chronic personality that will affect him for the rest of his life. Parents should try to be honest, relaxed and open to explaining their child’s problems when asked about his defects after he understands them. By allowing him to understand his problems early and as much as possible, it will be easier to assist him in facing them. A child with cleft lip and palate is no different from a normal child in terms of personality development, except that he or she must cooperate with a long-term, multifaceted treatment program. Therefore, parents must spend more effort to develop his inner ability and confidence to face external frustrations and stress. For example, from an early age, they should always encourage him with biographies of great people and instill in him a sincere concern for others and help them. Having a good personality and talent is more important than having a beautiful appearance. When he is in kindergarten and elementary school, let his school teachers understand his problems, let his classmates accept him, and help him enjoy a happy school life. By providing constant encouragement and support when he is depressed or discouraged, he will develop into a physically and mentally healthy individual who can contribute to society. In addition, you should actively help your child to receive treatment. Treatment is multifaceted, including surgical treatment, orthodontic treatment, speech therapy, and psychotherapy. Only if the child receives treatment in a timely and perfect manner can he or she achieve the ideal treatment effect and be able to enter society as a normal person.