Premature ejaculation (Ejaculation) is a disorder of sexual intercourse in which ejaculation occurs before the penis enters the vagina or after a short time in the vagina, before the woman has reached orgasm and ejaculates early. Premature ejaculation is caused by a variety of reasons: 1) psychological reasons: feelings of guilt and insecurity; 2) organic reasons: allergy to penile sensation or increased excitability of sensory nerves, dysfunction of the ejaculatory center to distinguish penile sensation; 3) other: prostatitis, prepuce, vesiculitis, glansitis, sympathetic ganglion injury, diabetes, etc.
The causes of premature ejaculation are many, and the corresponding countermeasures should be used for different causes. First of all, we should popularize the knowledge of sex, comprehensively understand the sexual life history of different couples, combine with the specific situation of the patient, make guiding suggestions, and overcome the ideological anxiety; the time of reassurance before sexual intercourse is essential, and the male partner should be properly distracted and not overly nervous, and both spouses should cooperate well, and adopt various behavioral treatments to prolong the time of initiating ejaculation, together with drug treatment, so that both spouses have The couple has enough time to reach the climax of sexual excitement and sexual pleasure during intercourse.
The phenomenon of premature ejaculation that occurs when a newlywed has sexual intercourse for the first time, or when a couple is reunited after a long time, is mostly due to the fact that men are full of sperm and excited, and cannot be treated as a pathology. The phenomenon of premature ejaculation will disappear when the sexual life is normal.
Psychological treatment of premature ejaculation
At present, psychological treatment, especially behavioral treatment, is highly recommended at home and abroad, and is considered to be more effective. Through general psychotherapy, patients can be taught about sex, help them release their worries and reduce anxiety and tension, and teach them to master the method of muscle relaxation to eliminate fear and anxiety before sexual intercourse. In behavioral therapy, the method adopted by Masters and Johnson is more commonly used abroad. The Soviet sex psychologist Koladokhvir developed a set of homework therapy according to its therapeutic principles, requiring patients to complete it according to quality and quantity, divided into seven sets: mutual touching of sexually sensitive areas, establishing the excitement of the female organ, stimulating the feeling of the penis, prolonging the excitement of the penis, the feeling of the sexual organ when in contact, the penis entering feeling of clitoral stimulation after vaginal stimulation, feeling of sexual excitement.
The treatment of premature ejaculation is a matter for both spouses, especially the participation of the wife in the treatment is very important. The psychological treatment of premature ejaculation requires the cooperation of the patient’s wife. Because of the misunderstanding or complaint of the female partner, it will make the male partner’s tension and anxiety rise and increase the psychological burden. The female partner should have a sympathetic and caring attitude, give words and behavioral comfort, relieve the male partner’s tension, and help him to establish confidence in healing.
Self-confidence
The first thing is that the man should be convinced that his sexual function is healthy and normal, the occasional premature ejaculation is as soon as the cold and flu will heal, no need to be upset about it. Not only should the man himself be confident, but the woman should also help the man build this confidence.
Relax
The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a lot of money for the money. In the sexual life do not focus on the idea of whether to produce premature ejaculation, to relax to experience the wife’s warmth.
Hints
When having sex with your wife, you can suggest to yourself: “I will be able to control the time of my ejaculation and I will not discharge semen prematurely” to reinforce this idea and silently suggest yourself, which will receive good results.
Sedation
The man should try to make himself emotionally stable during the arousal phase of sex and not get overly excited. If you get too excited, you can use distraction methods such as reciting poetry or reciting numbers silently.
Understanding
The female partner should comfort her husband with sympathy and concern, do not blame, sarcasm and taunt, otherwise it will make the situation more serious.
Cooperation
The woman should patiently and actively cooperate with the man, warm and gentle physical contact, tolerant and encouraging attitude and the necessary caress, etc., all help the man’s sexual function to play normally.
Environment
Choose the best time and environment, such as after waking up early in the morning of a holiday, or in the second half of the night when there is no environmental interference, these environmental conditions can make the male partner more relaxed.
Behavioral treatment for premature ejaculation
For people who have premature ejaculation, they should first ask their doctor to determine if it is true premature ejaculation. Some people mistakenly believe they have premature ejaculation, but the two parties are actually not coordinated in the timing of their orgasms, and it is quite common for the female partner to ejaculate prematurely while the male partner has not yet reached orgasm, which is not true premature ejaculation. The way to correct this situation is: at the beginning of sexual intercourse, the male partner tries to remain calm, move calmly and slowly, make full use of the female sex feeling diffuse, supplemented by caressing action, so that the female partner will gradually concentrate her sensuality on her sex organ and promote her orgasm to come earlier. When the man feels a strong desire to ejaculate and it is difficult to restrain it, he can rest for a moment to inhibit the occurrence of ejaculation. If you are not able to do so, you can avoid the habitual premature ejaculation. For the treatment of real premature ejaculation, the first thing to do is to find out the cause, such as premature ejaculation of vascular origin and premature ejaculation caused by local stimulation of the urethra, which should be treated by a urologist. Pay attention to moderate moderation in sexual life, dilute the dominant stimulation of sensuality with other healthy cultural and physical activities, live a regular life and ensure enough sleep. In serious cases, Valium, Librium, and other inhibitory drugs can be used. Because premature ejaculation is related to overexcitation of the cerebral cortex, tranquilizing drugs can regulate the neural activity of the cerebral cortex and integrate the pathological dominant excitation point formed in the cerebral cortex, which can properly control premature ejaculation. In addition the use of condoms for sexual intercourse can reduce the sensitivity of the glans, thus prolonging the time it takes for the libido to reach orgasm, which can also avoid premature ejaculation (wear two condoms if necessary). It has been reported that brief and intermittent pressure on the glans coronalis or the root of the penis with the woman’s finger during intercourse can delay ejaculation. It’s worth a try. For the organic causes of premature ejaculation, we should actively treat the original disease, and after the original disease is cured, premature ejaculation will improve since. In addition, local closure therapy, acupuncture therapy, qigong therapy and Chinese medicine therapy have been widely used, but the real efficacy is difficult to determine. Some people use methods to reduce the local stimulation of the penis, or transfer excitement, or idea control to deal with premature ejaculation, these methods not only have no obvious effect, but also reduce the pleasure of sexual life.
