1. The power of affection “Affection” is a very warm word, especially for cleft lip and palate patients. Parents are their safe harbor and tree to rely on. Parents should also use this role to help them face the reality bravely and encourage them to explore their talents such as painting, playing the piano, literature, etc., so that they can be strong for the future.
2.Create a healthy and relaxing environment For the neighbors, parents can communicate with the parents of other children through door-to-door visits, so that the parents can then communicate with their children; when the affected child enters kindergarten or school, parents can communicate with the teachers at school, so that the teachers can then communicate with the students, so that the children around the affected child do not reject him and create a healthy and relaxing environment for the affected child.
Because of the deformity of the child, parents sometimes adopt an overprotective behavior towards the child, such as when the child is hurt or bullied by children around them, parents will find those children who have hurt their children and their parents and make a fuss in order to “get justice” for the child, and seriously warn them not to have similar situations. The child may not be allowed to play with other children. Or the child may be prevented from playing with other children to keep them away from the disappointing, uncomfortable and hurtful stimuli that are essential to the child’s mental development and emotional development. The result can be a lack of interaction with normal children and a loss of social contact, leading to a closed mind. We recommend that parents treat their children like normal children and bring them into contact with children of the same age as early as possible to give them the opportunity to learn and master social skills appropriate to their age and gradually build up their self-confidence in life.
4, avoid over-indulgent attitude Many parents out of compensation for the child’s psychology, to the child’s life, there are mistakes to listen to, the child encountered life or learning difficulties, parents also do everything, afraid of children under pressure and frustration. Over time, the child will become overly dependent on the parents and more vulnerable, more unable to go to society, which is not conducive to the physical and mental development of the child.
5, avoid excessive mention of the patient’s deformity Out of concern for the deformity, parents and friends and relatives always show more or less anxiety in front of the child, and can not stop pointing, or a long time to look at the child’s face, which will make the child psychologically think that even their parents can not accept themselves. Therefore, we remind parents that it is appropriate to care about their children’s deformities, but never mention them frequently in front of them.
6.Regular psychological counseling for timely detection of problems Since the mental-psychological health status can directly affect the quality of life of patients and their families, psycho-psychological evaluation and treatment should be considered an important part of comprehensive cleft lip and palate treatment.