“Mom, where did I come from?” We all asked our parents this question when we were young, but they always avoided talking about it or answered “You came out of a rock” when asked in a hurry. For our generation, sex education is relatively missing, so we often do not know how to properly give sex education to our children when we grow up, and we do not know how to talk to our children about “sex”. Today we will talk about this topic, sex education and when to start it? What is the most appropriate time to talk to your child about sex? How should parents talk to their children about sex education? We usually say that parents are the first teachers of their children. So, parents are also the first teachers of sex education for their children. When does sex education begin? The answer is: at birth. The purpose of sex education is to guide children to learn the correct knowledge of sex and to form a healthy sexual mentality and sexual morality. Family sex education often does not require lectures, so do not use the “didactic” model, good family sex education should be in the daily life of the infiltration and infection, can be from the child’s teething period of dress, inappropriate language jokes, to the kindergarten boys and girls toilet separate, elementary school about the opposite sex, about the love of strange words, and then the secondary school period of hazy love. And then to the hazy feelings in the middle school years ……. Little by little, children are guided to know how to protect themselves. In the United States early sex education is 0-5 years old. The main points of sex education generally include: establishing correct and appropriate gender roles; preventing sexual repression and inhibition from an early age; and correctly answering the sexual questions children ask. Dr. Pilsar, a famous American sex therapy expert, believes that parents should follow the following principles when educating young children about sex: 1, parents should never formally “talk about sex”, but rather look for appropriate opportunities to educate, and can also use sex education science picture books, as an introduction to sex education for children, through the picture books and illustrations and The story, to the child to do sexual enlightenment, so parents will not be embarrassed. 2, sex education does not have to be about the same gender, as long as the child has doubts, both parents can talk. Psychologists believe that 2-4 years old is an important period of sex education for children, in psychology, there is a sex bud period, is specifically about 3 years old young children have a special stage of psychological development, this period of the child to raise sexual issues is not because of their own physical needs, but simply to meet their curiosity. So when the child asks you, must not be vague or shy, not to mention simple and brutal, should respond positively to the child’s curiosity, and frankly face sexual problems. 3, sex education, the first thing that should be stressed is “what can be done”, not “what can not be done”. Parents can tell the picture book, but also with the child to watch some sex education science video, such as the United States to prevent sexual assault short film “How to tell your child”, through the video to tell and guide the child which is able to do, which is not allowed. 4, sex and love education is not only once in a lifetime, it needs to be continuous, so do not expect to educate once to make the child immune for life. In addition, both parents should teach at the same time, and both parents are the closest example of loving and being loved. According to the different ages of young children, the following education can be made: 1. For 0-3 year olds, parents should tell their children: (1) Every child’s body belongs to him or her, and help them to correctly understand their gender and the differences between the sexes; (2) Strangers are not allowed to touch your body, but certain adults are allowed to touch your body, such as parents bathing their children, and A doctor or nurse examining a child’s body; (3) If someone touches your body in a way that makes you feel scared, surprised, or uncomfortable, be sure to tell your parents. (2) For preschoolers aged 4-5, parents should tell their children: (1) to help them know the correct names of the parts of the body (such as penis, vagina, etc.) in the bathroom, parents can help you wipe your little butt or wash your little butt; also, when you don’t want to be touched by other people on your body, you can clearly tell others that you don’t like it; (2) to make children understand that they can’t just expose certain genital organs of the body. because it is personal, not that certain body parts of someone are shameful, but out of respect for personal privacy; (3) boys and girls are different, so you can’t let others touch your body casually, and don’t touch other people’s bodies casually, so that children can learn to protect themselves; also, if someone touches or violates your private parts and asks you to keep it a secret, you must tell your parents (4) It is wrong for an adult to observe and touch the genital organs of a particular child when there is no valid reason to do so; (5) If an adult touches or observes a child in an abnormal way, the child itself is not at fault; (6) Most adults do not sexually assault children, but both boys and girls can experience sexual assault. 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