In order to carry out multi-faceted discussions, studies and attempts on the issue of children’s meals, we must first analyze the reasons for not promoting children to talk while eating in kindergartens. 1, the reasons for the concept of parenting Chinese parents have a deep-rooted understanding that children need to eat more to consume more nutrition, so many parents in order to let children eat more, from childhood is “begging” or forcing children to eat, as for eating more or less is rarely decided by the child, so that children see eating as a task to complete, rather than to meet The child sees eating as a task to be accomplished, not as a way to satisfy his or her own physical needs. What happens when children arrive at kindergarten? Kindergartens are now implementing a recipe for substitution, which means that they provide meals according to the amount of nutrients that children need to consume every day (national regulations), which means that there are rules about how many meals children can eat at each meal, and teachers have to do everything they can to persuade children to eat more and not to have leftovers. At the end of the school year there is a physical examination, and the growth rate of children’s height and weight also makes teachers pay attention to the amount of food children eat. As a result, we can’t help but ask, who should be in charge of eating? 2. Arrangements in the rest and recreation system Kindergartens believe that the interval between two meals should be no less than four hours, and if the meal time is too long, the interval between two meals is too short, which will affect the amount of food eaten at the next meal (back to the first problem). Chinese children eat in the park more often, the meal time is too long will affect the activities of other links, such as breakfast time is too long will shorten the activities of the children’s activity area and outdoor activities; Chinese food time is too long will affect the children’s nap time …… This is the reason for the children’s work and rest system, of course, there are also various post teachers work work and rest system arrangements on the reasons. 3, awareness of physiological factors At the time of writing this article, I asked my daughter (12 years old this year): “Can you talk at dinner?” She replied decisively, “Of course not. When asked why, she got her biology textbook and read: “…… Some people talk and laugh while eating, and when they swallow, they swallow in time to cover the cartilage, and the food enters the trachea, which can cause a violent cough. It can also be life-threatening (the last sentence is not in the book, she added it herself).” This physiological phenomenon is something that many of us in China have been taught since childhood and has become the “scientific reason” for adults to ask children not to talk during meals. When I then asked my daughter, “We talk a lot when we eat, how come we never choke?” She said, “Because we just talk, we don’t laugh.” So that was it. For a long time we had actually confused the gap between talking and laughing, thinking that if a child talks and laughs while eating, he or she is in danger of dropping food down the windpipe, so it is better not to talk at all. 4. Requirements for teachers’ duties The main job of teachers when children eat is to guide, take care of, and serve. Guidance includes correcting the child’s posture in sitting and using utensils, whether he or she will eat one bite of rice and one bite of vegetables, and of course, whether he or she will talk while eating. Care includes making thin and picky children eat more and making obese children eat less. Service includes feeding the child, adding food, and collecting utensils. So the teacher will be seen walking around the classroom constantly while the child is eating. The above reasons for asking children not to talk during meals may seem reasonable, but if we really consider them from the child’s perspective, we will find that they largely ignore the child’s needs. Therefore, we should rethink the following issues. Is there an inevitable link between the amount of food eaten and the amount of nutrients consumed, and does the more a child eats, the more nutrients he or she will consume? Does the child have the ability to decide for himself or herself how much or how little to eat? Does a child’s occasional missing meal affect growth and development? Is the reason for the child’s slow eating related to talking or not talking? Does the child have the ability to take care of himself/herself during meals?