Family members of cancer patients can play a great role in the recovery process of the patient, mainly for the following reasons: they can ask the patient to change his view on the disease, ask him to accept self-imagination, ask him to exercise, guide him to actively cooperate with the doctor for treatment, and help him to build up self-confidence and regain courage for life. Therefore, we encourage the family to communicate with the patient frequently in terms of thoughts and feelings. When you hear that your loved one is suffering from cancer, you may have various emotions: anxiety, pain, fear and so on. No matter how you feel, you must acknowledge this reality, try to find the most favorable attitude for your loved one, and communicate with the patient openly. You and all family members must be prepared to listen to the patient’s inner feelings, even if you are very reluctant to do so. When a patient learns that he has cancer, he may be too sad to control himself and grieve for his imminent death. The family should know that this grief and sadness is a normal reaction and that the family must show a willingness to share the patient’s suffering. Unless the patient asks to be alone, try to accompany him, comfort him, and try to be close to him. When a patient is in an unusual emotional turmoil, family members are usually eager to help him. If this is the case, it is best to ask the patient, “Is there something you want me to do?” Then listen carefully. This is the time when misunderstandings are most likely to arise and attempts should be made to hear what the real meaning in the patient’s request is. Sometimes the patient is feeling sorry for himself. He may say, “Leave me alone, I’m already like this anyway,” etc. Since he is emotionally charged and speaking vaguely, you can ask him as you understand it, “Do you really want me to leave you alone?” Or “I haven’t understood you yet, do you want me to leave or stay with you?” By doing this, you can be sure exactly if you truly understand his intentions and the patient will know if you truly understand what you are asking of him. Sometimes you will hear impossible requests, sometimes the patient’s pent-up emotions will explode, and you don’t have to just put up with it, you can try to say something like, “At this point, I also understand that you must feel sad and very angry, and the severity of your bad mood, I didn’t know until now, but I can’t really take it anymore when you treat people like this. ” Saying this shows that you accept the patient’s feelings, and he will feel that you understand his performance, while also expressing your own feelings honestly. As for the requests that cannot be done, be careful to do your best to preserve your own mind from being damaged. For unreasonable requests, you can just say the limit of your ability, “I can do whatever you want, what you say I happen to be unable to do, please say a little more about something else and see if I can do it.” This shows that you still love seeing the patient and clearly states the limits of what you can and are willing to do. Some patients may ask for things that the family may have to sacrifice their time and energy to do, but this can often be resolved through careful communication, with both parties fully understanding what the patient is asking for. Cancer patients are generally very lucid and reasonable. One thing to remember is that with a patient, you are the listener and should not rush to express your own anxiety. Patients are already filled with a lot of self-reflection and introspection during their illness, and sometimes it is natural for them to be relatively speechless. If you are comfortable with relative silence, there is no need to force yourself to talk. Only when you really have something to say, and then to talk to each other, to allow each other and you have different feelings, and let each other have the opportunity to sincerely express their inner feelings, and allow him to be silent. Third, encourage the patient to establish a sense of responsibility and actively participate in rehabilitation While trying to support and love the patient, family members should actively allow the patient to take responsibility for his own health and allow him to actively participate in his own rehabilitation activities. Therefore, when caring for the patient, it is important to see him as someone who is capable of taking responsibility, and not as someone who is incapable of helping himself. To this end, our recommendations are: 1. Do not take care of everything for the patient; “Doing everything for the patient” may seem “caring” and “considerate”, but in fact it makes the patient weaker and “powerless”. The patient needs to take responsibility for his own physical and mental health. The patient needs to take responsibility for his or her own physical and mental health. In fact, nothing could be more destructive than to deprive the patient of this need. Many patients may complain of pain and weakness, and may not be able to do things they could easily do before, so family members may try to help them as much as possible, doing this and that for them, including what the patient has thought of and what he has not thought of, and even what the patient can do. Sometimes, in order not to add to the patient’s preoccupation, not to tell him everything that happens at home. This is not a good idea, as the patient needs to be more involved at this critical time, and not isolated. Of course, there can be a little more “good news, not bad news”. This can be done by asking him for his opinion on decisions, so that his desire to live will be higher. 2. Encourage the patient to actively participate in rehabilitation In order to recover health faster and more effectively, the patient is encouraged to “take his fate into his own hands”. It is important to re-emphasize that while encouraging the patient to do what he can, he should be loved, supported and encouraged to take care of himself without relying on others, not just when he is weak. If all the care and love for the patient is motivated by his physical weakness, then the disease will become his pillar of support, causing him to become decrepit and thus not motivating him to recover his health. The following suggestions may guide you to help a cancer patient appropriately: 1. Encourage the patient to take care of himself. The patient should be allowed to take care of some things by himself, and the family should encourage the patient to be strong. For example, praise the patient: “It’s great that you can do it by yourself”, or say: “It’s great that you can participate in family activities too!” etc. 2. When the patient’s health looks better, tell him in time to let him know that you are happy for him too. For example, “You look better today”, “The doctor said your labs are normal”, etc. 3. Engage in some non-treatment related activities with the patient to distract him from the disease, and at the same time make him feel that he is capable of engaging in activities other than treatment, thus increasing his confidence to live. 4.When the condition is improving, it is also important to have someone with you often. It is human nature to enjoy the care of others, and care and support must continue even when the patient is improving.