There are a lot of great parents who are awesome and they have an innate ability to always deal with their children with the right attitude and approach. This great ability, in my opinion, has nothing to do with education, but is entirely the result of the good environment they grew up in. What is the upbringing mentioned here? It is the attitude of the parents towards each other, the attitude of the parents towards their children, the attitude of the parents towards problems, the attitude of the parents towards the world. It cannot be said that this kind of family is perfect. In fact, such parents and children always have some regrets. For example, they are very unsure about certain things, and they still have personal biases about certain things, but what’s the point? The main thing is that their attitude largely determines the happiness and value of the next generation, not their perceptions. The reason why I want to say this conclusion is that I have studied the growth of many children, the state and the family environment to come to such an avenue to a simple conclusion. The other educational philosophy or the law of growth, in front of this good attitude, the power of the role seems very pale. Yes, people live where so many ideas, each other have a good attitude, there will be emotions between people, will cherish each other, there will be no harm. Scene 1: Getting up In a family, there is a first-grader who doesn’t want to get up every morning. As a mother, she always wants to get up a little early, she finishes grooming herself, and then she calls the child to get up. After 10 minutes, she comes back and finds that her child is still not up, so she says, “Get up, you’ll be late if you don’t get up again! The mother took a look at the time, I’m afraid it’s going to be late, so she pulled the child up, and then hurriedly put the clothes on the child, and then put on while nagging: told you to go to bed early you do not listen, will be late soon, said how many times also do not listen. The same family, the same child, still does not want to get up. As a father, always get up a little early, own three, get their own things done, and then watch the time, gently shake the child awake, saying: baby, good morning …… sometimes, this child will not be able to open their eyes, sometimes will be ambiguous to say: Dad good morning, and then fall back to sleep. Dad whispered in his ear: I have a secret to tell you, in another 10 minutes you will have to get up, you can still sleep for 10 minutes. Dad goes to prepare breakfast, returns to the bed in 10 minutes, picks the child up, gives him a formal hug, and tells him his clothes are by the bed. Then he says, “I hope you are dressed and finished washing your face and rinsing your mouth in 15 minutes, and then goes to set up breakfast. Ten minutes later, the child made it to the table and started breakfast. Scenario 2: Homework The same family has a child who doesn’t want to do homework every day. The mother is also quite busy, and as soon as she comes home, she calls the child to do her homework, and after that, she goes off to do something she doesn’t know what to do. After a while, she asks her child loudly in the kitchen if she has done her homework. At first the child would say: I will do it later. After a few times, the child doesn’t bother to answer and continues to play with his blocks and draw his pictures. The mother would get angry and come over and say, “Do your homework right now. The child says, “I still want to play for a while. This kind of talk always angers the mother, “I tell you, today you do not hurry to do the homework, tomorrow the teacher to collect homework, see how you do!” Then she slammed the door and left. Half an hour later, back to business as usual, I will not say much later. The same family, every day the children do not want to write homework, the father is also quite busy, but after the child came home, the father will not let the child immediately write homework, but said, you first play 20 minutes, and then write homework. The child excitedly ran to play blocks, 10 minutes later, the father came to remind the child that you still have 10 minutes to play, then you have to write homework. 10 minutes later, the father went over to see, the child is still playing, said, come, we should write homework, stop your work at hand. The child said, “Dad, you wait, I’ll build this building and come, Dad agreed. Dad waited for the child to finish the task at hand, led him away from the toy place, came to the desk and asked the child, do you plan to finish language or math first, and the child made a choice. Although the child still can’t hear the alarm clock and get up, although the child still doesn’t want to come home and initiate homework. But what will the future look like? I believe that if it is always Dad who manages this child, sooner or later this child will finish his work on his own, probably in middle grade, upper grade, or even second grade in middle school. What does it matter if it’s sooner or later? That time will come sooner or later! If the mother continues to bring up the child in the same way, how will the child develop? The child will still play, and the child will find ways to escape mom’s reprimands —– Of course, this is only the elementary school level. After junior high school, the child need not be afraid of the mother anymore, and may fight back with words, behaviors, or even excesses —— How will the child treat his or her loved ones and children in the future? What will be the state of existence and happiness of the people around the child? Without saying, I think we can guess. This is the power of attitude. If we must give this good attitude to some educational concept, we can look at the problem like this. Dad allows the child to play for 20 minutes first, this is to give the child the space to play and respect the child’s growth. Dad reminded the child 10 minutes in advance, is to let the child have a mental preparation in advance, not to face at once do not want to do things conflict. When the time is up, dad still agrees with the child to finish the work in hand, is to respect the success of the child’s labor and tolerate the child’s inability to do it immediately. By finally leading the child to the desk and asking him to choose what to do first, instead of repeatedly saying, now it’s time for you to do your homework, not to mention warning him to finish it properly, the dad is giving the child the opportunity to choose, while not pressuring him to make him fearful. With time management, the opportunity to choose, an attitude of respect, tolerance, and not passing on fear, I truly believe that this child is in a much, much better state than another parenting style would bring, and the child’s mindset, sense of security, responsibility, and motivational transfer would be very, very good. Raising a child means treating the child as a human being, you have no right to control him, you have no right to intimidate him, you only have the obligation to help them do well and treat them with the attitude that a human being should have.