The main factor affecting a child’s performance is not the school, but the family. If there is a problem with home education, the child may have a harder time at school, and the child is likely to become a “problem child” at school. Don’t be a knowledgeable but uneducated parent. Some people are highly educated, but not necessarily literate. If a parent does not know how to live and treat others well, or even treat their own children well, they are uneducated, no matter how high their academic level is. The relationship between husband and wife affects the character of the child. A man who does not respect his wife, his son learns to disrespect his female classmates at school. If a woman does not respect her husband, her daughter learns to despise her male classmates at school. Education is about nurturing the spiritual growth of people. The mission of parents and teachers is to make children gradually responsible for their own spiritual appearance, to remove all kinds of dirt that may be contaminated, and to cultivate the spiritual “seeds” in people, so that they can breathe high mountain air and raise their eyebrows. The cultivated parent is a “Voltairean”, “I don’t agree with you, but I defend to the death your right to speak”. They start reasoning with their children from the day they are born and patiently ask their children for their opinions. Don’t expect that scolding your child will teach him or her to obey. The result of killing the chicken for the monkey is that the monkey learns to kill the chicken too. Let your child become both a passionate and a reasonable person. “Without passion, no great work can begin well, and without reason, no feat can end well.” Let your children become educated, and being educated starts with being punctual, standing in line, not talking loudly in public, and not getting angry easily. Be generous. If your child is more generous, please don’t laugh at his weaknesses. The person who likes to take small advantages often suffers big losses because he is disliked by others. The person who is willing to take small losses will take big losses in the future, because he is liked by others. Physical vitality can bring spiritual vitality. A person with good health has a sunny personality. Those who are not in good health are hesitant, evasive and stammering. Do three things with your child regularly: first, eat meals with your child, second, invite your child to repair toys, furniture or clothes together, and occasionally invite your child to help with a work problem. Third, read stories to your child and invite him or her to tell them themselves. If there are no special difficulties, it is best for parents to rush home and eat meals with their children every day. Shared family values are established as the whole family eats around the same table. Reading stories to children and inviting them to tell their own stories allows children to build reading and writing habits from listening to stories, so that they can learn to read independently and develop lifelong reading habits early on. “As long as one is still reading, one is not totally depraved; a totally depraved person is one who does not read.” Parents who never tell stories to their children are irresponsible parents. There are three critical periods in a child’s development: the first around age 3, the second around age 9, and the third around age 13. If you miss the critical period of growth, the consequences are endless. Your child must learn to interact with others and happily accept little ones. “If parents are unhappy with their neighbors and are very critical of their children’s little ones, or don’t let their children make friends with them and make them feel as if they are very different from others, it will be very difficult for these children to grow up to get along naturally with anyone. Children need peers to grow up. Let your child have his or her own friends, but not too many messy ones, and be wary of your child picking up bad peer habits before he or she has developed a mature sense of reason and judgment. Let your child establish a healthy aesthetic as early as possible. Promising males are sure to like healthy females. Don’t let your child’s aesthetic fall into a low, morbid state. Don’t assume that small, sickly, is good. Do not think that the powerful, are bad. Don’t think that little sparrows, sheep, and puppies are all cute, and don’t think that lions, tigers, and wolves are all bad. Don’t think that jackals and wolves are all cannibals. Jackals and wolves only eat those who are weaker than them. The Catcher in the Rye contributed a word to the world: watchfulness. Education is not about managing or not managing. There is a word called “watchfulness” between control and indifference.