Impotence and premature ejaculation are very common diseases that seriously affect the quality of life. According to statistics, more than seventy percent of the causes of impotence and premature ejaculation are related to psychological factors. Therefore, psychological treatment is an indispensable part and should be carried out throughout the treatment. The following are the psychological prescriptions used for impotence and premature ejaculation treatment. 1, establish self-confidence Insufficient self-confidence: the main manifestation of lack of self-confidence is worrying about poor function for no reason and fearing that you cannot satisfy your wife. Unconfidence is a common cause of impotence and premature ejaculation. Especially when the woman is stronger than the man in terms of status and appearance, it is easier for men to develop an inferiority complex, leading to a lack of self-confidence, which can easily produce inexplicable tension during intercourse and lead to impotence and premature ejaculation. The lack of self-confidence is more or less related to the deep-rooted ‘patriarchal’ concept in the brain that only men are stronger than women is reasonable. I do not know that in this increasingly open society, many women have surpassed men in ability and social status, which is also the norm. In the future, there are bound to be many women, too, who will choose men who are inferior to them in certain aspects to form a family. In fact, most wives are successful in their careers and want to have a warm home and a man who loves them, in addition to their social achievements. Therefore, at this time, the only way for the man to put down the burden, more to care for the woman, so that the woman has a sense of belonging to the family in addition to work. There are many ways to build self-confidence, such as reading to enrich yourself, making friends, sports activities and travel, and so on. One thing that is also necessary is to be open and honest with your wife about your psychological concerns. Only when you open your heart can you build self-confidence. Only let the woman actually feel your love and warmth, in order to get your wife’s real care and respect, in order for you to gain self-confidence. Only by establishing self-confidence can you fully relax in the process of intercourse, your sexual function can play to the best level. 2, to have basic sexual knowledge Generally speaking, the psychological factors, more or less with the lack of sexual knowledge, with patients too worship of conjugal life has a relationship. Only to understand the basic knowledge of sexual life is not full of mystery. Therefore, it is important to read books about the anatomy of the reproductive organs and to have a preliminary understanding of male and female psychology and the normal process of conjugal life. At the same time, conjugal life is not innate, there is generally a process of adaptation and learning, harmonious conjugal life requires a period of time to grasp the structure to achieve. In the pre-marriage preparation stage from the books to learn carefully is very necessary. Only to eliminate the mystery, will be fully relaxed in the process of intercourse, will have a harmonious married life. 3, overcome the operational anxiety of sexual life Once the problem of impotence and premature ejaculation occurs, there is generally more or less operational anxiety of sexual life. The patient often in the past sexual life, due to impotence and premature ejaculation problems, resulting in a decline in the quality of sexual life, or even the couple’s life completely unsuccessful. Thereafter, whenever they have intercourse, they will have inexplicable anxiety in their hearts, worrying about erection failure or premature ejaculation. The more you worry about it, the more likely it is to contribute to impotence and premature ejaculation, which in turn causes sexual life failure. This kind of anxiety and worry whenever it comes to sex, which then causes and aggravates impotence and premature ejaculation is a typical manifestation of operation anxiety. The wife should not complain, but should take an attitude of tolerance and encouragement. As far as the male partner is concerned, increase the number of intercourse, and do not dwell on the quality of intercourse, focus on their own experience of sexual pleasure, and do not pay too much attention to the hardness and time of erection, and do not pay too much attention to the feelings of the female partner. Only when you are fully engaged in the experience of the process of intercourse, you will be able to relax completely. 4, eliminate guilt As impotence and premature ejaculation affect the quality of sexual life, not only do they not get a satisfactory sex life, the wife also has a sense of frustration. Whether or not the wife complains or blames, the husband will feel sorry for his wife and will have a sense of guilt. As the same room brings not pleasure but psychological anxiety, over time will feel that married life is tasteless, sexual desire is getting lower and lower, more and more do not want to live a married life, will consciously or unconsciously will find various excuses to avoid sex. So excessive guilt is not only unhelpful, but will also make sexual dysfunction worse. It is common to feel guilty about impotence and premature ejaculation, and it is not terrible to feel guilty about it. But most people tend to deal with it in the wrong way, not to mention with a positive attitude. Instead of taking on this guilt alone, it is better to tell your wife about your guilt and gain her sympathy and understanding, and her support will allow you to gain psychological relaxation and release of pressure. The reason why impotence and premature ejaculation is difficult to treat is often related to the fact that men do not know how to get the cooperation of their wives, whose cooperation and understanding is absolutely indispensable to treatment and recovery. Some male friends even conceal their wives from the doctor for fear that they will know, which is completely unnecessary and harmful to treatment and recovery. Marital life is never a one-person affair, so there are problems that need to be shared. The presence of impotence and premature ejaculation is frustrating for both parties. If this is not handled properly by the man, it often affects the relationship between the two parties. Because your wife does not know how you feel, there will be more or less misunderstanding about you. Some researchers have investigated couples where the male partner has sexual dysfunction and found that the female partner tends to think that the male is selfish at this point, that he only cares about his own satisfaction and lacks love and compassion, and that the male’s negative attitude often makes them feel angry. They prefer that men, even if they have problems with impotence and premature ejaculation, should be bold enough to take on the problem, face it positively and find ways to deal with it, rather than avoiding it. Therefore it is important for both men and women to understand each other’s thoughts and psychological state. Especially newlywed couples are more likely to have problems with their sex life due to inexperience, so it is more important for both sides to communicate more. Both sides should discuss openly and honestly the feelings in the process of intercourse, discuss the past successful experience, learn from the unsuccessful lessons. Only the two sides cooperate with each other, can get a harmonious sex life as soon as possible. 6, to establish a good psychological atmosphere of sex life In sex, to have a good and warm environment, and strive to be comfortable and safe, so that they can give full play to their functions and make up for their shortcomings. In the same room in the psychological state requires relaxed, happy, excited. It is best not to have sex if you are mentally and physically fatigued, in a bad mood, overburdened with psychological burden and unable to concentrate. Try not to have sex in clutter, noise and other environmental conditions. Having sex in a good atmosphere is an important factor that cannot be ignored to overcome psychogenic impotence.