People usually use the discriminatory and irritating term “impotence” to define the condition of a man who lacks an erectile response in his genitals, and who, although sexually aroused, is unable to have or maintain an erection or has a weak erection, making it difficult for him to carry on or maintain a satisfactory sex life. Nowadays, however, the medical profession is more likely to use the proper medical term: erectile dysfunction. Many men have occasional erectile problems in their sexual history, but for others, perhaps very frequently, ED is highly prevalent and is the most serious and common male sexual dysfunction, with almost half of all men experiencing some stage of erectile dysfunction. In the past, because people rarely have normal channels to understand the knowledge of ED, so many people once the “erectile dysfunction” will simply think of impotence, and then carry a heavy burden of thought, affecting the normal family life, and gradually become withdrawn and easy to be irritable, thus affecting interpersonal relationships. Therefore, to correctly recognize and define impotence, it is necessary to recognize and understand the physiological mechanism of erection and the root cause of erectile dysfunction. First, the physiological mechanism of erection It is very strange that men have two different kinds of erection. One begins in the libido center of the brain and is called a psychogenic erection; the other depends on the stimulation of the penis itself and is called a reflexogenic erection. No one can say when a psychogenic erection occurs. But the younger a man is, the more likely he is to experience such an erection at what seems like the strangest time. Maybe you’ll experience it while reading a romance novel, maybe you’ll experience it while admiring an attractive woman, maybe you’ll experience it while watching a movie on TV, all it takes is some kind of flash of thought, some kind of brain association that strikes the center of his libido. An impulse then quickly travels from his nervous system to the lowest part of his spinal cord, where the erectile nerves are waiting. The erectile message travels along the nerves from the erectile nerve and stops at those arteries that carry blood into the body of the penis. As we all know, the penis is composed of spongy tissue, and between the arteries and veins in the cavernous body there exists a kind of arterial and venous traffic branching structure, next to the wall of this traffic branching tube, there are tiny muscle columns, usually do not receive erection information, these muscle columns will not contract, the lumen of the traffic branching tubes is open, and the arterial blood passes through the traffic branching tubes to enter the veins and flow away smoothly. If an erection is received, the muscle columns contract and the traffic lumen is closed, so that the arterial blood does not enter the veins, and a large amount of blood is stored in the storage area of the corpus cavernosum of the penis, and an erection is produced. During an erection occurring by reflex, the same series of vascular changes takes place in the man’s body, with the difference that the nerve impulses for such an erection bypass the brain. The erection signal is generated in the sensory nerves of the penis and travels to the erectile nerves in the spinal cord, which in turn pass through other nerves that instruct an erection. Second, the root cause of erectile dysfunction If the erectile information can not complete the mission from the erectile nerve along the nerve transmission, that is, the erection-related nerve, physiological reactions can not occur as usual, the penile spongy tissue will not be congested and swollen, the result will result in erectile dysfunction that is, ED. it can be seen, the main cause of ED is the individual’s sexual inadequacy caused by the most common factors that belong to the organic nature Performance in the following five aspects: 1, is trauma and physical disease caused by the central nervous system damage, resulting in the central nervous system and the penis between the connection blocked. For example, brain and spinal cord injury, multiple sclerosis, stroke, prostate and so on. 2, is caused by physiological diseases without enough blood flow into the penis, such as leukemia, anemia, diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, kidney disease, liver disease, it can also be caused by endocrine disorders or genitourinary disorders and so on. 3, is the influence of mental factors lead to muscle spasm and psychological tension to produce inhibition, the emergence of the period of inappropriateness. For example, fear, anxiety, tension and so on. 4, is the side effects of drugs may lead to ED. due to the prolongation of life expectancy per capita, the treatment of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, hypertension and other diseases of the widespread use of drugs, resulting in the incidence of ED is very common. For example, diuretics, anti-hypertensive drugs, cholesterol-lowering drugs, diabetes drugs, antidepressants and other drugs may cause frequent ED. 5, is the influence of age. People in the aging process, due to their own degenerative changes can make the whole body function decline, all kinds of organ function weakened and the number of cells reduce, which also includes sexual function decline. That is to say that old age is also an unavoidable factor causing ED. According to foreign statistics, men over 40 years of age suffer from varying degrees of ED proportion of 39%; over 50 years of age for 48%; over 60 years of age for 57%; over 70 years of age for 67%; and over 70 years of age, the incidence of severe is more than double the 40 to 50 years of age, in other words, over 40 years of age, may be 52% of the men suffering from ED! In other words, 52% of men over the age of 40 may suffer from ED, and there are at least 100 million men worldwide who suffer from varying degrees of ED. Third, the treatment of erectile dysfunction For most men who suffer from ED, it is treatable, and even if ED is very serious it is not life-threatening, but it does have a serious impact on the relationship between husband and wife, and undermines a man’s self-esteem. If your partner is unfortunate enough to suffer from persistent erection problems, you should learn to help encourage him to overcome (heal) his ED problem with enthusiasm, patience, love and warmth. Here to provide you with four kinds of therapy for you to help him reference. 