Non-pharmacological treatment
Premature ejaculation is one of the male sexual dysfunctions, except for those caused by organic lesions, can generally be treated non-pharmacologically, and as long as it is persistent, it can achieve results that cannot be achieved by drugs. The root cause of premature ejaculation is that the stimulation threshold required for ejaculation is too low, and non-pharmacological treatment is also to raise the threshold in order to eliminate the link between stimulation and response.
A. Intermittent sexual intercourse method: During sexual intercourse, when a man has a premonition of ejaculation, he immediately stops thrusting the penis and leaves the penis in the cunt, the vagina expands when the woman is sexually excited and the head of the penis does not touch the vaginal wall, which can reduce the stimulation of the glans and lower sexual excitement. This repeated intermittent sexual intercourse can prevent premature ejaculation.
B, using condom intercourse method: men wearing a condom for intercourse can reduce the friction of the penis, thus reducing the sensitivity of male sexual excitement, prolonging the intercourse time and avoiding premature ejaculation.
C. Pinch and squeeze method: This method is the best method for non-pharmacological treatment of premature ejaculation, it can improve the ejaculation stimulation drop value of men, relieve the urgency of ejaculation, enhance sexual excitement, improve the reflex state of ejaculation and rebuild or restore the normal ejaculation time. The pinching method can be performed by both men and women, but is better performed by the female partner than by the male partner alone. At the beginning of the simple squeeze, without sexual intercourse, the squeeze method is: the female partner with the thumb (abdomen) on the penile tether area, index finger and middle finger (abdomen) on the penis coronal groove edge of the upper and lower, gently squeeze for 4 seconds and then suddenly relax, so line 4 to 5 times. Do not pinch or scratch the penis with your fingernails. Then have sexual intercourse, the penis is inserted into the vagina without mentioning the plug, sitting still, both men and women will pay attention to the emotions of other parts of the body, later pull out the penis, and then pinch and squeeze 4 to 5 times, and then insert the vagina, start to slowly mention the plug, wait until almost ejaculation, pull out the penis again to pinch and squeeze, and then insert the vagina for 4 to 5 minutes, the speed of the plug can be accelerated until ejaculation. After half a month or a month of pinching and squeezing, most of the ejaculation, the time can be extended, so that you can pinch and squeeze the root of the penis, the effect is also good, while reducing the trouble of pulling out the penis. Pinch squeeze method generally need to carry out 3 to 6 months to consolidate the effect, according to the survey report efficiency up to 95.1%, is a proven non-drug therapy.
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Progressive delay training method
The solution to premature ejaculation may seem complicated, but it’s actually very simple, but of course, it’s not so simple that it can be solved by telling you just a few words. Generally speaking, the behavioral training method is the more popular method because there are no side effects, but the behavioral training method ignores the psychological emotions of men during sex, and psychological emotions are also an important reason for whether or not premature ejaculation is a problem, but of course even if the simple combination of behavioral therapy and psychological method shows a pathway to premature ejaculation treatment, it is not an absolute pathway because in reality, overcoming premature ejaculation It is not the patient’s problem alone, he needs more crutches to finish the road of overcoming premature ejaculation. The Progressive Delay Training Method gives men with premature ejaculation more pathways to overcome premature ejaculation
Contraindications
1, if you want to stay away from premature ejaculation male friends should first quit drinking and avoid spicy stimulation.
2, but also to quit the habit of masturbation, to avoid premarital sex.
3, avoid masturbation, regular intercourse, should not be excessive nor long abstinence.
4, must be careful not to have sexual intercourse after fatigue, and do not force sexual intercourse, which is the most taboo to prevent premature ejaculation.
In addition, actively participate in outdoor physical exercise, especially the practice of qigong, mainly to improve the physical and mental quality, enhance the ability to control the idea.
6, adjust their emotions, eliminate the nervousness, inferiority complex and fear caused by the fear that their sexual organs are too small, sexual ability is not enough, etc.. When the sex life to do to relax.
7, the most important thing is that men suffering from premature ejaculation, the female must be considerate, do not say some stimulating words to aggravate the psychology of the male, to give the male side a warmer environment.