The Road to IVF: Giving Up is Worse than Persevering

  I started IVF with Dr. Fu in May 2012 for primary infertility, with file number I266. At first, the egg retrieval and transfer went smoothly (six frozen embryos in one retrieval, and the first transfer was successful after the hysteroscopy to improve the endometrial blood supply), but at two months, the ultrasound revealed that the fetus had stopped, and the uterus was cleared after the medical abortion. After three months of rest, I could continue the transplant.  However, after the clearance, I found that the previously normal thickness of the lining had become very thin and my menstrual flow had decreased a lot. Dr. Fu suggested me to have a hysteroscopy to improve the lining problem, so from March 2013 to March 2014, I had six hysteroscopies (three IUDs and three IUDs) in almost a year until Dr. Fu thought I could have another transplant. In fact, during this process, the thickness of the endometrium did not go up, and the adhesions in the uterine cavity were repeated. The long waiting time has seriously affected my confidence to persevere.  Dr. Fu and his assistant Dr. Xiao Zhu encouraged me during this process, told me the importance of insisting on hysteroscopic treatment, and patiently answered my various concerns, finally in May 2014, I had my second transplant. Unfortunately, this time the transfer was not successful, the test paper could not even detect a faint pink mark, and I only had my last two frozen embryos left. After the failure of the second transfer and the fact that I was already over 35 years old, I was even more depressed and when Dr. Fu suggested me to continue the transfer of the last two frozen embryos, I didn’t have any hope, thinking that I would give up after the transfer and retrieve my eggs again if I couldn’t succeed. After the transplant, I went to work and ate the same as usual, probably without any hope, and my mind was more peaceful, so when I got a pink mark on the test paper, I thought it was a miracle. Dr. Fu and Dr. Zhu were very happy for me at every visit, and Dr. Fu kept urging me to go for a cervical function check at 12 weeks, so it made me feel very warm that such a professional and high caliber doctor was so busy and still cared so much about his patients. On April 4 of this year, I delivered my 6 kg 7 2 baby girl at 41 weeks, finally fulfilling my dream of becoming a mother.  Here I would like to share some of my experiences with you, especially for sisters with thin lining like me: First, trust the doctor of your choice, believe that the doctor’s plan for you is the most suitable for your own situation, do not compare yourself with others, do not make your own arbitrary judgments and make up your own mind, this will not help the process of treatment, but only add to the trouble; Second, believe in yourself, have confidence in yourself, have peace of mind. The second is to believe in yourself, have confidence in yourself, put your mind at ease, do what you need to do, live your life as usual, travel when you have time to travel, and do not need to make deliberate changes in diet, you can actively exercise better, exercise can not only make your mood cheerful, enhance stress resistance, for the future process of pregnancy and childbirth is also very beneficial; third, do not need to be too smart patients, my personal approach may not necessarily be worth learning from, I I seldom communicate with other patients every time I see them, I do what Dr. Fu tells me to do, I seldom inquire about the results of my own ultrasound every time, why I use a certain protocol to transplant, what the values of the blood tests are about, I think doctors are professionals, I am ignorant in this area, and I only know a little bit of skin when I study it again, so I might as well just foolishly follow the requirements and wait patiently for a result.  Anyway, I am very grateful for the treatment I received from Dr. Fu over the past two years. Your professionalism, responsibility, open-mindedness and humor often gave me confidence and inspiration to regain my confidence after several times of frustration and persevere to the end. I hope all of you will trust your doctor, cooperate well, relax, and tell yourself to hang in there when it’s hardest, and maybe you’ll succeed next time.