1, cognitive therapy Cognitive therapy is a therapeutic method to gradually overcome ED by changing the patient’s poor perception of sexual activity. On the one hand, it is necessary to establish a love-based sexual relationship. ED is very common in sexually inexperienced men, and when he makes inappropriate confrontation with erection problems or doubts whether he is a “qualified” man, he will try to avoid having sex due to anxiety, and then the ED problem will become more and more serious. Overcome feelings of guilt and anticipation of failure. Guilt is a common feeling experienced by ED, it arises from the strict family discipline caused by the suppression of sexual desire, so men can not make love during sex to enjoy the joy of sex, if by chance in couples with ED, will produce or aggravate the feeling of guilt. In addition, most of the men with ED, the possible end of each sexual activity to produce a sense of anticipation, and sexual tension, worry or fear of failure is closely related to, if the couple life a failure and then a failure, couples will finally form a stereotyped thinking, as if they no matter what efforts to ultimately fail, so a vicious circle is formed, resulting in the persistence of ED. Therefore, to restore sexual function, we should correct these negative perceptions, let him know that ED is not a rare thing, not to mention the shameful scandal, which affects millions of men, not only is his own thing is more of a common thing for couples, do not have to feel guilty about it, so as to love to build up the confidence and determination that he can be cured. 2, behavioral therapy that is through the correct sexual behavior to eliminate ED anxiety about sexual behavior, so as to cure ED a treatment method. Sexual behavior anxiety is the most common cause of ED, men with ED, always worried about whether they can get an erection; if they can get an erection, and concerned about whether to maintain an erection during sex can reach a long enough time in order to make his wife get a more satisfactory sexual feelings. Other men with ED fear getting an erection because they believe it will cause their partner to expect, desire, or even demand sexual activity (these men are able to get an erection at will without any ED problems once they have been “forbidden” to have sex by their doctor). Thus, sexual behavioral anxiety is often associated with a lack of attention to one’s own pleasure and satisfaction, but simply to fulfill or satisfy the wife’s excessive sexual demands, sexual behavioral therapy aims to encourage men to behave “selfishly” when having sex, so that each other by the spontaneous love-induced libido, rather than simply for the partner’s sexual desire to disguise the need. Sexual behavior therapy is mainly the implementation of muscle relaxation techniques and systematic desensitization techniques, that is, under the guidance of the doctor, the ED patient to use the ability of the idea of their own whole body into a state of relaxation, and then the muscles are completely relaxed, the psychological also become calm, cooled down, and the fear and anxiety is completely suppressed, only after the desensitization, the spirit is in a state of relaxation, in order to cause the correct sexual awareness, sexual concepts, for the elimination of ED to provide the basis and prerequisites. The foundation and prerequisite for the elimination of ED. 3, sexy concentration therapy This method requires couples not to focus on the sexual organs, but to focus on the intimacy of the couple. Clinical psychologist Masters believes that when a person always pay attention to their own sex organs, there is bound to be a strong sense of anticipation, and this sense of anticipation leads to anxiety naturally inhibit the instinctive mechanism of sexual response. So sexy concentration therapy first requires the partner to carry out the non-genital sexy concentration training stage, ED couples can practice touching each other certain parts, but not touching the breasts and genital organs, focusing on the soft skin and body lines, new non-verbal communication and cause the perception of sexy organs, and then stimulate sexual desire. By touching each other, we can achieve sexual concentration, which is a way to improve body sensibility and arouse the natural sexual response, generally 1-3 weeks of training is appropriate. Then the reproductive organs sexy concentration training stage. The wife can touch him and his genitals, then stop, let the erection subside, then make him erect, and so on. At the same time should also encourage him to concentrate on pleasing his wife, so as to gradually distract him from the performance of his genitals, if the man with fear of looking at his genitals, then there will never be an erection, which is the same as looking at the kettle is always boiling water is a reason. A man’s strongest erectile response is when he wakes up in the morning, and stroking by a partner at this time often results in greater progress in treating ED. This is also useful for older couples, men with ED caused by diabetes and multiple sclerosis. If couples with 2 to 3 weeks of time for genital sex concentration training, and no erection or only weak erection, can also be taken with the combination of sexual fantasy approach to improve the man’s sexual receptivity, and this method can be very good to prevent distraction. 4, drug treatment In some cases, if the ED patients agree, a variety of drugs on erectile dysfunction will also help, such as the current fashion respected Van Eck, Xie Aili, Alida, etc., however, the use of drug therapy is best under the guidance of a doctor, otherwise it is impossible to guarantee that a drug can make him live “sex” happiness. The actual life of a person is not as good as the life of a person.