Having a tumor is not scary, what is scary is that patients, their families and friends are often overwhelmed and frightened. Patients start to be terrified, either they exhaust all available methods, resulting in over-treatment, which is inappropriate; or they give up completely and lose the hope of survival; family members and friends suddenly care about patients enthusiastically, buy the so-called anti-tumor health products in the market, or collect various small prescriptions everywhere to confuse the regular treatment, or they “advise” patients according to their own understanding. “These are real problems. These are some real problems, although they have nothing to do with the standard treatment by oncologists, they affect the treatment, and sometimes even negate the rare treatment effect completely. Then how should tumor patients, their families and friends understand tumor correctly? Patients should have real understanding and firm confidence As patients should have optimistic attitude and firm belief in life. These are not mere ideological education, but should be built on real cognition. It can be said that every person has a sense of black cloud of despair when they know they have tumor, but some people can really wake up from this despair quickly and find a correct and reasonable way to deal with it. Life is beautiful and there is no reason to just give up at any time. With the further development of medicine, the effect of comprehensive treatment of tumor nowadays has made a great breakthrough compared with before. Regular medical checkups and now the national screening for female tumors are gradually and comprehensively promoted free of charge, which will provide a good reference for early diagnosis. With early diagnosis, tumors are not that scary, such as breast cancer with a 5-year cure rate of 90%-95%, stage II with 70% to 80%, and stage III with 50% to 60%; cervical cancer with early detection, the cure rate is likely to reach 100%. There is another issue worthy of attention, tumor treatment is just like buying something, not the most expensive one is the most suitable one. In our country, there is also the problem of choosing Chinese and Western medicine treatment. In terms of the current standard of tumor treatment, for patients who have the chance of surgery, we should try to fight for the chance of surgery if we can tolerate it. For those who do not have the chance of surgery or post-operative consolidation treatment, comprehensive medical treatment is needed. In terms of effective data, only surgery is possible to cure female tumors, but it is not true that surgery is the only cure. Nowadays, oncology still emphasizes reasonable comprehensive treatment, each method has its indications, contraindications and corresponding efficiency, that is, to choose the most suitable method under appropriate circumstances. There is also the problem of taking Chinese medicine, which is a very good treatment for Chinese people than foreigners. Chinese medicine has unique advantages in the prevention and treatment of toxic side effects of radiotherapy, post-operative body recovery, prevention and treatment of recurrence and metastasis and symptomatic treatment of advanced tumors. Patients with ovarian cancer may experience menopause-like symptoms after surgery because the removal of the largest female endocrine organ causes endocrine disorders resulting in the early onset of menopause. In TCM, this condition is usually treated by tonifying the liver and kidneys, which can be very effective and beneficial to the recovery of the body after surgery. However, we generally do not emphasize on pure Chinese medicine treatment. Chinese medicine is a good way to treat tumors, but it should not be deified, and should be treated with reasonable dialectical evidence. Return to normal life as soon as possible after treatment For patients who have finished treatment, try to live back to normal life and don’t think about the tumor all day long. The only thing you have to do related to this disease is to follow the doctor’s prescription for regular review, and you don’t even need to read the review results, just hand them to the doctor. If there is no problem, the doctor will naturally not say anything; in case there is a problem, the doctor will also deal with it. You always think about the laboratory test, CT report, the heart of the string simply can not relax, how will have a good mood. Without a relaxed and happy mood, it is a big obstacle to the recovery of tumor. The development of breast cancer is closely related to emotion and will from the theory of Chinese medicine, because the disease is caused by “depression” and “agitation”. Do not take things too seriously. For young patients, try to resume normal work, which is more conducive to reduce your concern about the disease, and help to relax your mood. For elderly patients, they should participate in more social activities and travel, which are better than worrying about the test results all the time. As family members and relatives and friends of tumor patients, you can care about the patients, but you need to pay attention not to be overly concerned. In the clinic, I heard some patients say, “How come so many people come to see me these days, am I going to die? The family and friends to do is to chat with them, help them to build confidence to overcome the disease, even if they know that the cure is hopeless, but also to help patients to understand the disease correctly, do not give up lightly. Family members and friends try not to give advice to patients on treatment, you are not professional doctors, and patients sometimes believe in their own words, which is very bad for treatment. Don’t give advice even on so-called health supplements. If you really need them, I believe the doctor in charge will give advice. And most of the time, health care products are not useful for treating tumor, but only psychological comfort, and waste a lot of money. As for the issue of food therapy for tumor patients, we generally suggest to consult professionals, either doctors or nutritionists, in regular institutions. If you go to a Chinese medicine practitioner, you need to identify the evidence of food therapy, and the advice may be different according to the specific situation of each person. Therefore, it is not recommended to listen to the advice of others, saying that which grass or which something has a therapeutic effect on certain tumors, and then insist on eating it, which is pure nonsense. If you don’t want to seek professional advice, then remember one sentence as the standard of food therapy – eat what you want, stop eating if you don’t feel well, and pay attention to nutritional balance. You don’t need to pursue anything deliberately, respect your own taste and don’t let others tell you what to eat.