A female friend once asked me, you already have the premise of the object, if there is a rich and handsome to pursue you, than your other half handsome, rich, passionate, you go with or not with ta? Today, I want to use the same question to ask the screen in front of you. First of all, this question, some people will think it is a temptation, will be difficult, some people will think it is an opportunity to jump over, there are a few people will not think it is temptation. 1, temptation reflects the values of my readers big M, a handsome man, a girlfriend, he often encountered some women actively seeking him for dating or to WeChat, and are still good-looking women, and not lack of rich white women. I appreciate his point of view, he said: “Those women who know I have a girlfriend, but also to find me, on the one hand, they look down on me; on the other hand, they look down on themselves; on the other hand, the most critical, is the concept of love is distorted.” They despise me: meaning that sometimes some women take the color to tempt, but also some direct money status temptation, saying, you and I together can struggle less than ten years. This is insulting to men with high self-esteem. They look down on themselves: they have to feel that they have no chance of winning, how much they can not get, before they need to use sex and money to tempt the man they want? How worthless do you think you are, so you need to dig up others? Distorted view of love: knowing that others have girlfriends, but insist on digging, such a view of love, do not need to follow loyalty? Does such a person have a sense of loyalty? Even if they do get together, there is no possibility of hard feelings in the concept of love? 2, temptation reflects the problem of marriage If you think that the temptation in front of you, or even want to jump over, then you can reflect on your own love or marriage, is not what went wrong. Lack of love? Lack of sex? Or lack of money? Deeper, the reason why you think temptation is temptation, that corresponds to, what is missing in your heart? Married female reader K tells her inner struggle: “I really do not want to cheat, nor do I want to divorce, but when the other side appears, like sunshine. I needed that positive encouragement and guidance, and the man who appeared outside of the marriage, he gave me the sunshine I wanted. I know that there are things that I may be a little in the way than the instant gloomy atmosphere once I get home.” What K was missing inside was the kind of encouragement and being seen. She grew up with a lack of love and a strong sense of helplessness. With their own efforts, step by step towards the sun, but often by the mommy and daddy husband, a cold word, a second dragged into the abyss. She is deeply in a marital rut and cannot save herself, so there is an opportunity for outsiders to take advantage of. 3, the cost of accepting temptation Unmarried female reader Xiao L in the background about her inner confusion: the married man, I followed him for 5 years, at first he seduced me, I did not agree. Then he used his position to give me care, slowly I fell, this fall, is five years. Now he’s patting himself on the back and wants to turn around and return to his family, to break up with me. I want to give him a child, even without a name, but he said, “My money is with my wife, I really want to return to the family. Now it’s time to start acting like a moralist.” Little L struggled, gasping for breath, but in pain, unwilling to come out of the love she thought she was in. There is no definitive answer to how much it costs to accept temptation. And I don’t want to be an alarmist. A large number of real cases, tells us. The light is scared, a lie with ten sentences to round. Heavy is the wife and family, reputation is destroyed, and even blood. 4, the essence behind the temptation – to escape Extramarital affairs, whether the man cheating within the marriage or the woman cheating within the marriage, or the third party outside the marriage, are attempting to use such a form of extramarital affairs to meet their own temporary pleasure, to escape their own problems, to escape the problems within the marriage. Whether it’s just for sex, or both sex and care, both coincide in naming their escapist behavior. Trying to find the golden key to pleasure or even happiness in a new sexual or emotional situation. Just like when you were married to your significant other, didn’t you want to find the golden key to happiness with true love? The one who met him/her back then, and the one who met him/her outside of marriage now, is just a reincarnation again and again. In the TV series “My First Half Life”, we can see that after the affair turned positive, the ex-husband realized that the original affectionate, gentle and virtuous later, not really like the silly housewife ex-wife. If you do not go to fill their own inner absence, not actively make up for the original not easy marriage, then most likely just in the seemingly beautiful new relationship outside of marriage, repeat their own choice again and again, into the cycle again and again. To sum up: 1, the values reflected in the temptation They look down on me: meaning that sometimes some women take color to temptation, but also some direct money status temptation, saying, you and I together can struggle less than ten years. This is insulting to men with high self-esteem. They look down on themselves: they have to feel that they have no chance of winning, how much they can not get, before they need to use sex and money to tempt the man they want? How worthless do you think you are, so you need to dig up others? Distorted view of love: knowing that others have girlfriends, but insist on digging, such a view of love, do not need to follow loyalty? Does such a person have a sense of loyalty? Even if they do get together, there is no possibility of hard feelings in the concept of love? 2, temptation reflects the problem of marriage The reason why the temptation is considered temptation, that corresponds to, what is missing in your heart? 3, the cost of accepting temptation light is scared, a lie with ten sentences to round. The heavy is the wife and children, reputation is destroyed, and even blood. 4.The essence behind the temptation – escape