Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) has been listed as one of the four major mental disorders that seriously affect the lives of urbanites. Some seemingly habitual thoughts and behaviors are enough to torment people unable to work and live normally, and are even seen as “weird” by people around them. Especially the following four most common compulsive ideas and behaviors, more urban people “disturbed”. Late to bed compulsive most have something on their mind “the more night the more excited. I really can’t do anything about going to bed early. Long night, no mind to sleep. I thought only I could not sleep, I did not think you could not sleep. The world is asleep, and this group is still awake in a state of confusion.” This is the declaration of a well-known “late sleep compulsive” group on the Internet. This group of people, will not work late into the night, nor will they dance and sing all night, but that is – if they let them lie in bed early, how can not sleep. Likewise, they do not belong to the group of insomnia, because once they fall into bed, they can also sleep until dawn. “In fact, I have nothing to do, just do not want to sleep at night. Always to 11 o’clock to wash up, must be on the Internet, watch movies, read books, stay up until two or three o’clock sleepy eyelids fighting, in order to sleep.” Miss Zhang, who works in the media, defined herself and this group as “compulsive late sleep”. For people helpless “can not sleep at night”, we must first distinguish whether their behavior is pathological. Some people with mental illnesses, such as depression or other emotional disorders, tend to have this condition, but this is, after all, a minority. For most people, sleeping late is a repeated and reinforcing psychological process, mostly caused by stress, although they may not be aware of it. This is not really “OCD”, but it can be said to have some compulsive “tendencies”. People live and work in a state of activity during the day, while sleep is a state of stillness. Under the pressure of society, many people “finish their work, but their minds are still spinning” – school, employment, promotion and salary increase, colleague relations, etc. – so that when they lie in bed When you get into bed, you suddenly find that there are still many things to think about. The compulsion to sleep late is a manifestation of the many confusions inside that cannot be resolved. For these people, the first thing to do is to learn to adjust your life step by step. The daily work life is carefully planned and completed one by one, and then “empty” the brain before going to bed, so that their bedtime half an hour earlier each week, while carefully feel the early to bed to bring energy. Secondly, increase communication with the outside world, to give an outlet for stress, do not let the knot in the night pop into the mind. Again, develop the right self-awareness, do not keep immersed in stress, do not care too much about what others say about themselves. Finally, it is still very good to take more exercise to adjust your sleep, but also try to regulate your diet and so on, so that everything in your life is on the right track. Forced tardiness Learn to break the routine Russian newspaper Pravda did a survey and found that 24% of people are often late for work and 13% are occasionally late. There is nothing wrong with occasional tardiness; but if it becomes a regular occurrence, it may be a compulsion. Mr. Zhou is the “king of tardiness”. He set a bottom line for himself, he will watch the alarm clock to get up, such as the mind is preset to get up at 7:30, even at 7:29, he will watch the alarm clock go past that minute and then get up, then rush to wash and dress to go out, and then go back to check whether they locked the door, whether the gas is turned off. It is inevitable that you will be late. OCD patients always do some repetitive actions. For example, they repeatedly check whether the doors and windows are closed when they go out, they repeatedly check whether the gas is turned off, and they repeatedly check the papers they have written. As a result of these actions, patients are slow and inefficient, such as being late for school or work, or not completing certain tasks as scheduled. For example, the “tardiness king” mentioned in the case belongs to the category of compulsion. These people tend to have strong regularity and like to follow a routine, so once the routine is broken, they may feel intolerable. For this type of person, the first thing to do is to determine whether the pressure of work is too heavy to get up on time in the morning. If this is the case, it is best to “speed up” your work to ensure that you have 6-8 hours of quality sleep in the evening. Next, try to explore some of the benefits of “arriving early”. For example, if you get to the office 10 minutes early, you can clear your desk, make yourself a cup of coffee, and straighten out the things you need to do for the day. Finally, try to change all the inertia related to “late”, such as finishing the work at hand as early as possible, learn to control their own time, and over time will be able to change the problem of late. Mr. Zhang defines himself as an “information freak” and is very enthusiastic about any information, no matter it is useful or not. He always feels that the phone is ringing; occasionally forget to bring the phone, will be fidgety, always feel that there are important things were missed; in the office, every few minutes to see if QQ or MSN is online, afraid to miss the important message …… “back to their own job search, collected hundreds of When I was looking for a job, I collected hundreds of recruitment information, sent emails one by one, and almost every few minutes I had to check my emails for fear of missing an important reply.” Liu Baofeng, a senior psychologist at the Chinese Mental Health Association, points out that in modern society, the compulsive collection of massive amounts of information is indeed becoming more and more common. In addition to checking cell phones and emails frequently, information compulsion also manifests itself in buying regular newspapers and magazines every week, visiting bookstores regularly and buying a wide range of books each time, browsing the Internet and clicking on web links, opening many web pages at the same time, updating all software to the latest version, and collecting all kinds of online information. This is because, in a competitive environment, a newest information may be an opportunity for promotion and salary increase, and the higher the value of using information in the workplace, the more oppressive it is to office workers. In addition, while exchanging information, people are constantly spying on each other’s current situation, and then they will force themselves to collect more information and put it into practice to surpass each other. People who have “information compulsion” are often perfectionists and have high expectations of themselves. Specifically in terms of large amounts of information, they tend to demand that they collect more and more content, fearing that they will miss any so-called “valuable” content. In addition, these people are often poor adaptability, and do not have the ability to distinguish between good and bad information. These people need to develop organization, learn to allocate time, and use the main focus on the important work. In addition, need to try to accept new changes, such as leaving the phone for a day to see if the sky really will fall. And in the face of the vast amount of information, learn to distinguish what is useful to you, and may indeed be used in the future to save, if you know you will only look at this once, simply close the page. Finally, learn to categorize documents, separate those that need to be kept for a long time and in stages, and clean them regularly, thus simplifying the process of finding information. Weight loss forces don’t pursue perfection too much Xiao Yun has had a history of losing weight for seven or eight years. “I lost too much weight once, which led to menstrual disorders. Now I don’t dare to use any more aggressive methods, but I also don’t dare to eat more, calculate roughly how many calories I eat every day, and stop when I reach the upper limit, and then I must do more exercise to burn off. This period of time is very anxious mood, I am very concerned about what I eat every day, will not gain weight. For example, I want to eat the same thing, but once I think about the high calorie count, forget it and change to something else. It seems that every day is concerned about losing weight this one thing. I also know I’m not too fat, just big-boned, but I don’t know why, but I always want to be a little thinner.” Many girls are too demanding for their body shape, in fact, also belong to a compulsive tendency. Such people tend to pay too much attention to their appearance and body. This is actually a manifestation of self-ignorance. Such people tend to characterize themselves by what others say about them, and overly pursue perfection. In addition, such people are easily suggestible in other behaviors, and their moods often come and go. From a social point of view, modern culture’s affirmation and praise of “slimness” and the media’s excessive publicity tend to have a subtle influence on young girls. In any case, you may not have a perfect body, but you should also learn to find other positive aspects, high moral character, easy-going personality, knowledgeable and elegant can become your shining point. In addition, it is especially important for schools and families to reinforce education. Children need to understand the definition of “self-esteem” from an early age and learn to create self-knowledge and value. It is important to note that if extreme weight loss is pursued and eating disorders develop, it is time to seek professional help.