At the end of the vacation, is the scene of bear children staying up late to catch up on homework fresh in your mind? Every before the start of school to go through a manic night, not less than a cliché counting and education. In fact, not to mention children, adults are the same. Have you ever vowed to be strong and beautiful, but a gym card can not go twice a month? Have you ever always put off the task again and again, give yourself a lot of reasons, until the deadline is approaching overtime or even stay up all night to barely complete? Do you have lots of positive ideas and visions, such as learning a language or a musical instrument, that are never more than an idea and are abandoned before they reach the stage of formal preparation? Do you often don’t go shopping for presents for your kids or girlfriend until the day before or on Christmas? Do you often say to yourself, I’m not doing well enough at the moment because I’m not working hard enough, not because I’m not smart? Why is it that the ideal version of yourself, the one who has everything organized and executed perfectly, never comes? Why is it always so hard and heavy to take the first step? Procrastination is essentially this: the desire to delay suffering. Procrastinators like to constantly find distractions, such as checking email, playing a game to relax, taking a nap to rejuvenate, tidying up their room or computer, and such things become a way to regulate their emotions, delay pain, and avoid failure. You might say to yourself, I need everything to be ready to do something. I have to shower, do my laundry, and clean my desk before I can start working; I have to finish answering my emails before I can get into the groove, and I have to wait for my kids to fall asleep before I can work in peace and be done with a clean slate. In fact, there is never a perfect state of the moment, you can start at any time. You can start at any time. You should know that not a single mistake, not a single flaw in the “everything is ready” state does not exist, you may just be looking for a reason to delay doing things you do not want to do. Procrastination can also be a form of resistance, so be aware that it stems from resistance and hostility. For example: this teacher is a terrible teacher, so I’m not happy about doing the homework he assigns. In the home environment, some parents have a habit of rushing their children, get up, eat, go to school, do homework, go to bed! In the long run, these responsibilities that should belong to the children themselves are carried out by the parents instead, and it is easy for the children to lose their initiative and become procrastinating and passive. Sometimes a child wants to have his/her own will, and will mistake the notion of doing the opposite of parental instructions as his/her own will, so he/she does everything slowly at home, but everything is fine at school. The subconscious mind may be: there is no use for you to hurry, there is no use for you to rush me, I will naturally start to do it when I am ready. In the face of this situation, we need to let the child realize that it is he or she who suffers if he or she does not complete his or her homework or does not live a regular life; in addition, parents need to trust their children’s ability to manage their own life and learning, and return the right of autonomy to the child. Procrastination always manifests itself in small ways, but over time, it can have an impact on personal development. When “procrastination” becomes more and more serious, it will affect the emotions, such as the emergence of strong self-reproach, strong guilt, constant self-denial, self-depreciation, and may be accompanied by anxiety, depression and other psychological disorders, which need to be taken seriously, and timely medical treatment.