The resting position, as the name implies, is in the most relaxed state possible. The end result of the TMJ rest position is to gently close your mouth, fill your mouth with your tongue, and prop your upper and lower teeth apart by 2-3mm so that they do not bite together. The key to this is the tongue!!! It should be relaxed enough not to force it, spread your tongue flat against your upper jaw, especially near the root area, like a suction cup a bit, against each other, with the tip of your tongue behind your teeth, tighten your jaw, relax your face muscles and breathe through your nose. Please insist on this good habit, often with half the effort, do it, you can also be your own doctor, and there will even be unexpected surprises, many patients later found to say that their face looks better.