Both men and women, the first night is always both curious and nervous, but by the influence of film and television dramas and novels described, most women are always worried that the first time will be particularly painful, nervous, fearful psychology has even completely replaced the good yearning for the first night. How much does it really hurt the first time? Why do you feel pain for the first time? Today, we will give you the answer. Painful intercourse in women is a mild or severe pain in the vulva, vaginal area or lower abdomen that occurs during intercourse when the penis is inserted into or pumped inside the vagina or after intercourse in the woman. The pain for the first time is the primary pain of intercourse, which is related to size mismatch, thick hymen, lack of foreplay, fear psychology, lack of sexual knowledge and other reasons. According to real feedback from the public, all have different degrees of pain for the first time, but the pain feeling varies greatly among individuals. Some women not only do not feel special pain, but also can feel pleasure in the process; while some women have the feeling that their lower body is torn, so painful that they can no longer carry on, and even have a fear of future sex, resistance to the psychology. If the pain is particularly pronounced, even to the extent that it is impossible to continue, it is a perverse situation, mostly caused by the following reasons: 1, size mismatch: women’s vagina is elastic, most women are about 8-12 cm deep in a normal state, and the depth increases by about 2.5 cm when sexually excited, and the width is twice as large. But if the man’s penis exceeds the degree of expansion of the woman’s vagina, or if the woman’s vagina is too narrow by nature, it will be difficult to adapt to each other. In this case, both partners will feel severe pain, and forced entry may also cause vaginal tears. 2. Thick hymen: The hymen, also known as the vaginal flap, is a folded membrane structure around the vaginal opening that tears during first intercourse and causes a little pain. In some cases, the hymen is accidentally torn before the first intercourse due to sports and so on. (But the fact is that the hymen has fewer blood vessels and nerves, so the tearing does not hurt much and does not necessarily result in bleeding, but is mostly painful because the vagina is opened or torn.) The shape of the hymen varies from person to person and can be ring-shaped, crescent-shaped, or sieve-shaped, but very few women have an atresia that prevents the penis from passing through, and forcing it through only causes severe pain and bleeding. This very thick and fibrous vaginal flap often requires medical intervention. 3. Lack of foreplay: Women who are having sex for the first time are usually more nervous and slower to become sexually aroused. If there is not enough foreplay to make the woman sexually aroused, in the case of vaginal secretion is very little “long drive”, it will be dry vagina, friction resistance and pain. 4, fear psychology: the first time sex tension, such as fear of pregnancy, fear of being found, the psychological burden of premarital sex, etc., will not be able to devote themselves to the vaginal wall muscle tightening, can not relax, and even vaginal spasm. This is when the man forcibly inserted, will certainly cause pain, but also leave a psychological shadow. 5, lack of sexual knowledge: If the first time to have sex with the male lack of knowledge of sex, the hands and feet lead to nervousness, the first time you want to immediately insert, violent thrusting, or can not find the position of haphazard, will lead to the woman pain. The first time it is not necessary to pain, as long as the following items, you can also reduce pain, eliminate fear, enjoy the pleasure of sex. 1, well prepared: clean water to wash the vulva, prepare condoms and lubricant, learn in advance the structure of the male and female reproductive system and technology, choose a private and safe environment, so that the tension relaxed; 2, foreplay is essential: the first time the woman inevitably relaxed, do not rough, and do not want to come up on direct intercourse, kissing, caressing, kneading and other foreplay can make the woman faster and better The vagina is lubricated, slowly into the natural pain is less; 3, put down the mental pressure: premarital sex is very normal behavior, want to have the first time is not shameful, your body by your own domination, so put down the “unchaste” psychological burden, no need to be nervous and afraid, honest and open, enjoy the moment The pleasure is natural and beautiful, and relaxing your body can significantly reduce the pain of the first night. 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