Excessive tension when having sex can be treated by distraction, psychological counseling and taking medication. 1. Shift your attention: If you are nervous when you are having sex, you can relieve it by shifting your attention and not concentrating too much on your mind. At the same time, both husband and wife should strengthen the cooperation, more physical contact, so as to ease the nervousness during sex. 2. Psychological counseling: If the patient has a long-term situation of excessive tension during sexual life, we should go to the hospital to do a professional psychological assessment, and if necessary, we can go to the psychological department of the hospital for psychological implied treatment. 3. taking drugs: if sexual tension leads to premature ejaculation and other symptoms, you can take under the guidance of the doctor, such as dapoxetine, sertraline, vardenafil, etc. for treatment. When there is sexual tension, do not be difficult to talk about it, but go to the hospital in time for examination, so as not to affect the quality of sexual life.